I wish I could, but you ask the impossible. There are as many theories about that as there are slang names for boobs, and there are lots of those, trust me, because I know them all.
Some say it's an attraction left over from when we were breastfed as infants. Others say it's that breasts represent fertility. Some even purport that cleavage resembles a woman's backside and reminds our inner cave man of the good old days when we could mozy up and mount you like a dog and get busy. I encourage you to research it and see what's being said by people far more qualified than I am to answer the question. Me, I just like them because they're soft and jiggly and fun to play with. And they look like big ice cream sundaes with cherries on top. I love ice cream.
As for the boob-starers, almost all guys will take a gander at your funbags, especially if you are rocking some cleavage (which I encourage, by the way). We are powerless over that shit. But I'm talking about quick, subtle (hopefully) peeks. Any guy that stares blatantly at them has decided, at least on a subconscious level, that he doesn't care if you notice or if it makes you uncomfortable, which means he has no respect for you. In other words, he's an asshat, and not worth your time. Walk away.
If Staring Guy is a co-worker and it's happening on the job, ask him to stop, or at least embarrass him by looking down at your breasts to see what he's looking at. If it persists, talk to Human Resources; they're all ears when it comes to sexual harassment, and constant staring is sexual harassment.
Some say it's an attraction left over from when we were breastfed as infants. Others say it's that breasts represent fertility. Some even purport that cleavage resembles a woman's backside and reminds our inner cave man of the good old days when we could mozy up and mount you like a dog and get busy. I encourage you to research it and see what's being said by people far more qualified than I am to answer the question. Me, I just like them because they're soft and jiggly and fun to play with. And they look like big ice cream sundaes with cherries on top. I love ice cream.
As for the boob-starers, almost all guys will take a gander at your funbags, especially if you are rocking some cleavage (which I encourage, by the way). We are powerless over that shit. But I'm talking about quick, subtle (hopefully) peeks. Any guy that stares blatantly at them has decided, at least on a subconscious level, that he doesn't care if you notice or if it makes you uncomfortable, which means he has no respect for you. In other words, he's an asshat, and not worth your time. Walk away.
If Staring Guy is a co-worker and it's happening on the job, ask him to stop, or at least embarrass him by looking down at your breasts to see what he's looking at. If it persists, talk to Human Resources; they're all ears when it comes to sexual harassment, and constant staring is sexual harassment.
Boobs are awesome! Guys like them, yes, but even I sneak (quick!) peeks at good racks too, and I'm straight as an arrow. They're just pretty.
As for the blatant staring, I've actually looked down at my own chest and said, "Oh, I thought I must have spilled something on myself!" to get someone to stop gawking. And that was a chick gawking. Awkward!
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Bev, me too! I mean, I wouldn't say I'm straight as an arrow as it is, so I have a really hard time not staring. Booooooooobs. And nice comeback for a gawker.
You answered that as best you could Cary because, really, there is no logical answer to this question. Boobs are just fantastic. Period.
Man, I can't count how many times a week I have to literally, in my head, say to myself "Michael, WHY are you reflexively glancing at this woman's chest while you're talking to her? She is a human being dammit, look her in the damned eyes."
It's not even an arousal thing. I seriously have to put in effort to not automatically flick my gaze to chest level while I converse with a lady. It's like a deeply ingrained habit that you just can't break. Women, we're not asking you to forgive us, just to understand.
..."because they're soft and jiggly and fun to play with. And they look like big ice cream sundaes with cherries on top. I love ice cream."
What a hilarious slice of honesty!
It's so true, though! I can never get over how soft and squishy they are (especially el grande boobs), and nipples just add to the fun for everyone.
I volunteer myself to research boobs and discover why men are attracted to them. I'll need to analyze hundreds, even thousands of pairs to gather as much data as possible... Sounds daunting, I know, but I'm a college student. What the hell else do I have to do?
I think men just have an appreciation of the female form as great art (which is fine). It is nicer, though, when they can also listen to what a woman has to say and appreciate her intelligence too.
The links you included made me laugh, Cary.
I don't like when girls ask this question. Honestly, when a girl wears a low cut shirt, I can't stop looking. So either own it or don't wear a low cut shirt. Don't pick something out that focuses on your cleavage and then complain that your attempts are actually working... It is ridiculous!
It's a mystery for the ages. Once upon a time I worked in a hair salon, and boob jobs became the big thing that all the girls were getting. It quickly became apparent that everybody - guys, girls, gay, straight - would jump at the chance to look and touch. ESPECIALLY the gay guys, their fascination with breasts bordered on childlike wonder. It was an eye opening time.
