The signs will be similar the ones given off by a guy who is just looking for sex, only with slightly more emotions involved. A guy on the rebound will mostly be looking for sex, but there could also be some couple-y, romantic stuff that makes it seem like he wants to get serious. Sadly, he's probably projecting his feelings for ex onto you. While you might end up in a relationship with Rebound Guy, he's most likely looking for a warm body to keep him company until he gets tired of weeping while looking at old photographs, stalking his ex on Facebook, and listening to the GuySpeak break-up song mix over and over again.
Here are a few signs to look out for:
1. He doesn't want to talk about his ex. Any talk of exes makes him suddenly get a sad, distant look in his eyes.
2. Conversely, he talks about his ex all the time. He brings her up out of nowhere, usually with bitterness. Perhaps he's still in touch with the ex over email or IM. "We're still friends," he'll say. Either way, she's a part of your time together.
3. He will have a strong reaction to certain songs, movies, TV shows, etc. that remind him of his break-up. Restaurants and bars that remind him of his ex will also be a no-no.
4. After sex, he might cuddle or be romantic, but he'll suddenly get distant and turn off the gooey stuff setting on his emotional faucet.
5. If you start getting too close, he will pull away. If you start asking about his past, he will get nervous. If you ask where things are going, he will immediately leap out the nearest window.
Any other signs?
Here are a few signs to look out for:
1. He doesn't want to talk about his ex. Any talk of exes makes him suddenly get a sad, distant look in his eyes.
2. Conversely, he talks about his ex all the time. He brings her up out of nowhere, usually with bitterness. Perhaps he's still in touch with the ex over email or IM. "We're still friends," he'll say. Either way, she's a part of your time together.
3. He will have a strong reaction to certain songs, movies, TV shows, etc. that remind him of his break-up. Restaurants and bars that remind him of his ex will also be a no-no.
4. After sex, he might cuddle or be romantic, but he'll suddenly get distant and turn off the gooey stuff setting on his emotional faucet.
5. If you start getting too close, he will pull away. If you start asking about his past, he will get nervous. If you ask where things are going, he will immediately leap out the nearest window.
Any other signs?
How about he's still living in his soon-to-be ex-wife's house, but in a separate bedroom. He hasn't filed the divorce paperwork yet. Uber romantic and gushy and clingy. I knew he was on the rebound when he gushed that he loved me on the second date during our first kiss. True story. So I had fun while it lasted, but didn't get my hopes up. Nice guy, no regrets.
Im almost certain Ive just been rebound, however Im curious as to why he invested so much.. after a week of knowing me he gave me an expensive watch (new, with guarantee) and a card saying that he was so happy... he took my mom and I out to dinner, met my friends, tried getting to know them... Is this normal?
Help me out of my misery my fellow aquarian!!!!
You are making an assumption - that he invested "so much". Maybe all that he has done so far isn't so much. Maybe it is just normal for him.
My gf regularly commented on things that I'd done as "going out of my way" or "being very kind/nice" when in reality I was doing none of those things. I wasn't going out of my way. I wasn't being any nicer or kinder than I usually am.
So, with that said, just because the way someone treats you is nicer than you've been treated by others, doesn't mean they hold you to a higher regard than others have held you. Translation - you are as ordinary to him as you were to people who didn't "invest so much" into you. You are reading too much into the situation.
So true! It is hard for girls to tell when they are just a rebound relationship for their boyfriends:-) We just make assumptions and selectively abstract things that support what we WANT to believe is true. This is especially hard when you are in love with the partner that is rebounding...perhaps if we all took a step back and observed the situation it would be easier to see when our significant other does not really love us or care about us in a special way...they are just being as "nice and kind" as usual.
But to all you guys out there-if you notice your gf commenting on how nice you are or how you are going out of your way be sure to correct her so she does not get the wrong idea! Let her know that is just how you are to everyone so she does not believe that she is special...it is a two way street fellas!
It might also be possible that he's trying to convince himself that he's not on the rebound by doing all the things he thinks a man does when he's in love.
Wow. This is scarily accurate. I just went through a break up and am spending time with a guy that's liked me for a little while. I am somewhat interested, but I can definitely sense that I'm gonna have some freak out moments and am trying to avoid anything having to do with my ex. I thought about what I would do when this new guy tries to kiss me, and every time in my head I keep picturing myself either freaking out and pulling away or getting really into it then feeling horrible and leaving afterward. I wish there were rules for break ups.
What a lovely day for a 4585038! SCK was here
What a lovely day for a 4800968! SCK was here
To the last one about window jumping: then i wouldnt have to worry about sny of this shit.