Totally good answer...

Cary is right. I got picked on in junior high because I was a weird little shit, and I just kept my head down and ignored them, and eventually they went on to someone more fun to mess with. They just lost interest.

-shudder-

I remember that HS crap. I was constantly second-guessing what people were saying to me, scanning for sarcasm and ulterior motives. Sometimes I guessed wrong.

Keep your mouth shut, ignore what you can, and keep heart. It will get better after HS, I promise.

High school? I'm still going through this with my dad and I'm 33 and he's 66!

Cary's right. The best defense against anyone who wants to get a reaction out of you, is to not give them one. Ignoring them will piss them off more than a snappy comeback.

snotty girls..ugh

High School seems like it's going to be forever. Then you get out, get debt get a job, pay rent and work to try to make something of your life, and they're still going to be working in a supermarket. Forever. Every time I go back to my hometown, the same skanky girls are the ones having to be polite to me and ask if I want my bags packed. ^_^

Sure, you have the debt and whatever to work through, and there are shitty things to being an adult too, but the human mind is incredibly resilient. After a while of leaving, you'll start to remember mostly the good things instead of the bad.

But not head hung low, shoulders hunched, run from them in the hall ignoring. That might make it worse if they are bullies and they see they affect you. Look em' straight in the eye, with your shoulders back and head held high and smile as you walk on by ignoring them. They'll hate that and wonder what your secret is - I bet they're insecure themselves which is why they are so mean. That's usually the case.

In my experience, this behavior doesn't always end with high school. Sometimes the snotty, mean girls just grow up to be snide, spiteful, women. Whatever the age, though, I agree with Amber that often it is a self esteem issue. The catty ones are insecure and are the type who think that the only way to make themselves look better is by putting someone else down.

Ignoring the snotty girls isn't easy, but it is the best possible solution and first step if you can pull it off. If the cattiness continues and a situation comes up when you are forced to respond to them, a soft answer and "killing them with kindness" often works well to disarm them.

For example, mean snotty girl says to you, "You look different since I saw you last. Have you been putting on weight?"

You can respond with, "Oh, I like your shoes! Those are really cute. Where did you get them?" or something of that ilk. Don't react at all or respond to her jab. Instead, find something positive to say about her.

Throw her for a loop. Pretend as if she didn't utter a word, and pay her back with a compliment. The very pointed non sequitur keeps you above the fray and lets her know that you aren't going to play her game. It turns the tables on her and puts her in the spotlight instead of you.

It may take some practice in controlling your initial emotional gut reaction to return an angry retort for her meanness, but you can do it. She'll be so dumbfounded that she'll never know what hit her.

Cary is so right. I got into a fight with a girl who did everything she could to make it known that she was not happy with me. I just ignored her and eventually she just gave up. I just ignored her the whole time and spent time with my other friends.

Ignoring the snide remarks works on your mother as well... I'm just saying... ;-)

I had that bullshit in high school. Everyone is right. I didn't even look at her and her posse. They moved on. It's not easy but it's better than lowering yourself to that level. Don't be like her, you can be a better person.

I guarantee you'll be way ahead of the curve if rather than think about them and what they are saying and doing to you, you take time to figure out who you are and learn to love that person. I know that's sappy, but it's true. If you know who you are and love who you are then nothing anyone says about you is going to bother you. Find a way to be confident in yourself. Those girls (or some form of them) will be with you all through out your life, but if you figure it out now it won't be an issue ten years from now, and you'll be WAY better adjusted to life. Just my personal opinion.

Cary nailed this one, and Daisy's follow-up about "killing them with kindness" is also right on.

At times my tongue and wit have been sharp enough to reply to a nasty jab in kind, and I almost always regret it later. Just because you can zing 'em back doesn't mean that you should.

The best "comeback" for a snotty mean girl is to scrape it off the back of her throat!

out live em - piss on their graves... or ignore them.

Depending on who and of what level of class they belong to do the above. Give them a deaf ear. But if they are low class skanks from TTrash types the deaf ear just might get a response from them that is more physical. If that is the case stay the course keep the deaf ear going and turn each one in to the propper people. If you don't they could do you some real harm in thinking that you are too afraid of them to do anything at all. And mo one in HS or otherwise has to be a whipping post for Bullies.

Also make a copy of these responded and consider handing them a copy stating what low class ugly skanks they are for picking on anyone. And that picking on people is just telling everyone who watches that they are just cowards and never will have any class.

I'm still in highschool and ignoring someone is the BEST thing to do. in any scenario.

Yeah, really what I do, as crazy as it sounds, (Since I'm ALWAYS getting picked on for being quiet, short, and tiny,and dont' stick up for myself,) Just give them a compliment! Act really nice, but really mean it. I found it almost always works! If they say "God you're so ugly!" or something, I dunno, fat maybe? Stupid? You know, insult you, just smile and say "Wow! I love your makeup!" Or...If someone tells you to get out of their way, just apologize and say they look nice. They stop and look at you like "What the hell?" and just say "thanks..." Really quietly. Then they start to actually realize you're nice and treat you cool. Sounds corny and stupid but wouldn't it be cool to actually become friends with them, or have them treat you good? Anyone who's ever made fun of me only did it once or twice before they thought I was nice and didn't want to hurt someone so cool! Hope it helps!

wow really!!!

