In my estimation, it's probably time to let that person go. Here's my thinking on this. If you're going to go so far as to make a list of a person's pros and cons, then you are concerned about something.
When there is concern about somebody in your life, the pros should outweigh the cons. Only when that happens are you able to realize that, "hey, maybe it's not so bad and there are things that I could work on for myself to help us along." But when all of a person's positive attributes are ALSO negative (I'm really curious as to how that even happens, gosh I need examples), then I worry about what's next.
You know, I'm really curious about this pros and cons are the exact same thing. Is this one of those cases like "business-minded and logical" where it works in life but not in a relationship kind of thing? When most people make these distinctions, there's some differentiation that allows you to put a person into a perspective you can understand. But this situation doesn't allow for that. And since the good and bad are the same thing, it means you have no where to go but stay the course you're already on. And I'm guessing that isn't a good thing.
Maybe this person just likes making pro and con lists about everything. I have a friend that does that.
The problem is that if you're pessimistic enough, any pro can also be a con. For example, if your guy's really laid-back, it could be a good thing, but it could also take the form of laziness.
Being stubborn or sensitive can be both good or bad. It just depends on the context. My boyfriend is like that. Hahaha.
I believe this person meant that the number of pros is equal to the number of cons... not that they're the same.
I believe this person meant that the number of pros is equal to the number of cons... not that they're the same.