My view is that she's a normal human being, just like people with birthmarks, crooked toes and hairy nipples.
My view is that anyone can get them, including men and teenagers; one of my high school friends had stretch marks on her belly, and she was as skinny as a flagpole.
My view is that a lot of things cause stretch marks, not just weight gain and pregnancy, and I'm told that they can fade over time.
My view is that stretch marks from pregnancy are a badge of honor for completing the monumental task of bringing another person into the world. I know a lot of women probably don't feel that way about stretch marks, but I wish they would.
My view is that if you are concerned about a potential lover being turned off by stretch marks, find out if that person has a completely flawless body: no marks, freckles, bumps, lumps, spots, moles, wild hairs, hangnails, skin tags, split ends, anything. If they don't, then they have no reason to judge you for your stretch marks.
My view is that someone who loves you won't even notice them, and even if they do, it won't change how they feel about you.
You are human. Humans are imperfect, all of us. Be naked and proud. That's my view.
Wow, Cary. Reason #2334 why I love you hugely.
Applause, applause! =)
And the award for best answer ever goes to Cary McNeal of Guyspeak.com. For a wise-ass you sure are sweet!
I used to be so upset about my stretch marks until I realized EVERYONE has them.
Me and my stretch marks salute you, kind sir. :)
I don't even know you and I already love you hunky dunk! Great GREAT answer!
I never cared about my stretch marks until my mom told me how ugly they make me look in a bathing suit. Sorry I grew D's and you only got B's after pregnancy, mom.
But Cary is right, a guy won't care if you have them. He will love you/want to get into your lovin space regardless.
Thank you all. I'm older. You get used to these things. Such is life.
with age comes a certain amount of wisdom and a lot of forgiveness.....
I have to smile at all the Cary love. Ditto and cheers on an awesome answer. Be naked and proud. Hee. That kind of talk means a lot to us women folk. Thanks Cary.
Cary you're the best!
thank you! thank you! thank you! was freaking out about starting to date again...still nervous, but not so much anymore :) thanks Cary
My son stretched out about 50% of my body. Jerk.
However, I've learned to deal with them. I have found that most guys don't look/stare/gape. If they want into your pants they will keep their eyes locked on the two lovely DD girls my son so lovingly left me with.
AMEN. *sigh* Thank you for reminding us that it isn't men who are pressuring women into being this unrealistic aesthetic image. The media is brainwashing all of us, men and women alike. Unfortunately women kinda bare the brunt of that since being brainwashed into craving something unrealistic doesn't seem as bad as the pressure to become something unrealistic...
I guess what I'm trying to say is, love your bodies, women! They are beautiful!
My daughter left me with stretch marks. I actually used to stress out about them all the time. Then I realized that a man wont care about them unless he doesn't really care about me. I don't need that type of guy in my life.
Cary, You are proof that there are non-douchy men in the world. For this, I
".... love you?"
Thank you!
Why YES! That's it exactly~ :)
Yes! Thanks. ;)
they are my badge of honor...every little pink or white line on my tummy, hips, and breasts were HARD earned. A woman's body does a lot to incubate another human life. Stretch marks are the least of these...but the most visible.
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I think we need to clone you! That answer definitely made my day :)
What are you, psychic? I JUST looked down at my stretch marks, sighed, and started feeling gross, and then I found this =)
And I'm happy now--stretch marks and all!
You should get some sort of trophy for this answer. A big one!
Please see the play (or movie) Shirley Valentine. There is great material on stretch marks in there. Also, it is life-changingly brilliant.
My size 2-3 jeans cover my lovely stretch-marks too. Everyone gets them unless they somehow skipped puberty. Stretch marks just show up when the skin has to well stretch quickly which everyone's skin should do at some point. They're just part of life.
"My view is that stretch marks from pregnancy are a badge of honor for completing the monumental task of bringing another person into the world. I know a lot of women probably don't feel that way about stretch marks, but I wish they would."
Exactly!
I became a mother at age 16, and was left with tremendous, dark purple stretch marks. I scar heavily and easily, so although they are now white 24 years later, they are still quite visible and most can also be felt.
I've always hated them, and still do. HOWEVER, though I don't like the LOOK of them, I've also always seen them as my badge of motherhood... I've brought two children into this world, and stretch marks are a very small price to pay for all the rewards of parenthood.
I also learned a long time ago that any problem I have with my stretch marks are MY problem... I've never had anyone "turned off" by them. I stopped fearing them being seen by my partner years ago.
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