Well I suppose this depends on if the server is a man or a woman. But I have some free time, let's look at both scenarios.
Let's say your server is a woman who has taken to flirting with you in front of your clearly perturbed girlfriend. The worst thing you can do is to ignore your girlfriend's pissedoffedness. Women have an intuition about these things, so telling her that she's tripping and that the server is just being nice might end up in no nookie for you later on. But not only do you get no nookie, you DO get more discussion and heated debate than you want for trying to pretend that the buxom biscuit bandit wasn't flirting with you.
So the best thing you can do...actually there are two things you can do here to assuage her vexation.
1) Tell your girl that though the waitress may be flirting with you, you aren't paying her any mind because you're sitting across from the most beautiful girl in the room already.
That does two things: it makes sure her anger stays with the waitress, and gets you bedroom points for later for being sweet.
2) Kindly ask the waitress to respect your woman who's sitting across from you and to not flirt. It might piss off the waitress who might deny it, but truth is, you can rush her along because her job is to serve, not debate.
Your girl will see that you stepped up and took care of the situation and will probably feel special on the inside, which is great, because that's where you want to be.
*snicker*
Oh, yes, if it's a guy, well, the best thing you can do if a male server is flirting is just keep eyes forward and focused on your woman. As long as he doesn't think you're interested, he might just leave you alone. And if not, well, at least your girl will get a good laugh - and you will too, not that night, but some days later.
It was written.
I'm guilty of flirting with servers in front of a bf. I just hated that particular bf so much and was doing everything in my power to get him to break it off.All it did was make him more paranoid, give him dreams of me banging the shit out of the server and have him cling to me that much more tightly. I have since learned that this is not the way to go about anything.
While I don't really care if somebody flirts with my girl (as they say, it takes two to tango), it's still pretty disrespectful to do it right in front of the partner.
Choose option A. Politely end conversation with the waitress, then reassure your girl that you only have eyes for her. If this situation happens often, check a mirror. You might actually be Brad Pitt, in which case your girl may have to get used to women flirting with you.
I could picture a lot of men doing (1), but not so much (2). Actually confronting the waitress takes an extra touch of manliness and is quite sexy, me think.
And, of course, for every situation where the waitress is actually flirting there is another situation where the guy's date is actually crazy in a possessive way and imagine flirting where there is nothing but polite conversation... But even then you should go for n°1, I guess.
Come to think of it, option 2 is bad two reasons; very easy to come across like a dick ('please stop hitting on me in front of my woman'.. sounds a bit pretentious), and probably more important, never ever piss off anybody who handles the food you're about to eat.
I was thinking the same thing, you might get something in your food that doesn't belong there, but on the other hand if a guy did that for me, though I might be embarrassed when he did it, he would get so much extra in the bed later that night
servers are just so charming.
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