Yes, of course it's wrong. It's like calling a "time out" in a wrestling match or screaming "do over" after a strike out. You can't change rules and create unrealistic breaks to satisfy your every desire.
Where does this dude get off calling "freeze" in the middle of life? Who is this guy Keanu Reeves?
Regarding relationship "breaks" most guys at least have the good sense to say they want to take a break for noble reasons; to work on themselves, explore and reflect on the profound depth of love he feels for you. This guy your talking about isn't sugar coating nothing. He's just out with it: Babe I want a break from your face, your phone number, your vagina and breathe. But don't worry it's only because I want to bang someone else.
I hope your friend wasn't afforded the chance to get back with his girlfriend. Hopefully she realized, wait a minute, I'm being played. After all it takes a partner willing to accept this break in order for the break to be on. As Chris Rock says, you must chose one: "The best pancakes in the world or the best pu**y. You can't have both." This guy you speak of was trying to bone Aunt Jemima and her hot sister.
In terms of a "right" reason for a break, my feeling is they are seldom legit. Perhaps if someone in a secure relationship is leaving the country for a few months, or needs to study for the BAR exam for a few weeks, but nine out of ten times a break is a way to break up with training wheels or a dangling of hope. A way to make not being together feel a little like being together. Or a way for one party in the partnership to dump and bang without being the "bad guy."
YiiiOUCH!
I would have dumped that guy right away if he tried to get back with me.
"Regarding relationship "breaks" most guys at least have the good sense to say they want to take a break for noble reasons; to work on themselves, explore and reflect on the profound depth of love he feels for you." --> Agree.
I don't understand "breaks". Aren't they terribly 1990's, straight out of the "Friends" sitcom? I think "breaks" were the "thing" to do in High School as far as I remember, but I honestly didn't know they existed anymore. They aren't realistic. What is the point of a break? Just break up like a decent person and if you then realise you have made a mistake and want your significant previous other back then it's up to them whether they want to take YOU back, I think if my boyfriend said he wanted to take a "break", I would tell him by all means but I wouldn't be waiting around for him when he came back from this so called "break". Why would I want to date someone who needed a break from me anyway? It's insulting!
FG, what about if you hurt a guy and wanted to patch things up with him but he tells you he needs time. Do you keep talking or do you "stay away" from him?
You need to give him time and let him initiate contact. If you have told him that you want to mend things then you have done your part. Right now its up to him to decide if he wants to give you another. It totally sucks, but he will call/text/email/etc if he does want to get back together. So patience should be your best friend right now.
Good Luck!
"Aunt Jemima and her hot sister"...Funny Guy...you are funny!
so my ex just pulled that w.me and i told him i dont do breaks because i know what that really mean and in a 9month relationship we shouldnt be doing breaks...he tried breaking up w.me like several times prior by making up fake arguments to get out out the situation but i would always beg him back, but i was fed up...he would go from "baby dont leave me" to "i want a break".so this last time he said it he comes back and say i was starting to feel bad but i feel if we get back it would be out of guilt....for him to even be thinking like this should i just keep the door close?