If you've been screwing up the courage to make a move on this guy, it might be time to put on some strappy boots and nail the sucker down. I'm not saying he'll definitely go for rival girl--if he's not interested in her, he's not interested in her--but MAN do guys love attention from women. It's the ego equivalent of a corticosteroid injection to the base of the spine, which, for the record, is incredible.
You see, for all the bitching we'll do a month or a year down the road about navigating the complex web of our inner child and giving us the space to explore the country of ourselves (ie, play video games and get drunk with our buddies), we'll lap up attention from a strange new woman like a cat with a saucer of milk that is also complimenting us on our physique.
On the plus side, this means that if a guy's even mildly attracted to you, lavishing attention on him is pretty much guaranteed to be a good move. Guys usually don't start to feel "smothered" until you're officially boyfriend and girlfriend (in fact, usually right at that instant). Unfortunately, it also means that guy you've been crushing on all year could easily be poached by another girl who's willing to flirt shamelessly.
Why do you think womens' fashion and makeup are billion dollar industries, while my entire wardrobe cost less than a KFC Family Meal? Y'all are the peacocks; we're kids wandering through a candy store looking at all of the pretty colors.
I concur. There's been plenty of times where I've found myself attracted to a girl I barely even noticed before, just because she had the confidence to spark up a conversation. Especially when she's made me laugh. It works both ways, though; there's been as many 'hot' women who just weren't particularly interesting to talk to. Boring.
In any case, good conversation and flirtatious women make us happy, deep in our emotions. So, if you like this guy, step up! Women who talk to us are always in with a shot over those that don't. We men are easily manipulated by your feminine wiles.
This answer is right on. When guys get comfortable with something it loses it's edge. Usually we want new and exciting things, which unfortunately leads to affairs and all that ugly stuff, but not always (which is also why we run out to buy the latest electronics and power tools ).
I'm confused now; the other day Mystery Man suggested that the way to a guys heart is ignoring the crap out of him, now you Swaim are saying that one should shamelessly flirt. What should one do to win over the heart of a (high school) boy?!
That being what I'd like to know. Maybe then I'd have some clue weather my friend who says "he totally likes you!!" is just too much of a hopeless romantic or there's actually a chance.
I would say that the Mystery Man has a point insofar as if you really want to drive a guy who'se ALREADY into you nuts, ignore him. It's a great way (assuming you're the type who likes to play games and torture your men) to make a boyfriend really miss you or convince a dating partner that he needs to start paying more attention to getting you committed to him. But he has to know you exist, and be attracted to you, for that tactic to really work. I mean, do you really think ignoring a guy who doesn't know you will somehow magically result in you two getting together? That only happens if you're smoking hot, and if you're smoking hot you could pay attention to him, ignore him, or stand on your head and sing I Am The Walrus, and they'd all have the same basic effect.
peacocking. what a wonderful phrase. what a wonderful pick up line i might add. i was once sitting at a bar and someone came up beside me to order a drink. a significant amount of time went by and the bartender paid no mind. so i lean over and say 'you should peacock.' he gave me the classic 'wtf are you talking about?' look, but it lead to a 3 hour conversation about the economy, buying american, family structure, politics, religion, what have you! you know, things you're not supposed to talk about on a first date. he recently confessed to me that me approaching him (and not the other way around) really sparked his interest. best 'line' i've ever used.
Yes some guys like girls that are forward and make the move but they also might like them for one thing.. purely sexual ! Just be yourself and don't worry about this other girl. If this guys is a good guy, then it will work out. If it doesnt, then you dont' want him anyway.