What do you do? You file for divorce immediately. Right? And maybe sue for emotional distress and abuse.
Let me see if I get this straight:
– He takes out his weight issues on you, to a point that sounds controlling and borderline psychotic.
– He accepts a job halfway across the country out of nowhere without discussing it with you first.
– You lack the same spiritual beliefs, a fact that he uses to blame you for the dissolution of your marriage instead of actually addressing his own issues or being supportive of your beliefs.
– He blames his decision to move halfway across the country–something which would put a huge strain on any marriage–entirely on you.
Just one of these things would be grounds for divorce. Put together, it’s a perfect storm of awful. This is not someone who loves or respects you– it’s a guy who wants out of his marriage and is going about it in the worst, most self-serving way possible. He literally accepted a job out of state and told you about it a day before leaving? That is…wow. There are no words for a person like that. Well, there are two: “Raving lunatic.” Also, “colossal trollmonkey assclown.”
Why not beat him to the inevitable and call it quits? Don’t wait for him to mail you divorce papers from another state. Stop putting up with this and leave him. It will boost the self-respect that he has slowly chipped away at. It’s clear that he’s done some serious damage to your confidence if you’re even remotely considering staying with him after everything he’s done. Get a good divorce lawyer, and talk to a therapist if you can about the emotional abuse you’ve endured. Please do not stay with this guy. Take care, and let us know how it goes.