Well, the good news is that older man/younger woman relationships are pretty common these days. More likely, people will assume that the guy is going through a mid-life crisis or recently divorced. Or they'll just think he met his soulmate (you) late in life. But mostly, people won't care. And if they do, they're judge-y and boring. Why worry about them? Yes, it's unfortunate that younger women with older men get labeled "gold diggers" while younger men with older women are seen as studs with a taste for "cougars." (Can we put an end to that phrase? Once Cougar Town came out, the novelty had pretty much worn off.) But there is less of a stigma attached to the older man/younger woman relationship than there was in the past.
Unless you're like 22 and dating 92-year-old, I don't think people will scream "gold digger." Women date older men for all kinds of reasons. (People will assume "daddy issues" faster than "sugar daddy.") As for how it'll affect your life, it all depends on how you act. If you are constantly bragging about the diamond ring your 75-year-old boyfriend bought you, chances are men your age will steer clear. But if you act like it's no big deal, like he's just the guy you're seeing, people won't judge you. And again, who cares if they do? If you're happy doing what you're doing, that's all that matters. Maybe this is your "sugar daddy" phase where you like being with an older man who takes care of you. And maybe you'll fall for one of them, and it'll blossom into a real relationship. Or maybe you'll eventually grow tired of his leathery skin and his Chicago albums and his DVD collection that only contains "The Best of the Rockford Files" and trade down for a younger model. For now, if dating older guys makes you happy, and you're straight-up with them about what kind of relationship this is ('sugar daddies" have feelings too) then who cares what other people think?
Unless you're like 22 and dating 92-year-old, I don't think people will scream "gold digger." Women date older men for all kinds of reasons. (People will assume "daddy issues" faster than "sugar daddy.") As for how it'll affect your life, it all depends on how you act. If you are constantly bragging about the diamond ring your 75-year-old boyfriend bought you, chances are men your age will steer clear. But if you act like it's no big deal, like he's just the guy you're seeing, people won't judge you. And again, who cares if they do? If you're happy doing what you're doing, that's all that matters. Maybe this is your "sugar daddy" phase where you like being with an older man who takes care of you. And maybe you'll fall for one of them, and it'll blossom into a real relationship. Or maybe you'll eventually grow tired of his leathery skin and his Chicago albums and his DVD collection that only contains "The Best of the Rockford Files" and trade down for a younger model. For now, if dating older guys makes you happy, and you're straight-up with them about what kind of relationship this is ('sugar daddies" have feelings too) then who cares what other people think?
If you date an old man or a young one only because they have money and can buy you what you want - how are you any different than any prostitute? I would definitely judge you harshly. I would not judge you, however, if it appeared you were in a real relationship. I normally don't concern myself with who's dating who but opportunists truly disgust me. Nothing about them is real - you can't trust what they say or do or who they are with because it's all about them and their benefit...
This is very true. There's a distinct difference between being in a romantic relationship with someone and being in a financial relationship with them, i.e. a sugar daddy/sugar baby arrangement. The former is legit while the latter is suspect at best.
They both know itks for money DuH! There are not feelings involved and it is mutual tradeoff. There is even a contract involved. If she is not attached and je isnt either and they both consent who cares? I certainly don't care a sour bitch like you would judge me. After all my sugar daddy is taking me through law school $$$$$ lalallallalala
Contract? You can't be going to law school(!) because then you would know that that kind of contract doesn't hold up in court.
Slippery slope just gets slippier. Why don't we sleep with our professors for good grades, our bosses for a promotion, clients for their business?
It's no business of mine what two consenting adults do with their time with each other. It's the same basis I have for homosexual couples or inter-racial couples or whatever.
Not my business. Trade sex for money - fine with me as long as both are 1) adults and 2) consent to it.
I see the same people that have issues with this are the same people that have strong right-to-life stance - just another patriarchal leftover telling a woman what she can or can't do with her body.
If it's how you wanna be, go ahead. I mean, honestly, it's not hurting anyone(unless you're bragging, then that's really annoying) so who cares? Those who make a stink about it, are gonna take affront to stuff anyway. Nowadays, what's considered right and wrong is judged by the person. Least it should be/needs to be. It's your life, no one else's. So if this is how you wanna live your life, and you feel strongly enough about it, then go ahead. Why do you care about how people are gonna see you? If you remain the type of person you are (as long as you're decent and such) then whose even gonna know? Are you gonna go running down the street with a shirt blazing sugar baby on it?
Sugar daddy relationships can be treated a lot like normal relationships (I've never been in one but I've known a couple of friends who did) if that's how you wanna play out. I mean, it's still a relationship as many sugar daddies are looking for someone to take care and be with, just not take care of. There has to be an attraction or mutual respect of it's not gonna work. It's not much different than a guy dating a girl whose the same age who just happens to make more money. Same thing really. So as long as you feel you're strong enough to do it and hold your head up high despite what others may think, do it. If not, then don't.
But it's your life, your choice regardless.
Honestly, women have been doing this for millennia. They've kinda had to, due to most ancient and historical societies being totally male-dominated, with little in the rights of women. Some countries are still like that.
Even though women have advanced in corporate, entrepreneurial, and engineering & sciences, some still like the idea of being with a wealthy, successful man. There's nothing wrong in such mutual arrangement; both are consenting adults, both can decide if that's what they want. If the man looks like a slob and he's too clueless to realize he's with a gold digger, that's his damn loss.
My only gripe is I wish more women would be bloody honest about it. Nothing is more ridiculous than seeing this hot woman, with a rich fat dude, who's almost as ugly as I am, and hearing her say "He's so handsome!!!". Yeah, right, lol!
youre too modest Mr. x! Who calls themselves ugly....unless...you are...
haha, actually, I am ugly. Really.
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