A union of a stoner and straight-laced can be a great match. The perfect yin and yang or yin and bong as the case may be. Most relationships thrive in part because the partners are bringing unique qualities to the table - it's in the dance of those differences that a serious partnership can truly thrive. Yes, compatibility is key, but so is give and take. The stoner brings his weed to the table; the straight-laced makes sure none gets wasted. There is a symmetry and balance involved, though it's important to address a few other points.
Not all stoners are created equally. Cheech and Chong stereotypes and Pineapple Express caricatures don't always play out in real life. Sure you will find many stoners who have bedsores from their filthy couch and barely have enough energy to flip over their Europe '72 Grateful Dead album, but I have known plenty of high-functioning, punctual, productive stoners.
Some adult stoners seem to smoke and carry on with their business, as if they didn't just blow a 3x3 cubic plume of hydroponic Hawaiian Purple Haze bud into the atmosphere. Having said that, not everyone can handle a partner who's gotta smoke up before sex, or a night out, or a serious conversation, or a wedding or funeral. If the stoner has no concept of time and place then he or she'd better find a partner that is cool with that.
This is to say, the fundamental key is seeing how these two people function together day-to -day. Are they able to absorb some behavior they don't love? Can the straight-lacer soften up at times? Can the stoner be more rigid? Will their individual needs and qualities be a source of resentment and decay in the relationship or the stuff that makes their relationship more resilient and vital?
I have a guy friend in that category.
fairly high
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Definitely depends on the couple. Honestly, if you are straight-laced girl, I hate to say this, but speaking as a stoner girl, you probably are gonna want to run. Stoners are good for fun, but we make shitty significant others.
Oh and also, speaking as the former stoner girlfriend of a stoner.... prepare to be on top a lot. I mean a lot. Like almost all the time. If that does it for you, then by all means.
Eh, I'm a stoner and my boyfriend doesn't smoke up.
It has never been an issue, but I'm always careful to make sure my smoking doesn't get in the way of anything I do with him.
And as a rule, I don't smoke up before sex! Except on the only occasion that I ever saw him a bit high, that was fun haha.
I think this answer is key. Its about priorities. My last boyfriend and I had no issues with him smoking and me not until it become his crutch. He couldn't do anything sober. He didn't want to drive anywhere, leave his bong, he was late to everything 'cause he had to smoke first, even if it meant driving 30 minutes home and coming back to the city we were meeting in where he worked. Then it just became impossible.
A. If that's your biggest concern then you're lucky...b.things change when you get serious with someone... c. You're too cool and witty to put that question out ther...give us something to sink our teeth into
Terrible idea! Although smoking weed doesn't seem to bother you, all the other factors soon will. I used to date a stoner and it's just annoying after a while. They're always laggy, late, out of it, and make excuses for being out of it. True stoners spend the majority of their money on weed and munchies so if you're young and have only a little bit of money, it will get annoying when he claims to be "broke" even though he just picked up some weed. After a while their laziness just gets annoying. Some stoners also have trouble getting it up and keeping it up. Eventually, you will request politely that sometimes he be sober and one day he'll do it anyways and you'll argue and then fight and then before he knows it there's the weed or you ultimatum. And he'll chose the weed but if he choses you he's either lying or doing it very grudgingly.
There is no "always" when talking about a group of people. You are talking about an individual that you've known. Like saying all women are bitches cause you've known a couple.
'A' is absolutely right. Stoners may start out great in the sack but after awhile you'll realize they have no sex drive. If you're a young woman, this will be what kills it. Even moreso than the inherent stoner messiness.