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What is your persective on what love should feel like? I think I love my bf, but wonder if it's just strong like.

If you think you love him, maybe you do. Maybe at this very moment in time, you really do love him. That could change tomorrow or warm your bones in the grave. That's the first thing about love -- it comes and goes as it pleases. A spontaneous merry-go-round.
Love can be a soap bubble that glistens and floats and pops. It can be a sudden, warm summer rain that marches with wet little feet across hot and gritty foreheads. Or love can last, his name tattooed on your tongue forever.

So, first, get use to the motion sickness of love. If you can hold on, hold on for dear life. If not, don't be afraid to let go. Fate is something we tell ourselves so we won't go mad. Love happens, or it doesn't. But it will always do one of those two things. If it's not happening, it'll happen eventually. If it's happening, don't take it for granted.

I've taken bites out of love, and I've had love take bites out of me. I have the scars to prove it, and one day, those scars will help me tell my grandchildren a thrilling and scary story that has a happy ending.

Do you love him? When you close your eyes, do you still see him? When he scratches his head, do you feel it in your scalp? Is every love song ever written specifically written about you and him? When he kisses you, do your nerves burn bright like Las Vegas neon? When you press your body against his, are you a cool pat of butter and he a warm waffle? What I mean to say is: you melt, no?

Is every morning you wake up next to him Christmas morning? Does the sun set behind his wonderful noggin? If he you were never to see him again, would it feel as if some vandal spray painted the windows to your soul with black paint?

Are we nodding yes, or are we rolling our eyes? Both? Because that's totally love.

When you're in love, you're head is a hot-air balloon. Your stomach fills with jumping jellybeans. Love is sharing a secret language comprised of giggles, moans, and sighs. Love is molecular and cosmic, an imperceptible wink from across a room and a a marriage proposal during a baseball game in front of thousands of people. Love is every beautiful color, fragrant smell, melodious sound, and delicious taste, and without love, everything is grey, sulphuric, silent, and sour. Love is gravity, and without it, we'd spin off this planet. Careening out into space, and knocking the stars off their perches, crashing down.

Love is a magical stomach flu where you vomit champagne and strawberries.

Love feels like your favorite mitten. It feels heavy, like gold underoos. Love is cool Calamine lotion on itchy Poison Ivy.

And you'll know it when you feel it, because you'll ask "is this love?"


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Wow. After reading that beautiful response I think I love Reformed Player!

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What really sucks is when you feel all of this and he doesn't.

rhilex

"Love is a magical stomach flu where you vomit champagne and strawberries."

Lmfao.

No

Not that this wasn't very eloquent, but this sounds more like an ode to infatuation than anything, not love.

Love is not a feeling. It's not made up of physical warm fuzzies. Love is an action. Love isn't about what's right for ME and what *I* want. Love is sacrificial.

There's also a difference to love and being IN love. It's impossible to stay IN love forever, but it's very possible to love someone forever.

And either way, I don't think love "comes and goes". You can't fall out of love just like that. It's more complicated than that.

Wise Ass' recent answer to the question, "Ever doubt you were in love?" gets a tad closer to a description of what I think what love should actually look like.

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Everyone's experience of love is going to be different. Some people are going to experience it as a warm, safe, wonderful feeling. And others will hold a colder but more giving love.

Also, if you love someone, and they love you back, then why on Earth can't you be in love with them forever?

No

Not that this wasn't very eloquent, but this sounds more like an ode to infatuation than anything, not love.

Love is not a feeling. It's not made up of physical warm fuzzies. Love is an action. Love isn't about what's right for ME and what *I* want. Love is sacrificial.

There's also a difference to love and being IN love. It's impossible to stay IN love forever, but it's very possible to love someone forever.

And either way, I don't think love "comes and goes". You can't fall out of love just like that. It's more complicated than that.

Wise Ass' recent answer to the question, "Ever doubt you were in love?" gets a tad closer to a description of what I think what love should actually look like.

John DeVore

Thanks for the comment.

What love feels like and what love is are two different questions, no?

I was trying to convey that first rush. I'm a super soaker water gun full of nacho cheese.

And I'd say love comes and goes. Every day, someone falls out of love. And every day, someone loves someone who won't love them back.

Of course, who loves you back isn't nearly as important as who you love.

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Dude. Is there a reason you feel the need to work vomit into almost every response you give concerning love? It's beginning to look like you have some kind of romantic bulimia, equating strong feeling with gastrointestinal fireworks. If we all threw up as much as Reformed Player apparently does, we'd be feeling a lot of love and having a lot of esophageal ulcers. Ew.

Justice

This person specifically asked what love should "feel like." Its kind of difficult to describe love because it varies with each relationship. But I think he did a darn great job with the question.

JDV, I love your metaphors.

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Jesus. You write some good shit.

Juan

I think John captured the beginning rush of love accurately. Very addicting and emotional. However, the stages of love change over time. So do the feelings. I think real love is a choice. In this way it's very possible to love someone forever. Emotion is way too unreliable. I believe that you could love or hate anyone regardless of whether or not you like what they do or have done.

For health reasons It would be best to choose to love a partner you are compatible with.

Nautilus

Wow John...I didnt know you were this poetic...very poetic indeed...

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