My opinion on "sexting" (I hate that phrase with a fiery passion) is that less is more. An occasional filthy text about what you plan to do me (or want me to do to you) later is acceptable. After a while, it gets a little silly. Plus, nothing kills a mood faster than your cell service suddenly dropping out and one of those red X's and a "message not sent" notice popping up. Then the other person gets miffed because you didn't respond to their offer of virtual fellatio, and before you know it you're having a text fight that ends badly and then no one gets to have actual sex.
I don't know, maybe some guys are into sexting. (Ugh, how it pains me!) If you are apart for a while, it can be fun. It's nice to get a text that shows she has to have you right now or else her lady parts will explode. But nothing beats the human voice. Are we forgetting the lost art of phone sex and naughty voice messages?? Words are only so exciting.
I don't know, maybe I'm old-fashioned, but it doesn't do a lot for me. Occasionally, sure. But I just find it silly. If you do it, consider who might be looking for his shoulder. Also, is he a jerk who shares the dirty things his girlfriend texts him with his friends? Hopefully not, but you never know. And also, don't freak out if he doesn't text back right away. Maybe he's at work, or on the subway, or just not in the mood to text. I would say start out slow and see if he's into it. In any good sexting session, both parties should be tapping out equally filthy things.
Ah, geez. Everybody is sexting all the time, right? The guy ahead of me in the supermarket checkout line is probably describing his penis to his girlfriend while I'm trying to grab a candy bar. My coffee shop barista is typing filthy things to her boyfriend while my Americano is brewing, right? My doctor isn't checking his appointment schedule on his BlackBerry. He's typing things about his wife's clitoris while the nurse is taking my blood pressure.
Everyone is typing filthy things all the time! I am so scandalized right now!!!
I don't know, maybe some guys are into sexting. (Ugh, how it pains me!) If you are apart for a while, it can be fun. It's nice to get a text that shows she has to have you right now or else her lady parts will explode. But nothing beats the human voice. Are we forgetting the lost art of phone sex and naughty voice messages?? Words are only so exciting.
I don't know, maybe I'm old-fashioned, but it doesn't do a lot for me. Occasionally, sure. But I just find it silly. If you do it, consider who might be looking for his shoulder. Also, is he a jerk who shares the dirty things his girlfriend texts him with his friends? Hopefully not, but you never know. And also, don't freak out if he doesn't text back right away. Maybe he's at work, or on the subway, or just not in the mood to text. I would say start out slow and see if he's into it. In any good sexting session, both parties should be tapping out equally filthy things.
Ah, geez. Everybody is sexting all the time, right? The guy ahead of me in the supermarket checkout line is probably describing his penis to his girlfriend while I'm trying to grab a candy bar. My coffee shop barista is typing filthy things to her boyfriend while my Americano is brewing, right? My doctor isn't checking his appointment schedule on his BlackBerry. He's typing things about his wife's clitoris while the nurse is taking my blood pressure.
Everyone is typing filthy things all the time! I am so scandalized right now!!!
Ugh, sexting is lame ducks.
A little foreplay anyone? I think dirty texting is great. Not all the time,but for those quickies..its gets you ready and boom!
I find some dirty texts work great for playing into working up the person you're dating, kind of a you gotta wait to have it so you want it more kind of deal but not good to do ALL the time as then the randomness and often nice surprise fades and it either becomes a standard for your realationship or just makes you both go eh whatever.
I find it's great once in awhile for the commited deals. It's not for something that's a fling or you know isn't going to be lasting. These types of texts tend to be for making a nice surprise for someone you passionately care for, and you never know that might just be a good pick me up when they have a bad day. But never ever would I have done this for a fling or 'time filler' realationship.
Last thing you need to have happen is out of nowhere all your personal images and words get sent to their whole address list and then it can spread out from there til some random person you don't know starts snickering about you while your food shopping or whatever. Yes that can sound paraniod but it DOES happen more often with the young crowd but it still does.
Worse yet is if you're over 18 and your bf/gf is still 16 or 17, and even if BOTH of you send dirty texts, most states will see that as child pornography and have you arrested and registered as a child sex offender. I watched a special on 'Sexting' and both cases happened where one had their stuff sent out by someone they thought they knew and another one was where even though he didn't ask for the pics his girl still sent them and they had a fight so he forwarded the pics and ended up as possessing child porn.
So text with care!
I've had fun with it but I, too, rather hear something than read something. I'm seeing this one guy who lives out of town so usually before he comes over we message back and forth a bit making the plans and sometimes things get a little naughty.
Maybe there's a request for me to be wearing something, or being told what to expect, or what he wants from me. Other times I get to surprise him or be surprised, but that 30mins while he's driving over I get to let my imagination go crazy. It makes the moment I open that door a little more passionate.
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I think once in a while is ok. But CONSTANT sexual texting, and no other subject is just that... JUST SEX... He's just not that into you!! Just wants to get off while you sext back and forth. Get a real guy and one that treats you with respect!
Works very well when we are apart, or when we very close but have to wait before being alone... ^^ It's like whispering it in his ears at a party.. I love to see his reaction when I do it..