Right or wrong implies that there is some overarching law governing text message decorum. While there should be, according to the US Constitution and the Birthers, there are none.
However, what you were doing - setting a precedent for what is acceptable behavior- is totally fine. You don't want to start dating a dude who thinks its okay to call and make requests at any time of night or send you a random text at 3am.
Then again, it's a text. If you think its too late, then just don't respond until a more appropriate hour, which then harkens to...what is an appropriate time to send a text message? Like why don't you want him texting you too late. It would be one thing if he texted you asking you to come through at 4am. While I'm fairly sure that's a pretty commonplace occurrence nowadays, I can see why that might not tickle your fancy.
But just a joke text? And you are upset about it? I mean, to each his own. If you don't want to get texts past midnight, then that's your prerogative. But you don't even have to respond to texts right away. I don't know, to me it's just not that big of a deal, but for you, that may be different.
Again, set your rules. That's fine. There is nothing wrong with that. But realize, that everybody else doesn't view things that way.
I’m with her on this. I had a guy send me texts in the middle of the night. The next morning I would reply, “I just got your text…..” He kept it up to no end. (even after I asked him politely to wait until the morning) I ended up bouncing him because I felt that he just didn’t respect my schedule or much needed sleep.
I'm sorry, but this makes no sense to me...at all.
If I have something I really want to say to someone in the middle of the night, and feel like I might forget, that's WHY I'll send a text, rather than calling! I can see why calling someone at 2 am would be extremely annoying/rude, but a text? Can't you just leave your phone on silent if the noise is what you're worried about? I just don't understand. That's what's so great about having the option to text in the first place. If you don't want to answer, then wait until morning! He's not going to be completely oblivious to the fact that you might be asleep and not respond for a few hours.
But whatever...if you INSIST that it's "unacceptable", then why don't you just tell him? Not responding just says "I'm asleep" or "I take a while to respond to texts". He's probably not a clairvoyant and isn't going to magically figure out that you think it's rude, especially since, as far as I'm concerned, that is not a common opinion. (Why do so many women think that giving a guy the cold shoulder accomplishes anything?)
Yeah, what M said. Turn the phone on silent before you go to bed. Back when I used to have a phone my drunk friends were always sending texts. What killed me were the forwarding texts. Those were the ones I bitched about. Don't send me that bullshit. Otherwise just put it on silent.
Thanks, girl's bff for answering the question so quickly. I wasn't upset or offended by his late night text, but, like you said, I wanted to set the standards by not replying rather than flat out tell him and maybe feel presumptuous.
Guys who have text late in the past, in my experience, usually just want to hook up. Next time, I'll respond in the "right" time :)
I have a problem with getting text messages late at night, at least when I was working as on on-call substitute teacher. I couldn't turn my phone on silent because I'd need to hear it ring with sub jobs (because really, who wants to wake up at 5:30 just in case they MIGHT need to go to work?) in the morning. And I go so used to the phone calls waking me up that the first time noise/vibrate it made would wake me up.
When is the appropriate time of night to mail a letter?
He had just gotten you're number that night?...as in you just met him? Why on earth would you want to text someone you just met (and want to make a good impression on?) I could see if you knew each other...but a total stranger....for a joke....he seems like a weirdo...
Maybe you made a good impression on him, and were on his mind even after you left the bar. So, instead of being all serious, he sent you a funny txt to let you know you were on his mind. I would actually take it as a compliment, that even though we just met, he wanted to txt me so soon :)