I agree, but make sure to flirt and have him notice you in a sexual way or you could end up in the friend zone.

I just wish I could keep my damn pants on!

Now that I think about it, that's how Anne Boylyn managed to bag Henry the 8th, she was a cock tease to the end.

This answer is pretty upsetting. Why should I have to wait to have sex just to prove something? Yes, make him wait between times that he gets to see you, but sleep with him whenever you'd like. The trick is just to kick him out in the morning and keep the attraction light.

If he knows and likes you before the sex, it's really good sex, and you're keeping it commitment free, quite possibly he'll get confused and want to add labels to the relationship. Figuring out how to stay in your knickers is probably just as much of a challenge as getting into them in the first place.

I have never thought about what "surely" commented about. That makes sense too. I think it's a combination of the two. Don't jump in the sack from the get-go but once you do keep it light and non-committal that way he'll be forced to put a label on the situation due to confusion and frustration. Although, this does sound a bit like a game.

Ladies, we are smarter than they are. Lets live up to our intelligence. This is how women have snagged Kings. Make them work for it! I'm mainly saying this to myself because I'm frankly a total skank who can't keep her pants on to save her life.

I like this answer, because I've never liked the idea of just giving ANYTHING up without a little bit of work on the boy's part.

I'm not sleeping with the guy I'm dating but we've done everything but. I told him no sex unless we're in an actual relationship. Good call on my part? I want him to want a relationship for the right reasons...not just because of sex. He respects my boundaries on that even though it's really hard for both of us to stop.

Sigh....wait longer than 3 weeks. I waited 4 and then I got the brush the morning after...sigh.

Megan, are you my long lost twin sister? LOL I have never been the one to last long on holding out either! But for some strange reason I have this time! I met a man that it was an instant mutual attraction! We have seen each other twice and talk daily! We have talked about sex but we both agree we need to wait! We want to get to know each other in other ways first! And Monday we are going to join our families for dinner, soooooooooo we will see how that goes! And then I am sure if all goes well, then after he is back from vacation............WATCH OUT FOR THE FIREWORKS!!!!!! LOL

i sooo agree wit his answer! all my friends who have had sex with their bf's a few weeks into the relationship with out them having to work for it have been dumped after a few weeks. me and my bf have waited and its been the best relationship ever! we always have fun but not having sex yet! and he does anything and everything for me lol

I have always heard that was true, good to hear another confirmation. For relationships, I usually wait 1-4 months, depending on how things are going. Always under the "boyfriend/girlfriend" tag.

Conversely, when I am not interested in someone as a potential husband, and I am merely interested in getting to know them, having a light relationship, then I don't really care. I crave knowledge, knowing everything about a person, including how they have sex. After I have consumed them, then I have less attachment to them and I can move on. So, if I don't think I want to marry someone, then I am way more free to have sex early on (like 3 weeks!!).