Amen, sister. I've actually taken to boning up on some classic works of literature while I wait for the missus to prepare herself for the evening festivities. I can usually get through a Dickens or or half a Melville by the time she's street-ready.
Anything that cuts down on "The Great Wait" is fine by me. Of course, only guys who live with their mates have actually learned first-hand how long a human being can physically spend in a bathroom, so that's part of the problem right there.
The other aspect is that some guys just don't care for short hair, either as a matter of pure taste or because they don't find it feminine enough. Which is a total double standard, because the ladies LOVE when I can get my hair past vertebrae six or seven. I just stride into a club waving my freak flag and they gather like bees to hair-honey. Hairny?
Anyway, there's no accounting for taste. Some are definitely down with the short hair (I certainly am) and some aren't, but all of them will wonder why the hell it takes you so long to get ready. I say do the do that makes you happy, and never be afraid to clear-cut and start fresh. Hey, it worked for Sinead. And Captain Picard!
I knew a girl in high school who went from mid-back length to a buzz cut. Really quite odd, it was such a drastic change. Then the lesbian rumors started to fly...I would have felt sorry for the girl if she hadn't been so mean to start with. But that was over ten years ago, and surprisingly...okay, nothing has really changed in that regard. I guess the moral of the story is do what is best for you, and screw everyone else.
BTW, loved the Picard nod. I could listen to that guy talk all day.
Scientific studies actually show that more men are drawn to long hair. They say it's an evolutionary thing. Long, shiny, strong, healthy hair is a sign of overall good health (which = fertility...I guess....).
I mean, I guess it IS more feminine as well.
This is coming from someone who has had hair of ALL lengths at some point. Some girls honestly do look noticeably better with short hair. I've had guys tell me they prefer long hair overall, but that certain girls look better with shorter hair because it makes them look older/sexier/whateverer.
Just do what makes you happy and there will be plenty of people who will appreciate it.
But WHY is it "feminine"? Because we've been brought up and conditioned that it is. *rolls eyes*
Personally, I think a short pixie do can look much more "feminine" than long hair, because it frames your face and emphasises your eyes. :)
Not necessarily. I really do think the long hair thing is biological.
Hairny? Not one of your best Swaim.
Yes but...how short is short hair?
I mean, i have a bob cut...thats short right? And anyway, guys like any hair to be honest, didn't Kanye West (argh yes I know I know) date (or is he still dating?) that Amber Rose girl? That chicks bald! So...I'm thinking as long as the hair suits you, the guy isn't going to give THAT much of a damn...
unless of course you looked like SuBo with a mullet, and THEN we would have a "hairy" situation...
ha sorry about the LAME pun!
It's mostly shallow dudes who have something against short hair. Scientifically speaking, long hair on a woman means good health, good fertility, etc, but we aren't cavemen anymore! Long hair is so hard to take care of, and can get annoying. I'm getting used to having longer hair after having a bob, and it sucks. I'm pretty dang close to getting a pixie cut.
I love my long hair because I've tried it shorter and I just didn't have the face for it. :/ As far as I can tell, the length of your hair isn't a big deal to any guy who isn't a shallow jerk. Besides, why should you worry about your hair? Isn't it more important that he likes you for you, and not the length/cut/style/whatever of your hair?
I've had pixie hair, and I've also really long hair. Honestly, I got hit on equally with both hairstyles, though from different types of men. Not to stereotype, but this is the truth. With the shorter hair I got attention from the arty and cerebral boys, the philosophy majors, musicians, poets. With long hair, I'd get whistles walking down the street from construction workers, and chatted up by preppy boys and conventional businessmen.
Do whatever you like and whatever feels right for you. Attention will come irregardless, and that's the truth. Especially if you feel confident and happy. If a boy who seems to like you suddenly stops flirting you because you cut your hair short, he's not worth your time. The trick is finding someone who will love you no matter how you look, even if you lost all your hair to cancer.
