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This guy Im dating has never made breakfast for me in the mornings. I think he just expects me to leave when I wake up. Is that a bad sign or is morning breakfast just a cliché?

Have you made breakfast for him? From the sounds of it, since he just expects you up and leave it doesn't sound like anybody is getting breakfast.

So why is he on the hook for it but you aren't? Sounds like a case of misplaced expectations.

And no, it's not a bad sign. Have you told him that you might like breakfast in the morning or are you just expecting him to get up and do it because that's what "real men" do for their women?

Breakfast in the morning isn't a cliche either. It happens for lots of men and women. But I'm fairly certain that nobody feels entitled to it as you seem to feel. Here's the other thing...does HE even eat breakfast in the morning? Reason I'm asking is because if he does and doesn't make any for you, well he's a douche. But if he's not making it period, then perhaps he just doesn't do breakfast in the morning either. Maybe he eats at work. Maybe he just snacks. Who knows.

Perhaps you should just ask him.

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When I'm at my boyfriends he doesn't usually 'make' breakfast. He's a cereal eater, but he always asks me if I want a bowl too. For me, the bigger thing is coffee. He's usually out of bed quicker than I am, and no matter what we're doing that day, or if I have to leave in ten minutes, there's a cup of coffee on the counter for me when I walk out of his room. Sometimes if we have time I'll suggest that I make us some pancakes or fritters if we have the time for it. When he's at my place I always make us coffee first thing as well. And I used to make a big breakfast almost every time, but it turns out he'd usually prefer cereal, so I'll make a bi breakfast if the mood strikes me, but mostly I just make sure there's milk and cereal for him.

I do think there's something to eating breakfast together, even if it's just a quick coffee on the patio with morning cigarettes. It's kind of intimate, and says I want to see you outside of my bedroom. Not that it might not have been a one night stand, or you're in a relationship where it's obvious that they want to see you, but I think a lot of us want to feel like we're being let into his morning routine. It makes us feel wanted.

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PJ, you skipped right over the part where she said she feels he wants her to leave when she wakes up. If she feels that way, it may be true. The guy can give her a Pop Tart for Christ’s sake…

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Well, I do believe it is kind of rude that he just expects her to leave without even offering her a cup of coffee, a pop tart lol, or some orange juice at least.
Specially if he's never done that for her. It may not be a bad sign but it says a lot.

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Yeah, how bout the issue that they are "dating", but he expects her to just leave when she wakes up?

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agreed, if I was dating someone who wanted me to leave in the morning I wouldn't consider it dating, but that he's using me for sex. Even when I had flings and was only make-out buddies with a guy he at least acted like he wanted to spend time with me and would make me meals.

even if they weren't dating and he DID want her to leave it's common courtesy as a host to at least offer coffee, a bagel or something simple to have on the way out! doesn't matter if he's not a breakfast person, I'm not a snacker but I always offer people who come over snacks and food. if you step in my door I'm going to AT LEAST offer you a drink and a snack, if you refuse, that's your business but it should be offered.

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