This is retarded. So any guy that is honest about the fact that they, at one point or another, has had sex with another guy will undoubtedly cheat on their partners AND will eventually "go gay?"

This is the biggest load of tripe i've ever heard. First off, just because this guy has slept with men doesn't mean he's bisexual. It means he sometimes (whether in the past or not) enjoys having sex with other men. If he cannot see himself emotionally involved with a man, then he is neither bisexual or gay. By saying that he "prefers women" he is probably just saying that he can enjoy homosexual sex, but only has interest in being with a woman emotionally.

That is COMPLETELY VALID. DEAL WITH IT.

What a homophobic, biphobic, and androphobic response. Some bisexuals are perfectly fine being monogamous (and some heterosexuals are not). Some people are bicurious and realize that curiosity was all it was and they're not that into it, or they liked it but don't like it as much as heterosexual activity, or any number of other responses. "Experimented' doesn't mean he doesn't think it's sex (or wouldn't be cheating if he was in a relationship); it may mean he tried it because he didn't know if he would like it. You know, experimented.

Far more straight people make the claims that homosexual sex "doesn't count" than bisexuals. I see it a lot more when talking about female/female sex, but I've seen it about male/male sex. *If* your guy is bisexual, or somewhat bisexual, it does NOT mean that he is going to cheat. If you're a straight girl, you've probably been attracted to more than one man in your life, right? Maybe you've been attracted to a short guy and a tall guy, guys of different hair colors, guys of different races, etc. Does that mean that if you're sometimes attracted to blonde guys but in a relationship with a redhead that you're going to cheat? Of course not.

Thank your guy for his honesty and in trusting you to not be bigoted, and if you're worried about it, let him know exactly where your boundaries are in your monogamy. He opened up about his past. You opening up and saying "I just want to make sure you know I consider making out/fooling around/having sex with men to be the same as with other girls."

I think mystery man got it right...I am MARRIED to someone who just recently admitted to "experimenting" in the past and I was floored! THIS would have been great to know before I married someone I was deeply in love with and had his two sons...
I am not homophobic at all, I've had a girlfriend before and do not consider myself gay, bi or whatever. Bottom line is HE knew this and had a choice....I didn't and felt betrayed. And I found all of this out because he forgot to clean off gay porn sites on the computer! How is it fair to say its okay for someone to like homosexual sex and want the woman for the emotional relationship?! He tried to pull that one on me as well. NO, its not fair, I need to be wanted, not just his buddy...so those "experimental" men are gay. Thank you mystery man.
IF you enjoy homosexual sex, then fine...but don't pretend to be something you are not. Just because YOU are not comfortable with your own sexuality does NOT make it okay to fool someone else into believing she could spend the rest of HER life with you...

i am so sorry sammydoll, but i just can't understand how having sex with another man, but being attracted to women aswell does not classify a person as bisexual? seems to me as though this person was sexually responsive to *both* sexes. i understand how restricting labels can be, but since you are using one, i can't help but be baffled by your definition. what does constitute as bisexual?

anyway, generally speaking i think MM can be a jerk and though his answers may be honest they can be unnecassarily harsh. however, with this specific response i do agree to a certain extent. I am not saying this man will eventually "go gay" or what have you, but i do feel as though there is some truth in the experimenting vs. cheating. couldn't he have said in the past he has been with both men and women but prefers women, and prefers the young lady he is with right now so that should never be a concern? MAJOR points for his honesty. and if he makes you happy and you trust him, that is awesome for you.

personally, i could not see myself being in a serious monagamous relationship with someone who is attracted to both sexes (i think i would feel this way regardless of if i was male or female) simply because, excuse me if i come off as closeminded or naive,but i feel like i have double the competition. its hard enough dealing with all the women that my man may find attractive, and oggles, and what have you. but i have to deal with that, he's a hetersexual male for Chrissakes! but to subject myself to be with a man who is attracted to both sexes is not something i would willingly do. i can say "wow, that guys is hot" and in the back of my mind wonder if my partner is thinking the same thing? no, thanks. i want my man to be all about me, my lady parts, all about my being all the woman that he needs...that is just my bias and my opinion, i guess. but to each their own.

He's telling the truth, like it or not. Her boyfriend is probably gay, but not ready to come out with it. And yes, it's true that sometimes men who aren't quite sure about their sexuality, don't consider this cheating. It dosn't mean that he will cheat on her, it's more of a "what if" scenario.

I don't know if I agree with this. I LOVE lesbian porn but when I actually tried sex with a women I couldn't get into it. I prefer a man. Sometimes the fantasy is better than the reality.

I don't know if I agree with MM. I love lesbian porn and wanted to experiment a bit but I couldn't get into sex with women. I prefer men for anything IRL. Sometimes the fantasy is better than the reality.

My BF of 7 months revealed to me he had sex with 3 men on different occasions in the past. Believe it or not I wad turned on by that fact, but Aldo found myself s lil worried ad to whether he was gay and u might not be able to satisfy him. Aldo was worried about AIDS. Yes anyone can get it gay or straight but it's certainly mire prevalent in gay communities. At any rate we had a nice talk about it and he exaonex to me he enjoyed in the past bc it was taboo and exciting but that he loves women and could never be with a man IAR. We gave an incredible sex life and both sexual ppl and agree that homosexual sex can be exciting for straight ppl. Heck I would have probably slept with womena few times if I pursued it. But I'm not gay just like sex. But what matters is that we both are monogamous and have a beautiful relationship and both admit we are having the best sex we've ever had in our life. Your BF is probably not gay and probably not cheating on you. Commend him for sharing this with you and don't be afraid to talk about it and explain your fears.

None of you fucking people defending bisexuals as monogamous would only say so because you've never been in a relationship with one. Bisexuality is just that, wanting both sexes. A bisexual man or woman will never be fully satisfied with one or the other, and the lure of the opposite will always come into play, always, always, always. They make the worst partners because they perpetuate the cardinal sin of not committing to you 100%, always dreaming of that vagina in the back of their mind as they're making love to a man, or that penis and male buttocks when they're making love to a woman. For me, bisexuality is a form of sexual immaturity. Eventually, as in all mature relationships, you have got to commit yourself to anther person. Trust me, I can tell you from experience that they're the worst relationships you'll ever encounter. Steer clear of them if you want anything resembling anything outside of a relationship with the most latitude for him/or her imaginable. They'll drive you nuts. And the first responder is absolutely right: they don't see what they are doing as wrong, not merely because they are experimenting but because their orientation has been exalted to augment the gay community. A bisexual male or female who languishes in that disposition for their entire lives without making a commitment to that which he or she prefers is nothing short of a cultural degenerate. Keep them the eff away from me is all I'm saying. I've had enough of them for a lifetime.

I have to say, every bisexual guy I have ever known eventually went gay. I have met guys that claim to be bisexual, but they have really only dated men and have sex with women very seldom. I think one could argue that they probably prefer men, and are just in denial. It's hard to say, because I'm a very heterosexual female.

I asked my husband about experimenting with guys ( I think it is fairly common for women to experiment with women and was curious about men experimenting) and he said hell no and if a guy really had he probably would never tell anyone.

Notabigot thankyou my bf admitted to letting gay guys go down on him in highschool regardless i think that shit is gay as hell why would u ever have the urge to b with another man in anyway??!!! They like it cuz point blank simple they r attracted to men hands down.....he messed my head Up