This is a tough question. Mainly because it might be a goof question and here I am answering it. On the other brow, if I don't answer it and you are left entirely alone facing this issue - then how can I look at my own brows in the mirror. And so I will answer it knowing that all questions on this site can be either genuine queries or all the elaborate, time consuming scheme of one bored, yet highly creative 11-year-old boy in Dayton Ohio. I'm on to you Chris Davis Jr., 118 Cherry Grove Lane. I am on to you big time.
An arranged marriage offers some pluses and minuses. Statistics show that couples who are brought together in this way stand an equal if not greater chance at happiness and sustainability. Now, I don't know how this statistic shifts once you throw unibrows into the mix, but I assume it's a powerful variable.
You are marrying presumably based on some compatibility, but looks and grooming may not be high on your family's Arranged Marriage Check List. As your communication continues to develop, I suggest initiating a relaxed and open conversation about what turns you on and vice versa. Maybe this can only be done after your wedding day, but so be it. I think this can be done in a sort of fun and tactful way. Well here we are ...married.
Speak to things that are manageable and attainable. I don't think you need to bury your reasonable aesthetic wish list because you guys are an arranged couple For example, if he tells you he is wild for girls with bangs - you can take that under advisement. If you say you love men with neatly trimmed beards, or well groomed facial hair, he can absorb that and work with it. This is a far cry from saying I wish your brown eyes were blue or your skinny ass legs were 10X thicker. My guess is there must be a learning curve when it comes to "the physical" with arranged marriages; You sort of have to play catch up.
Lastly, it is a proven fact that men who don't date or have older siblings, aren't aware of a sh*t ton when it comes to common expectations or desires of the opposite sex. His lack of uni-grooming could truly be an "off his radar" issue. Much like changing bed sheets, or cleaning our ears - guys can be clueless, but when given a chance adjustments can be readily and happily accommodated.
May you have a beautiful life together; a wonderful wedding and a registry filled with tweezers, razors.
Being unfamiliar with which culture this is coming from, or the relationship you have with your future in-laws and fiance's friends, is tactfully and discreetly asking that your future husband visit a salon prior to the ceremony an option? Most guys need to get a haircut and shave anyway. And then afterward, compliment him on his eyes.
If you have a brother, have him approach the guy as if it was a suggestion from a guy about what women like. If you have a sister or girlfriend, have her approach a male in his family about your likes & dislikes, based on knowing you. He can pass it on to the guy. Either way, he will be less embarrassed. Good luck!!!
Preface to my suggestion -- my input is completely without regard to what's culturally acceptable.
And here's my suggestion!: Book a spa afternoon for the two of you and make sure they offer brow maintenance for guys and ladies both. While you're booking your visit, speak to them about arranging an 'impromptu offer' from your rep to do both of your brows. When the offer is made, have the rep stress that your guy won't come out looking feminine and defined... just cleaned up in a manly way. If the two of you take the same treatments, the brows will follow suit. When the visit is done, praise, praise, praise him on his new look. Praise is the best form of reinforcement.
totally real question. Thank you. I truly did not know how to approach this because I've never understood if guys were seriously that clueless with how most girls view unibrows. I think I'll talk to his sisters and see if we can figure something out for the wedding at least and then afterwards, I can talk to him about it.
totally real question. thank you! i will discuss this with him after marriage. hopefully i can talk to his sister to get him to do something for the wedding at least