Often times in life, you're confronted with questions and situations that leave you both perplexed and verklempt, many at the same time. You stare at the ceiling, pray to the moon, and bask in the glow of the ancients whilst hoping for the slightest glimmer of understanding of what a person of substance to you means when they say things.
It is often heart-wrenching as we do our best to not over think or under-react. Many times, mental anguish is the order of the day because men and women do indeed view things through different prisms.
This is not one of those times.
Dearest young lady, this particular chap's statement is exactly what you think it means - for you and his mother, he'd move back to his hometown. Now, I'll admit lumping you and mother dear in the same sentence is a bit odd, but hell, perhaps he's just really a loving fellow like that. I assume this is a guy you're either really feeling or kind of "dating" but the long-distance is causing you to ask questions about where you all stand. Well, I don't know about you, but a dude being willing to uproot himself and return from whence he came (unless its like NYC or LA or some other place where moving there isn't necessarily a step-back) says a lot.
I've had chicks randomly say, I'd move to where you live for you and I'd usually stop them right there in their tracks. Women say (and do) stuff like that all the time. A guy on the other hand being willing to move for a woman who's not his wife is fairly significant.
So pretty much, what your dude is saying, "baby, I love you and I'd like to build our future together...and I'd move back home for you and my mother."
Just let me know when and IF he actually does it.
My ex, (who I was dating long distance) made the exact same offer, and I was put off. I did not feel that our relationship was at a point where our major decisions should revolve around each other. I asked myself if I would move to where he was to be with him, and the answer was no... So I broke up with him. If he had just moved back without citing me as a reason then we would probably still be together. Maybe I am a commitment-phobe but it felt like too much pressure. I felt that he was either A) letting me know that he was serious about our relationship (more serious then I) or B) forcing me to make a decision that he did not want to make. He ended up staying where he was, as did I.
I remember when a guy I dated asked me if I would move to where he lived, about 2 hrs from where I lived and much smaller and I said "let's cross that bridge when we get there." It felt like I was being tested, how serious I was for him, when I thought he should be asking himself how serious he was for me.
I'm curious what brought on this statement from your guy, did you ask him a question related to this and that was his answer, were you both talking about commitment, or did he say it out of the blue. I think this would provide some context to the situation and thus a better understanding of what he meant.
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