Boobies. It's even fun to say.
Maybe your boobs are more interesting than what you're saying!
In all seriousness though, I look and I'm straight.
I recommend the next time that happens, stop looking them in the eye and start staring at their crotch.
Or do what Bev did!
HAHAHA! Stare at their crotch! GENIUS!
In defense of men everywhere, it's not exclusively a guy thing. I have... let's say almost comically large breasts, and it's a struggle for *anyone* not to stare. Even my best friend, who I have known since sixth grade, has confessed to me that sometimes, still, she cannot help but get distracted by the boobage.
Looking is one thing. Staring is another.
But then, I once read that a woman will always know when you're looking at her boobs no matter how furtive you think you are, so it might not matter.
As a woman, I have to agree, boobies are wonderful. There was a comedian ages ago that did a song that went something like:
Tits... I'm crazy about tits...'cause if she's got tits, then I'm gonna stare. I like them indiviually, or by the pair."
if you have triple d's on a 42-32-38 figure, its kind of hard to miss. i dont blame guys for looking, but like Cary said, there is a difference between glancing and staring.
I have large boobs and I love my girls so much. They get me into (and out of) so much trouble.
Though I am not interested in men who constantly are taking looks when they think I'm not looking. In the bedroom, that's one thing. Give them all the attention you possibly can. However, if we just met and you keep doing quick or not so quick glances/stares, that's not very hot. Save it for later. Fake it till you make it guys! Looking at my eyes and listening to what I have to say is a sure fire way to getting in my pants.
My boobs are a running joke among my friends. I've got a great rack and I do exploit them.
this is a classic
but i'd have to agree
the female body is beautiful [no homo]
shoot i even catch myself staring in the mirror after a shower sometimes LOL
curves are sexy =]
I get on my knees when I talk to boobalicious women, so that I can look at their boobs and their eyes at the same time.
I get down on my knees when I talk to boobalicious women, so that I can look at their boobs and their eyes at the same time.
I think you hit the nail on the head when you labeled it a "primal fascination", because that's exactly what it is.
We men get mighty frustrated when we are accused of being pigs, or being shallow, of staring too much. If you don't want men to stare, DON'T SHOW THEM OFF. Please. Knock it off with the see-thru tops, the push-up bras, and the boob jobs. If you REALLY didn't want men to stare, women, you wouldn't be buying those things.
It is as basic to being a man as eating or sleeping. Stop looking for an "explanation". There isn't one. Accept it as a "primal" part of male behavior.
"Knock it off with the see-thru tops, the push-up bras, and the boob jobs."
Dude! Shut your face!
A little known fact:
When single girls "dress up," they are mostly doing it for each other, not for the guys they may or may not meet. It's well known that most straight guys are going to like what they see anyways (unless the chick is built like a military tank), so that's no challenge. But if you can get a straight girl (ie. not sexually interested in you) to tell you that you look hot, well then, YOU, my friend, are SMOKIN' HOT.
Then it's time to knock all the guys' socks off!!! :)
I'm always amazed that men's first answer to this question is that if we don't want them staring at our breasts then we should stop wearing skimpy tops and showing our cleavage. I always catch men's eyes wandering to my chest at work and I usually wear a buttoned up blouse that is not tight with a blazer over it. It unfortunately speaks to a very deeply ingrained idea in our society that if a man violates a woman (visually or physically) she must have somehow been "asking for it."
I'm also amazed at how many men (and women) will say "men just can't help it." Really? Well, how about developing some self-control? That's what it means to be an adult in a civilized society. As women we are always somehow held responsible for men's sexual behavior toward us. How many times when a woman is raped have we heard, "Well, she shouldn't have been wearing a short skirt"? Or, "What was she doing out alone after midnight?" And no, I'm not saying a man who looks at a woman's breasts is in any way a rapist. I'm simply saying that men need to take some responsibility for their behavior, too. This idea that men just "can't help it" is dangerous for women and, quite frankly, an insult to males.
I am so happy to read your post. I too, believe that to say that men cannot help themselves is an insult to men. Men have brains. Men make choices. They look at our breasts because they want to and because society finds this behavior okay. Now though, Scorpio tell me, If no man ever looks you over, glances at your breast ect, How do you know that he is interested in you physically. Intelligent people are drahatwn to each other. That man that sees only how intelligent you are, might not be attracted to you at all.
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I agree