Uh, yeah, he sounds like a creep of the highest order.
By definition, a relationship means you support each other. Give and take. This guy sounds like he’s supporting himself quite well. It’s rough out there these days. People fall on hard times. Nobody wants to be with a freeloader, but you expect your significant other to be there for you through good and bad times.
Rich people are often the stingiest with their moolah. It’s how they stay rich. Look at Uncle Scrooge from Ducktales. You think he got his giant money bin by supporting his nephew Donald whenever the sailor work dries up? And while this guy isn’t literally swimming through gold coins like Uncle Scrooge, he’s still flaunting his spending while his girlfriend clips coupons.
Men (and women) can sometimes be territorial when it comes to money, particularly if one person in the relationship makes more than their significant other. But I don’t think it boils down to men not wanting to help out financially. I think that some people are just plain cheap a-holes.
It sounds like this guy’s girlfriend is supporting him through cooking for him and doing his laundry while he struts around Boardwalk with his top hat and monocle like Mr. Monopoly. You know what this guy really wants? A maid. And clearly he can afford one. He wants a girlfriend, but none of the responsibility. So unless he’d like to stop counting his money and dining on condor egg omelets (I assume that’s what rich people eat) and wash his own damn clothes, then he needs to man up and realize that his girl is supporting him. She’s supporting him with her time and energy. She’s taking care of him and she isn’t his mother.
This is a clear sign that your friend is in a one-sided relationship, and that this guy can’t be counted on to help her when the chips are down. What is she getting out of this? Is he lavishing her with gifts? Does he take care of her at all? Doesn’t sound like it. She needs to start charging this guy restaurant prices for the meals and weighing his laundry by the pound. If she puts it that way, then I would hope he would realize how much she contributes to making his life easier. If not, then dump him and leave behind the number for Merry Maids.