The real reason is that dudes who do this are dickheads with tiny peckers who hate themselves so much and feel so weak internally that they lash out like little babies at the easiest target, who is often his girlfriend, wife or child. Then because he's such a coward he won't even take the blame for his actions.
He will never stop hitting you. If you don't leave him he may even put you in the hospital or worse yet, in the ground. If you live with him, pack up immediately and go somewhere else. Go to a friends. A relative. Anywhere. Just go! Do not fall for his b.s. anymore.
If you don't follow my advice, which I sincerely hope you do, leave documentation like photos of your bruises in a safe place so that should the worst happen, at least he can be prosecuted.
i was put in hospital by my ex husband... he even took a knife to me.. i actually let him back into the family home after this... 9 months later he hit me again... i knew then he would NEVER change and i kicked him out that was 8 months ago now and ive never been happier.. no1 deserves what these b@stards do.. and no matter how much they say they will change...they wont.. leave...run... and please for the love of god dont ever look back..
you are worth being loved and cherished.. and so am i.
I totally agree with MM on this one.
Ask yourself, who really cares what his reason is? I don't care what happened to a person before to "make them that way" there is no excuse. That's for them to figure out if they ever decide to get help. And you aren't helping by being their punching bag. Get out! Quickly! Save yourself and maybe after you aren't close enough to hit, then maybe you can save him.
Best of all if you do have kids it'll impress upon them either great fear of realationships OR that those actions are ok to do to somebody you 'love'. For the kids alone is reason enough to kick him out! Also if you aren't living near anyone who can help you there is always abused women and childrens centers and their prime roles are to help you get him away legally so you can get your life back on something good.
Definetly for sure document anything he's done to you, pictures, write it down cuz even if he never strikes you mental and emotional abuse is still abuse. I know because my mother did all 3 (physical, mental and emotional) to me while growing up and I could have let it fuck me up (that's not to say I still don't have some issues) and become just as bitter and uncaring as her. But instead I rose above it and am sweet and caring towards others, after all you get more flies with sugar than vinegar and you do get back what you put into life it just can take time to come around.
So realise 1) You don't cause his behavior, for whatever reason something spurs him to be like that but odds are it wasn't you that embedded those behaviours in him 2) You are better than whatever he tells you so be though and tell yourself everyday 'I am a worthwhile person and am better than any garbage he throws at me' and 3) You have the right to just up and leave at any point (just make sure you call some people you trust first so if he DOES freak out and call them they are less likely to rat out where you went)
And if worse comes to absolute worse call the cops! But make sure you get your life moving away from him quickly after that because if cops have to come out more than 2 for the same thing yeah they'll come but are less likely to really help you get him away for good.
I completely agree with this. One thing I wanted to add was to remember the 3 Cs: You didn't Cause the behavior. You can't Control it, and you can't Change it. This is usually applies to those who live with an alcoholic, but it helped me leave an abusive relationship. Good luck, and remember that you have to do what's best for you. You're the one who has to live your life. No one else does.
It's not going to get any better, honey-bunch. It's just going to get worse. Do what you have to and get out of this. If you have kids, all the more so. Men are designed to be physically strong, and they are capable of killing women and children if they really wanted to. Don't let him sweet-talk you.
Hitting a woman isn't a relashionship trouble, it is a crime. It amazes me that you asked that question like it was such a normal thing. I'm a psichologist and please, let me advice you to look for one and talk about your situation.
i was in a abusive relationship and he hit me but never hard just slap me and stuff like that.. but after awhile he promised 2 never do it again and ever since he hasnt and i trust that he wont..so there is hope. but most men keep hitting that is true
THEY ARE COMPLETELY RIGHT! HE IS NEVER GOING TO STOP SND ITS ONLY GOING TO GET WORSE.I JUST GOT OUT OF A 4YR RELATIONSHIP MYSELF. SCARED IS WHAT I FELT DAY IN AND DAY OUT. HE WOULD HOLD MONEY, CAR PAYMENTS,BILLS OVER MY HEAD MAKING ME FEEL LIKE I COULDNT LIVE WITHOUT HIM. EMOTIONAL, PHISICAL, AND MENTAL ABUSE IS NOT OK! IT HURTS YOUR KIDS AND TAINTS THERE JUDGEMENT AND ABILITY TO SEE LIFE CAN BE OK. NOT TO BE ANGRY AND HURT BECAUSE THEY CAN FEEL LIKE YOU R PICKING THE ASS OVER THEM.YOU CAN MAKE IT ON YOUR OWN!
It may be fun to just come and say a guy who hits you just has a small dick but that's nowhere near true. Chances are he grew up in a violent home and learned no other way to treat people. While these guys ought to be hanged from their first offense (because it's never their last), they should be avoided. That's where common sense should come in for women; if a man hits you over some perceived slight, he'll definitely beat you for something he considers serious and no one deserves that. Sadly some people never learn; my grand-aunt was beat up by her then-boyfriend for the crime of another man looking at her, she never sent him to hell like he deserved and she married him spending the next SIXTY years of her life being smacked around by this piece of human shit. My daughter will never marry a man because if he touches her once, he dies. As he should.
I meant say "like this guy."
psichologist, huh? If it's your profession, you should be able to spell psychcologist. Way to go, Basil!
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Hi I am a 24 year old man and I and my ex where drunk and I think I started it but I end up rutting her up a a lil bit a couple brusises I got a bite mark till this day in my side constantly reminding me of what I did anywho her other lover hashed me with a wrench and welll I fill its fare cause they are close the reason I'm siting this is I want explain why I might have hit a girl maybe if I tell y'all I can keep it from being habit I felt powerless that's the brass tax of it I didn't grow up in a bad home or any of that I'm really a non violent nice guy I just snapped I just didn't want to feel unappreciated and powerless and imposing my power seemed at the time to be the best idea now she forgiven me she even wanted to continue dating I refused thinking that I might be avolving into an abusive man ive been trying to move on but dating another women scares me and ive never been good finding a nice guy to love but the people around her want to kill me like I'm scared most days that happened six months ago this is my take on thangs I'm not a monster because but Im lucky enough to address myself before I let the monster become me
Hi I am a 24 year old man and I and my ex where drunk and I think I started it but I end up rutting her up a a lil bit a couple brusises I got a bite mark till this day in my side constantly reminding me of what I did anywho her other lover hashed me with a wrench and welll I fill its fare cause they are close the reason I'm siting this is I want explain why I might have hit a girl maybe if I tell y'all I can keep it from being habit I felt powerless that's the brass tax of it I didn't grow up in a bad home or any of that I'm really a non violent nice guy I just snapped I just didn't want to feel unappreciated and powerless and imposing my power seemed at the time to be the best idea now she forgiven me she even wanted to continue dating I refused thinking that I might be avolving into an abusive man ive been trying to move on but dating another women scares me and ive never been good finding a nice guy to love but the people around her want to kill me like I'm scared most days that happened six months ago this is my take on thangs I'm not a monster because but Im lucky enough to address myself before I let the monster become me
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