I'm gonna go with intent here. Unless he's an investigative journalist writing a story on online dating, or a private detective trying to catch cheaters in the act, he's probably looking for a little side action. The fact that he went for an "adult" dating site is a pretty good indication that he's not looking for a new Words With Friends pal. In fact, I'd take the "adult" part as a sign he's specifically looking for a discrete affair. It's not like he signed up for eHarmony.
After six years, he should be looking for a ring online or tickets to Aruba for your destination wedding. What he shouldn't do is troll dating sites. That's the sign of a guy who is looking for a way out of the relationship. Because a guy in a relationship doesn't go to the trouble of making a profile on dating site unless he has a goal of finding a one-night stand or a mistress. You don't just "see what's out there" when you're in a six-year relationship. He knows what's out there-- someone to cheat on his girlfriend of six years with.
You should discuss this immediately. And by "discuss," I mean dump him like yesterday's garbage. Sure, he hasn't cheated yet. But the intent-- and the disrespect he's showing you--is enough. It's emotional cheating. Why invest even more time in a guy who has clearly checked out of the relationship a long time ago? After six years, if he's making online dating profiles instead of proposing, that's a clear sign he no longer wants to be with you. At least you found out now before he slept with some random woman behind your back.
After six years, he should be looking for a ring online or tickets to Aruba for your destination wedding. What he shouldn't do is troll dating sites. That's the sign of a guy who is looking for a way out of the relationship. Because a guy in a relationship doesn't go to the trouble of making a profile on dating site unless he has a goal of finding a one-night stand or a mistress. You don't just "see what's out there" when you're in a six-year relationship. He knows what's out there-- someone to cheat on his girlfriend of six years with.
You should discuss this immediately. And by "discuss," I mean dump him like yesterday's garbage. Sure, he hasn't cheated yet. But the intent-- and the disrespect he's showing you--is enough. It's emotional cheating. Why invest even more time in a guy who has clearly checked out of the relationship a long time ago? After six years, if he's making online dating profiles instead of proposing, that's a clear sign he no longer wants to be with you. At least you found out now before he slept with some random woman behind your back.
i agree with CG. i actually did a piece on online dating once, it was about what NOT to put in your profile, based on real life bad profiles so I had to put up a few profiles to get the gist, and this was after i had started dating someone i met online. we weren't even exclusive at the time and i still told him i was doing it, and he was glad i did. people that have nothing to hide, hide nothing. put him to the curb with the rest of the trash.