Why do you choose to see him? You know my Neanderthal views on cheating, and YOU are the married one. He is just a single horndog.
No, I ain't gonna make you feel better about it. You decide who is more important. Your husband, whom I assume you married for a reason, or the guy that scratches your itch.
This has to be a joke. Why does HE sleep with me??!! um, hello, unless he is raping you, YOU are choosing to sleep with him too. It makes me so sad to hear women talk like this. Stop acting like you are just a hole to be f*cked.
But she IS just a hole to be f*cked!
"this guy keeps sleeping with me"....
1. because you have no choice in the matter? seriously? way to own up to the fact that you are CHEATING ON YOUR HUSBAND. Take some responsibility for your (really terrible) choices and grow up.
and 2. he's not "seeing" you. you're married and it's just sex... why would he quit that?
Again, I don't understand why some women insist they are "victims" during consensual sex (not talking about rape of course)!
I have to wonder if this is even a real or serious question, it's so blatantly retarded.
The other commenters said it right; own up to your decisions, your adultery.
I am not going to blame the guy in this case. Sorry.
But the guy is NOT innocent either. After a year together, he has to know about her husband.
The guy's innocence has no bearing on the answer for the questioner.
Which has no relevance to his blamelessness or not...
i am on the fence with this part of it. had a huge row this weekend with one of my girlfriends who is sleeping with someone else's husband. wanted to shake her. yes, the dude here is not without blame, in the context of this question, or element of the situation though, he's not really the one at fault. i think she is seeking a way to make it his fault, but in this question no.
YOU DUMB HEARTLESS BITCH... YOU SHOULD DIVORCE YOUR HUSBAND HE DESERVES A REAL WOMAN..
I think Formerly is on the right track with the second part of her comment.
The phrasing is odd, but I think this question is less about the asker's blame in this or trying to avoid responsibility for cheating and more about why he keeps coming back when she's "clearly" (*cough cough*) unavailable. She's hoping the answer is, because he's so crazy in love with her that he's waiting for her to leave her husband for him, or something along those lines. When in reality, it's because this is a no strings attached situation, she can't commit to him or demand commitment from him when she's already committed to a husband. He has his cake and is eating her too.
Marriage can be wonderful. Not everyone cheats. If the single guy has any sense, it's just sex...
Cheating while you are married is exactly cutting your nose off to spite your face. If you don't want to be married anymore - end it. Otherwise nothing you say or do means anything. Say you fell in love with Mr. Single Guy and made love to him - so what! you already vowed to love someone else forever. Your word is suspect and he certainly knows it.
ARRRGHHH!!!! GRRRR!!!! UGGGG!!!! GAAAAAWD!!!!
*seriously trying my best not to break my laptop over someone's head right now*
MM, how could you sleep at night getting this kind of questions?!
ARRRGHHH!!!! GRRRR!!!! UGGGG!!!! GAAAAAWD!!!!
oh i messed this up in my FB comment on this, blame that on the caffeine drip not fully injected yet. sorry about that. i'm sure this is a real question, some people are really that entitled and self involved and f*&%ing stupid i might add. this woman can not be helped. if her husband found out, i am sure she would turn it around some way. she has absolutely no accountability here, no ownership over her own choices. trust can not be rebuilt without that, and even if her husband never finds out, the trust needs to be rebuilt. the marriage is done. if not today over this, it will be tomorrow over something else. unless her husband is completely spineless. but my call is that once this single rich guy is done with her, she's just gonna find someone else to fill his place and it will catch up to her eventually. nobody gets away with that kind of attitude for forever. the thing that pisses me off about women like this is that they make the job for us nice girls that much harder when it comes to dating. i feel for the girl who will end up dating her husband if they do end in divorce, she is going to have to undo some serious trust damage caused by someone else. ugh. if you are reading this dear homewrecker, you should be ashamed of yourself.
I can just imagine the dialogue in this woman's head.. 'This guy keeps sleeping with me! WHY? What's wrong with him? I'm married! He's such an awful, horrible man, wanting to keep sleeping with a married woman like that! He should be ashamed, and frankly, stop doing it'
Ohhhh the irony..
Your husband deserves better than you.
A) Do you and your husband have an open marriage?
B) It takes two to tango.
C) Should the answer to A be "no"; if he's sleeping with you and therefore assisting in committing adultery, what makes you think that he *wouldn't* do the same to you?
I'm with MM! She is the one that's married. This isn't a brad Pitt/Jolie gang up on Jen .a wherentheynboth knew what they were doing from the very beginning . He keeps sleeping with me..keep you legs closed then.
what she really wants to ask is if he loves her so she can ditch the husband
i agree, this guy is just biding his time until something better comes along. or until he's ready for a real thing....with someone who is available.
Probably, but really - if she doesn't know, no one else can.
I can tell you why - because as a married woman you are a low maintenance piece of ass to him. He knows full well that he doesn't HAVE to buy you Christmas presents, birthday presents, take you out on Valentine's Day, take you out for anniversaries etc. etc. Plus, as long as you're married you have no right to demand monogamy from him.
He gets to keep nailing you (and maybe take you out if it's not too risky for you to be seen in public with another man), and he gets to pursue other women because most of the time you're going to be at home with your husband.
Bottom line, he gets to have all the benefits of a relationship - fun times, sex, physical and emotional intimacy, but he has none of the responsibilties that go along with it - no committment, no monogamy, no real demands whatsoever. He gets to eat his cake and have it too as long as he's "with" you. I wouldn't be surprised if this player has an entire "stable" of married women he's casually "dating".