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What does "kinda seeing someone" mean in response to an inquiry about his relationship availability?

I love these "lost in translation" questions. Mostly because we all usually know what it means but just need to hear it from somebody else to confirm what we thought we think to be truly what they're thinking.

Get it? Got it? Good.

When a man says that he's kinda seeing someone, it generally means one of two things:

1) I am in a committed relationship but I don't want to tell you that because it will negate you handing your undies to me so I'll downplay it to the most vague possible answer I can and see what you say or how you react and then respond in the a manner that will allow me to maximize my chances to see you naked.

Or.

2) He's dating somebody though possibly not exclusively that he likes and is his first priority but if something better comes along or the chance to make ducksauce he could be swayed to drop that chicken dinner and get with a winner, possibly like yourself or some other woman who does things with a clothes hangar that are banned in 87 countries and Alaska. But he'll probably go back home to her.

Point is, he attached to somebody. Which means that he's pretty much interested in seeing you naked. Any man who wasn't going home to some other woman wouldn't let you know that there was some other chick in the picture. So he's telling you that he's up for sex and nothing more.

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My first thought was that he was turning her down. Isn't that what people usually say when they're trying to deflect someone that's hitting on them? "Uh, sorry, but I'm kinda seeing someone." It's almost like an underdeveloped "It's not you, it's me" type thing.

nikitamaagel

Yeah that's also what I thought.... Otherwise, if he wants to cheat on whoever he's seeing, why would he even tell her that he's seeing someone? If he's going to be that guy, he's not going to say anything that could potentially hurt his chances of getting laid.

chrissie1101

good point. that's actually almost exactly my go to line when i am turning someone down. whether i am or not, i know that sounds bad, but i've also done the honest approach response and it made the guy like me more lol soooo... i think this is a win win for noone but the guy here, she should just move on.

NuNuSays

Cosign. Dude just wants to bone. Or cheat... which includes boning.

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well thats what i say when someone asks if im single.. because I'm exclusively dating but not in a "relationship" (confusing enough?) so I'm kinda seeing someone.

it could also possibly mean he's confused about if he is or isn't single, wants you in bed, but doesn't want to be labeled a cheater.

katej

I would say that if you're "kind of seeing somebody" that you are interested in that person. You think there is potential, but you're still getting to know each other. You're still figuring out how things might go. You're not seeing other people, (nor do you really want to) but your not dating each other seriously yet....I would say I'm kind of seeing someone...

Madison

I agree. No matter what, if those words come out of a guy's mouth, he's not that serious about whoever he's dating.

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