I don't know. I am always at least good enough, usually better, and frequently totally freaking awesome. You see what I did there?
Get off the pity pot. If you don't think you are good enough, you won't be, so just cut that crap out right now. It is just another excuse for giving up.
Let me tell you a short, true story.
A guy, smart enough, educated, with a decent amount of life experience under his belt gets asked to write relationship advice for a web site with a rather large following. You think he curls up and hides when a tough question comes his way? No - he gets down, works like hell on it, and gives it his best damned shot. Why? Because that is what you do.
Now, this guy has a family. A Mom and Dad who he loves and listens to and respects. And his Dad is like the total stereotype of the working man. Hell, call him a redneck, it ain't so far off the truth. And Dad is totally baffled that his boy makes a living by sitting there day after day at the computer. It seems unmanly to him. Demeaning, in a lot of ways.
One day, the guy is feeling depressed, after reading a news article. One of his worst fears, come to life. He posts a family FB status saying he can't do this anymore, he is too scared of failing and getting people hurt if he gives bad advice or says the wrong thing.
His Dad phones within 5 minutes, and basically verbally rips him a new a*shole for despairing instead of just trying harder to succeed. Because the guy agreed to do the job, and his Dad, despite not really understanding it, or approving of the job, understands the core issue.
If you say you will do something, you do it. You do it right first time, or keep on at it until it is right. No excuses, no wimping out, no bitching.
We all get the "we ain't good enough" all the time. But we are not the best judges of our own actions. Only the ones we affect can judge. Not us. Now get yourself out of that pit of despair before I do to you what Dad did to me.
Got it?
I can honestly say .. this is one of the BEST answers i have read in this site !! everyone can relate somehow, hell i know i did .. i felt every word.. great job MM , great job
Listen to MM…, he speaks from the heart & soul. We have to believe in ourselves for others maybe counting on your strength. Here’s another true story:
There was this five year old kid who was helping his mom shoot a basketball. (She was in physical therapy for breaking half the bones in her hand.) After whining & struggling that she couldn’t do it, she wanted to give up. The kid said to her, “Trust me mommy, you can do this! I’m right here to help you!” The mom realized she wasn’t only giving up on herself; she was giving up on others by not really trying. Maybe 50 or 60 shots later she did it, she made a basket! Then another one. She doesn’t rock the courts by any means, but she succeeded just the same. That day she learned to “give it her all” because someone maybe counting on her.
Fast forward to March 11, 2011. The kid is in the Navy serving a tour in Japan, during the biggest natural disaster to rock that county. He calls his mom & wonders out loud if he can do this anymore. The mom said to the now young man, “Trust me son, you can do this! I’m right here to help you!”
You need to dig inside of you & give it your best shot on whatever it is you are doing. Keep trying until you get it right. A positive outlook seems to be the key for me. Read “the Secret” by Rhonda Bryne. At the very least it will teach you to rid yourself of self doubt & the sea of negativity you are swimming in. Good luck..., & smile.
Nicley said, you & MM!
Your today effects all your tomorrows & the tomorrows of those around you. Never give up on you because you will give up on people who need you most, when you least expect it.
You're the only guyspeaker whose answers I relate with anymore. And I
wasn't even feeling you, initially. Keep truckin'!
Good answer. I can be a total pity pottier. But I still run after my dreams with vigor. Otherwise, what's the point?
If we didn't fail from time to time what would motivate us to succeed? Other than sticking it to the jerks who think we can't!
If mysteryman is the only guyspeaker you can relate to, you need to read more answers honey. nothing against him but you're missing out.
Totally agree. Especially since the other guys are quite a bit smarter than me!
i'm a single mom to a special needs child and a survivor of ten years of emotional abuse. my pity pot was so big at times it gave people the finger for me. notice i said was. my pity pot went to the trash when i decided that giving up was not an option. no matter what. no matter what. no matter what. einstein helped too. he said, "there are only two ways to live your life. one is as though nothing is a miracle, the other is as though everything is a miracle." but the point is, you get to choose, that's the best thing about this thing we call life. "we are not the best judges of our own actions. only the ones we affect can judge." ah so very wise from MM. take that advice, and go find a miracle and share it with someone. that will be one small way to start affecting people's lives positively, and you will slowly start to feel different. a positive attitude is so DAMN attractive too btw, you will become magnetic. and remember that giving up is not an option. no. matter. what.
thanks MM for the tough love.my question has finally been answered :)
yeah you!
i second the yeah you! see how you just proved how good you are at not giving up?
You said it! We all have time of despair, but as long as you keep looking up, it can only get better and YOU can only get better. Stop looking down. If you crash, just stand up and try again. That's how I have been taught to live. And I thank my parents for that every day.
Thank you MM! I was just sitting here feeling sorry for myself, and thinking why am I never good enough? After reading your post, I sat down and wrote a list of things I think I am "good enough" at. You know what? I came up with 127 in about 10 minutes. I came to the realization that I am not only good enough at most things I do, but actually am pretty damn great at them!
Maybe it was devine intervention that I read this post today.
So now I am going to get in the shower, fix my hair, and put on some makeup. Then put on my snazziest outfit and get the hell off my A**, and do something besides feel sorry for myself. Look out world, here I come!!
Thanks!!