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What do guys think of a woman who's single, in her late 20s with no kids but still lives at home? I'm just trying to get my life in order, find a career and be more independent, but even with a BA in education the economy isn't the greatest. Do most guys think negatively of a woman like that?

Does it matter what they think?

You're doing what you have to do to survive right now. You wouldn't be there if you had a choice. It is what it is. You have enough stress already about living at home without worrying that it might ruin your love life. But you asked so I will answer. Your situation is like anything else: some guys will have a problem with it and some guys won't. The ones who have a problem with it will make that judgment without knowing you or why you are living there. Are those the kinds of guys you want to date? No.

The beauty of challenging situations like yours is that they have a way of showing us who is open-minded and who isn't, who accepts us as we are and who is scared off by trivial matters. Hard times are brutally effective at separating wheat from chaff. If you can look at your current predicament in those terms--that it can help you weed out the small-minded guys--you'll find a silver lining. Your situation isn't as bad as you think.

Thanks for the question.

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Brilliant answer, Cary! If someone's going to judge you for that, they're not worth it. I'm living at home too during grad school for the same reason, and I found a boyfriend who's doing the same and loves me no less. Keep your head up high!

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As a mid-20s male who lives with his grandparents, works full time, and is preparing to enter grad school, I don't think you have anything to worry about other than the unnecessarily tough expectations you are placing on yourself. Like Wise-Ass said, the guys who think negatively of your situation aren't worth any of your time. Why would you want to be with an elitist, unempathetic person? Best of luck to you in your romantic endeavors. :)

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A woman who is young (but not too young), single, childless, educated and trying to get a career in education...?

I'm not an average guy, but to me that just screams "perfect long term relationship material."

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As an unemployed recent college graduate who is currently living in his parent's basement (yep, I am that stereotypical) I feel your pain. We are doing what we have to in order to survive but it certainly can feel like we've "failed" somewhere. I say keep doing what you have to, no guy worth his salt will look down on you for it.

Keep going and you'll eventually get somewhere you want to be.

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