I look better with short hair but my fiance wants me to grow it out because he likes the whole ' tug on your hair thing' , so I get it to my shoulders and make him happy with that, its our compromise ( but I like how I look with shoulder length hair so im only compromising a tinsy bit!). I think you should just do what you a)like and b)look good in. Youll find someone who thinks you look great with whichever style you choose!
Most of a woman's pheromones are released through the top of her head (I read that somewhere, so it must be true). This is why men like to sniff a girl's hair- we know from men's deodorant commercials that bodily scents get trapped in hair, so the more of it you have in your sex-chemical hotspots (ie, hair on your head), the more hormone-charging horny fuel you're pumping into your personal aura. Right?
Women complain about men liking long hair. Well, I have a question for you. Why do most women like taller men? I know. It is there personal preference. Does that make you shallow? Not really. Why do women think guys are shallow when they like long hair on women? Not much difference, is there. How hypocritical can some people be?
Before someone points it out, I will correct myself:
It is their* personal preference.
My husband LOVES my hair shorter. I let it get long sometimes and he can't wait for me to get it cut. My mother likes it better short, too. I would love to have nice long hair (and I've had it shaped long several ways), it does nothing for my face. When I cut it everyone raves about how it brings out my features and that I look better. I feel better, too. I think sometimes it depends on your features.
I agree most men prefer long hair, but I really think some women just look better with short hair. My husband said he thinks women with short hair are usually more spunky so I guess that's why he looked at me in the first place-so since we met that way, he's really hates it when I grow it out--just the opposite of most men.
I have really short hair, and now i am waiting for it to grow to have rihanna style hair with bangs..i think 99% of men population prefer long hair over short one, and that's kinda annoying, cause i think i look way better with short than with long hair...but it seems everything is based on looks nowadays...sadly
Because it makes you look like Justin Bieber.
Define short though?
I have an A-line cut that is shorter in the back that goes to just above the bottom of my neck. Im sure that would be considered short.
Ive had super long hair and it took an hour to an hour and 15 to shower, dry and straighten my hair and then finish getting ready. It got caught in doors, i would roll over on it, i shut it in my laptop a few times, it would fall in my food and my face. It looked great.
BUT The moment I cut off my hair, I got wicked amounts of compliments on it, and I am one of those people who looks great with either one.
The thing that irritates me, is I've been raised to do things for me, my makeup, hair, all of it is to make myself happy first. Im not going to grow my hair for a bf, and if I cut it and he doesnt like it, but I do, tough shit, I like it and thats what matters.
I have long hair. I just prefer it long, whatever. I've cut it different lengths at different times but eventually just grow it out, no big deal. Enter rant: I'm an English and History major and let me tell you, I just LOVED being made fun of for being the only girl in the class with long hair. Apparently, I'm not as progressive, independent, or confident as the other girls in my class- at a glance- because my hair was longer than my jawline. Bernice Bobs Her Hair was a good story, but nobody cared to bring up how after a certain point even the bob bred conformity and was just another trend. "Of course you'd say that, your hair is long." I was unaware that the hair minority in the room couldn't make a valid point. Yes, it is infantile but I was irritated. What kind of bullshit was that to say? Does this mean that I everyone with a nice little pixie cut was doing it in order to project an image for everyone else because they needed that validation? But no, I would get torn to pieces for saying that. I didn't think the way you look was supposed to be for other people. I agree with the short hair attracting certain archetypes thing too. I could go toe to toe with Foucault if he were alive and mind-fuck him to a pulp but at a first glance, I'm just thrown in with a certain type of girl, whatever the fuck that meant. Well fair is fair, I prefer to associate my "hair type" with a historical period too, since that was the theme of that class day. Fuck the draft! "Give me a head with hair, long beautiful hair."
