Good call. That's probably exactly what he's trying to do. Unless of course he's just the most insecure chap on the face of the earth and is consistently waiting for you to tell him that you do want to be there, in which case, you might have a solid case for dropping duke anyway.
Despite the fact that we normally are always considered the bad guy in relationships (even if we aren't the ones who did the breaking, we always are broken up because of what the guy does...boo hoo), we don't WANT to be that guy. We'd prefer that you broke up with us so that we could ease some of the penis guilt that invariably comes with being of schlong. Thing is, because women relish being the martyr when things don't go right, you all will stick something out until David Bowie releases Ziggy Stardust 2 or we break up with you, which ever comes first. Women are notoriously masochistic. But I think a lot of it is rooted in the need to say that you got dumped. It's like a woman's rite of passage. Some guy who didn't deserve you left you.
If you break up with him, you can always say that you couldn't take it anymore, but was it possible you could have done more? It's a delicate tango going on here.
Point is, if you're with a dude who's constantly telling you this, you probably should just ask him straight up why...AND what in Sam Hill is keeping him there if he thinks you want to break up with him? Tell him to stop being a wanker.
My ex husband use to say, “If you don’t like it.., get a divorce!” One day I said ok. He took the one thing I held sacred to me & destroyed it. A year or so later, after the divorce, he said he thought I would always be there & kicks himself in the @$$ everyday for pushing me away.
Me? I’m still single..., making comments on GuySpeeak.
Yup, it's a passive-aggressive pussy move to try to get out by forcing your hand. That way he can be the aggrieved party and get sympathy and hold it against you. "oh, she broke up with me. I just tried to give her what she wanted and she pushed me away." Blah, blah, blah.
My boyfriend does this same passive-aggressive move on me every couple of months. I call him out on it and ask him why he's even with me anyways. He says I'm the best thing that's ever happen to him. I tell him then treat me as such and stop with this stupid passive aggressive behavior because one of these days I may just end up leaving you because it's detrimental to our relationship. And yes, I've come to realize that his passive aggressive behavior comes from him being insecure..which probably came from HIS daddy abandoning his family. LOLOLOL
my ex did the same thing all the time. glad I don't have to put up with his sh** anymore.