Slut-shaming is crap, pure and simple.
Really, it breaks down to two very simple principles:
1) People have the right to decide what they do with their bodies, outside of some very specific and extreme situations. A woman deciding to have sex is decidedly not one of those situations.
2) The rights of any one person generally stop at everyone else's nose. If a woman wants to have sex on any basis she wants, who is she hurting?
Really, you've got to wonder why some people get so wound up about the sex life of others. Get a hobby!
I'll let you in on a little secret. When you don't care, it doesn't matter.
To me the word 'slut' has always meant someone who uses their sexuality as a commodity, or doesn't appreciate the effect their sexual conquests will have on other people, so I didn't really get 'slut shaming'; why can't you just say 'I enjoy sex, but I'm not a slut' so people can appreciate they're different things?
Also while I agree that many people are too quick to pour scorn on however many or little partners a woman has had, I think maybe 'anti-slut-shaming' movements kinda miss an opportunity to include other people who also suffer from people thinking they have a right to judge them for their choices. For instance when I was at school I pretty much kept my experiences to myself while my friend broadcast hers to the world at large, I think both of us met surprising amounts of bile for our relative way of going about things, and people would make unfair and untrue assumptions about both of us.
Having said all that, any move that goes against unnecessary prejudice has my backing! Maybe next year we'll be having 'prude movements' too :)
"To me the word 'slut' has always meant someone who uses their sexuality as a commodity"
...I've never heard it worded better than that! Though I don't get the second part of it - " or doesn't appreciate the effect their sexual conquests will have on other people".
My numbers are pretty high - how can they not be? I'm in my late twenties and have barely dated, but really, really like sex. I totally agree that there is NO problem with having sex with whatever amount of people you want to but there is most definitely a HUGE problem with using your sexuality to control others, get attention, etc. There is only one good reason for ever having sex - because you damnwell want to.
People--you included!--are permitted to think whatever they like. You cannot control that. From your perspective, you are not a slut; from theirs, you are. And because everyone is allowed to have an opinion, you will just have to deal with that . . . the best method was mentioned above: stop caring about it and it becomes irrelevant. Also, if you don't want other people to judge you based on your sex life, then STOP TALKING ABOUT IT; that way, they have nothing to judge.