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We both said we weren't looking for a relationship and started having casual sex but after three months I feel like things are slowly starting to get more serious... how do I find out where we stand? Or do I just patiently wait and see where things go?

So, wait are things starting to get more serious on your end or his end? Trust me, if a guy says he isn't looking for a relationship, he means it. If he ends up in one, it will be totally because he decided that he wanted one with you.

In that sense, you should just let things run their course. Asking him puts it into the universe and has two possible outcomes: 1) he says, we were just dating, nothing more nothing less - which has the potential to bother you since you're asking this question in the first place leading me to believe you have more feelings in the second place.

Letter three.

The second outcome is this: he realizes that you are catching feelings than stalls you out because feelings come with more drama than he wants.

If he realizes he wants to be with you in more than just a casual sex manner, he will let you know. I promise.

Be easy.

Chill out.

Happy New Year.

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This is so true! If he wants to be with you, he will let you know. If this is not what you want, then you need to do you! Don't worry about him. Sex, especially good sex, can cloud your judgement and as women, we are very emotional.

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I agree. I am going through the very same thing right now. Good sex did cloud my judgement and beyond that, we have alot of fun out of bed. However, I want a committed relationship and he doesn't. Now we are just friends, without the benefits and believe it or not, I am happier.

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