Sometimes girls are just downright mean & catty, Ignoring them is your best bet - it will annoy the hell out of them! You are obvioulsy much more mature and civil, so stay that way. Mean girls are just immature and hopefully (I pray that they do) will grow up eventually. It's funny though, those mean "popular girls" wont be "popular" after high school. I always found comfort in knowing that. Good luck with everything and remember there are always people who are going through the same thing; you're not alone! Much Love.

well my name is breezy swanson and im in middle skool amd this 2 girl kara and rachel jkeep on calling me unibrow,slut,b*cth,and lesbian...it makes me mad..and i really want to like really tear them down but i dont have good comebacks...and they r a very big size and they both might crush....AHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

your mom.

this girl whos a bitch calls me a slut and stuff becuase im dating her ex boyfriend so i blow her kisses in the hallway it makes her soo mad she says shes gonna fight me then i kiss the boy in front of her its sooo funny!

i hate when people do that!people say to ignore them but if you have the erge or anger issues like me, its really hard just to "ignore" them...this girl yesterday on the bus got sick and i asked her if she was okay and she stood up and shouted"bitch you wanna fight come on" and i just punched her rite in her face:):):) hahaha she faked sick so she could get attention because she aint really popular...i usually get in their face and say" bitch! excuse me.. you can shove all that bullshit up your ass if you wanna keep talkin it" and if they say somthin back say" come do somthin bout it" and call them a skanky stuck up hoe" and if they get all in your face punch them and them regret all that crap they just said..cause you punch them when their straight in your face when their not expecting it them cant really punch back if you keep on doing it so.... hope i helped...maybe a lil bit
------CaNdIcE-------

every one in my class r weaker than me but I stillhave issues, so with my fists really tight I walk twoard them with an *im gonna hit you face* it works they back away terrified

every one in my class r weaker than me but I stillhave issues, so with my fists really tight I walk twoard them with an *im gonna hit you face* it works they back away terrified

sayy this to someone tht says they aint a hoe but everyone knows they r
ive used it a few tymz!!
yu say yur not a hoe aight no dought
next tym yu say tht make sure yu wipe yo
mouth!!! lmfao

earth is full, go home =) it works every time! =)

I needed to thanks for this wonderful read!! I undoubtedly making the most of each small little bit of it I have you bookmarked to take a look at new things you post.

So many times this girl tells me i a slut and ive cryed myself to sleep. My boyfriend does nothing and it hurts. What makes it worse i think he's useing me to get back at her. I try the whole "kill them with kindness" but she took advantage of that. And i was done letting her push me around so i talked to her one day.
Her: Look it the bitch.
Me:yep im looking at her and mannnnnnnn shes ugly.

I walked away that day and i can say i felt like i was walking on air! The next day i broke up with the guy and went out with a few friends to a move. I feel so much better cause if i would have held all that in i might have done something dumb. Now i can walk in the hall with out her stupied comments.

camel

"Yeah, really what I do, as crazy as it sounds, (Since I'm ALWAYS getting picked on for being quiet, short, and tiny,and dont' stick up for myself,) Just give them a compliment! Act really nice, but really mean it. I found it almost always works! If they say "God you're so ugly!" or something, I dunno, fat maybe? Stupid? You know, insult you, just smile and say "Wow! I love your makeup!" Or...If someone tells you to get out of their way, just apologize and say they look nice. They stop and look at you like "What the hell?" and just say "thanks..." Really quietly. Then they start to actually realize you're nice and treat you cool. Sounds corny and stupid but wouldn't it be cool to actually become friends with them, or have them treat you good? Anyone who's ever made fun of me only did it once or twice before they thought I was nice and didn't want to hurt someone so cool! Hope it helps!"
-- Wow that is so true, im glad theres people like you in this world. And true, some of ym female friends act quite bi*chy and i ask them why and they say is just fun. I still love them though but the victims are my friends too and very hard to be in the middle. But ignoring them and being nice is a great idea!

smile and walk away. always try and be nice to that bully and they will get annoyed.

well I like the comeback (even if they aren't fat everyone hate being called fat)
HOLY SHIT SOMEBODY GET SOME WATER OVER HERE last time I checked whales can't survive without water!
also
Go home, earth is full,
if they call you gay say
Yea haha i bet you'd like that huh? then wink and walk away
and if they give you a comeback say
honestly if I wanted my own comeback i would've gone over to yer mum and asked her for it from last night O.o
One of my favorites is if they're really annoying, say look really bored and say
im already visualizing the duct tape over your mouth....look confused then walk away :D
honestly i get picked on a lot but usually if you get the last word in, it leaves them dyingg inside tehe hope i helped in a non violent and affective way xD

tell her go back to whore island

ok so u know how, when your with someones ex and they ask you, " how does my sloppy seconds taste?" well this is what i do to that question..... i say i dont know let me find out, then i kiss my bf and his ex always walks away saying whatever! lol

Everyone was driving me nuts calling me names like Unibrow and fatty and im only 100 pounds in middle school and i dont even have a unibrow bad....I got so sad i wanted to leaved this country froever and never come back until the nully moved away, and thenn everyone was nice to me again!

Write a comment...I have the same problem. Everyone hates me. Sometimes the person does that because they're jealous. One girl hates me because i was her bff's friend. she got my friend to hate me and all the girls joined in. sometimes you just have to pull them aside and say." You know what.. i don't know why you hate me but you need to stop." She will probably have a pretty freakin' good comeback but then just calmly walk away. she will probably consider what you said and maybe the other girls will leave u alone. Good luck.