i think it has to do with what makes you look better, and what gives you confidence. i recently hacked off my hair. i thought my longer hair would look more feminine, but i love my short hair so much better! i feel confident now, especially because i'm not hiding behind my mane anymore. because its so much easier to manage, i can always make it look good in the morning. its funny; though i've gotten about a 50/50 reaction on my hair, more guys have been noticing me since i got it cut (like i said, i think its the confidence change). my best guy bud told me: "i thought i liked it better long, but now i actually like it better short". it looks so much healthier now, too
most women look better TO MEN with longer hair - because they look "female" -- a man is visually drawn to women (their body shape, hair length, dress, etc)
and when one of those items (eg. hair length) looks more "male" then attraction drops to zero (he's protecting his masculinity) -- so ladies, if you want a man - let your hair grow long AND KEEP IT THAT WAY - you can always put it up in a bun
Well about a year ago now, i fully bleeched my hair (biggest mistake of my life) it went all crusty and not nice. I then had to cut all my hair off, but only in stages. I have a square head, so i look much much better with long hair. Im a senior in highschool now, and no body notices me, but before with my long hair, i had a boyfriend all the time. Hair length and what looks good really does reflect wether or not guys will find you attractive. well thats what i discovered anyway...
I have pretty much a buzz, i have since i was about 14 years old, and as a homeschooler, until i got to college, i never realized there was anything socially unacceptable about short hair. I've always been told my hair suits me and that it was a gutsy move that paid off. but now that i'm in school i've had two ex boyfriends tell me i should grow it out. Obviously i'm not a lesbian... i'm a busy college student and a working freelance artist! How many guys would be willing to spend an hour a day on their hair (the time it used to take me int he mornings) when they'd lose one of their precious five hours of sleep? It's not laziness and it's not sexuality.
Also, since i've had 4 boyfriends in the past 6 months, it's not that the hair is really much of an issue to most guys. Like i said, it suits me, and i have plenty of shapely curves to make up for the hair thing. ;) if you think you can rock the pixie, go for it, just make sure you are confident, sexy and feminine in your bearing and clothing to balance yourself out.
I have pretty much a buzz, since i was about 14 years old, and as a homeschooler, until i got to college, i never realized there was anything socially unacceptable about short hair. I've always been told my hair suits me and that it was a gutsy move that paid off. but now that i'm in school i've had two ex boyfriends tell me i should grow it out. Obviously i'm not a lesbian... i'm a busy college student and a working freelance artist! How many guys would be willing to spend an hour a day on their hair (the time it used to take me int he mornings) when they'd lose one of their precious five hours of sleep? It's not laziness and it's not sexuality.
Also, since i've had 4 boyfriends in the past 6 months, it's not that the hair is really much of an issue to most guys. Like i said, it suits me, and i have plenty of shapely curves to make up for the hair thing. ;) if you think you can rock the pixie, go for it, just make sure you are confident, sexy and feminine in your bearing and clothing to balance yourself out.
When I met my husband of 17 years, I had long blonde hair, and kept it that way for the first 5 or 6 years we were married. I cut it short and he liked it just fine. After a year or so, I grew it out again, and as a police officer I had to put it up in a bun! I would have a sore head and headaches, but continued to wear it long for about 7 years, then one day my scalp felt like it was separated from my brain it hurt so badly. I went straight to the salon, in my uniform, and told the stylist to cut my mid-back hair short. I have kept it short ever since. I have had a pixie for the past 2 years and compliments are more forthcoming than ever before. I got braces on my teeth last year and my orthodontist told me that my hairstyle suits me very well. He said, "you see people's hairstyles and say to yourself that it looks nice on them, but when I saw yours I thought WOW, that style really suits her." Most people have said they like it much better than my long hair.
If you asked many men (especially on my home front, the American south, which tends to be more traditional), most would absolutely say they are more attracted to women with long hair (long hair classifying as around shoulder length or longer). "Short" hair on women is a relatively new product of recent revolutions.
Why is "long" hair feminine? Because historically, men have had relatively short hair, and women have had relatively long hair. Not much of a better answer than that. It's all about associations and gender roles; many of us like to keep those.
Personally (being a male), I'm not attracted to women with hair that looks like a guy's cut to me. But it might be considerably attractive to another man. Let us all not forget, everyone is entitled to their opinion, and we should respect each others right to it. I say this simple statement because many people really seem to have forgotten to practice tolerance. Or perhaps it was never learned...