It's not really the clothes that catch our eye. It's the parts of you not covered by fabric. And then the suggestion of what the rest of you looks like underneath the clothes you are wearing.
Men don't notice fashion as much as women think we do. Conversely, a dude with style and fashion sense almost always impresses a woman. Clubs should be full of women dressed down and men dressed up. In a world where women wear trash bags and men teal Burberry sweaters, everybody gets laid.
Almost all men are turned into babbling teenage boys when confronted by a woman who knows how to present her physical gifts. Show a little cleavage, or wear a short skirt and show off your long legs. Don't be afraid to wear something that lets your booty bounce. Use your clothes to flirt with us. Don't show it all. Just enough.Keep in mind that men mentally undress every woman they meet. Every single one. We can't help it.
To recap: your orbs of glory, killer legs, and fresh posterior produce make us spontaneously drool. You know what else gives us instant boners? Laser beam eyes and Cheshire cat grins. Everything else is just Christmas present wrapping paper.
What if we're kinda overweight? Do you still want to see our boobs/butts/legs? I mean, I'm really not THAT fat, but I still feel awkward and self-conscious when I wear skirts or low-cut shirts. If she could stand to lose 20 pounds do you still admire her butt?
You either want to look great naked or look great clothed, so if you don't have the 'perfect' body then work on how you dress.
There are going to be guys that admire your body and not think "well she's 20lbs too heavy but I still like it", they will think "that's what perfection is!" There is no standard for beauty, there is no one type a girl for every guy. Every guy is different and finds different things attractive. Dress for the body you have and project the image you want to.
Conceal the parts you need to conceal and bring attention to your best features. You may be on the heavier side but maybe you have a small waist? Wear empire shirts, or structured jackets, or use a belt on the thinnest part of you. I've known some bigger girls with killer stems, show them off but make sure the the skirt isn't so small that you look out of proportion. If you're not comfortable with showing off the boob region outright then make sure you're wearing a bra and a top that still shows you've got killer ones underneath.
I am a plus sized, fat, curvy, whatever you call it and have never had a problem attracting men. Give good face, enter a room with confidence, and wear something that makes your feel like sex personified. Personally, I go for a nice sheer patterned top that cinches in at my waist, dark denim boot cut or slightly flared jeans, a pair of killer boots or heels, and whatever my current fave piece of jewelery is (right now, black crystaled talon on a long necklace, it's so kickass). Every desirable part of my body is at it's best in this outfit.
If you're still need some help boosting your confidence then get a body slimmer, SPANX all the way!
Here are something NOT to do:
-Hide under your clothes, don't wear big baggy clothes because it's easier. You can still dress great and be fashionable.
-Fidget or pick at yourself, if you have to keep tugging at the shirt, pulling your jeans up, or adjusting your bra strap you're going to come off as sloppy and like you lack confidence.
-Wear something too small because you couldn't bear to go up a size. Each store is different and the sizing can vary. You could go up or down by 2 dress sizes depending on the cut, fabric, store, even what country the item was made in. Don't look at numbers and instead look at what you see in the mirror. I have a huge wardrobe and from my smallest to largest size if a different of 4 dress sizes but both fit. It's just a stupid silly number.
Thank you so much! I suck at fashion and hate watching E! or any sort of style guidance, but I realize the importance of looking fabulous.
Not a problem, fashion/design/being awesome is my poison. There are also tonnes of blogs out there for fashion forward plus size ladies with a lot of helpful advice.
Another tip, plan a whole day around shopping. I know a lot of girls who don't like it but try to make it an experience you enjoy. Try new stores, don't shop hungry, wear comfortable shoes (pack the nice shoes in a purse if you're planning a specific outfit). Above all, you have to enter with the right frame of mind. If you walk in a store with the "I never find anything that fits/looks good" then you won't or if you do it will be summed up as 'luck'. You'll skim racks, grab safe choices, and leave with the self fulfilled prophecy of failure. Enter with an open optimistic attitude and if one store doesn't work just move onto the next.
I have converted several bad shoppers/dressers who were like picky eaters; they didn't know how it tasted but didn't like the way it looked. Something may look weird on the rack but great on your rack. Don't say no to anything, trying it on is not committing to the outfit.
Haha can you tell I really want you to succeed at this!? You're gonna look so damn hot! haha
Ok last tip, give new stores a chance! I didn't think H&M would have my size but have found some great tops from there, or because I'm tall, been able to convert dresses into tops with some handy sewing skills.
Whoa, you should have your own blog! That is some awesome advice, even though I'm not plus sized, I'm really tiny (5'0) and thin and finding perfect clothes can be a challenge. I used to be self-concious but now I just dress the way I want, because things just fit me a little differently so I use belts, or turn a longer top into a mini dress or a too long skirt into a mini dress, and always accesorize. You can always look good no matter what size you are.
Haha thanks, I love compliments! I couldn't write a blog, I love to talk but I hate proper sentence structure...it hurts...so bad. Plus I just gave all my good advice away..what would I talk about now? Oh and today I'm wearing a hoodie, I think that disqualifies me from being fashionable...it's an old hoodie too haha
Every size and shape has a different challenge. I think a lot of us forget that, which is unfortunate. My mom had a models figure, tall and skinny, but she still faces challenges and reminded us (I have a twin sister) that being called 'skinny' can be an insult too. It's really all about confidence in the end.
I bet you can wear skinny jeans and heels like no other :) You're right, you can look good no matter what size you are. That's a truth so many women and men can't face.
I'm all for being naked. Clothing makes people feel bad. I bet there would be no self-concious people is we were all naked.
Those last two lines are how most men think, thank god you said it out loud (or typed, rather.)
I might have to disagree with this to a certain extent. While I would say that more revealing outfits tend to catch my eye, I'm much more impressed with a woman who has a good sense of style. It's nice to ogle a woman in a skimpy outfit, but if I were looking to pursue something serious, I would pick the woman who puts together a nice outfit any day. That's what impresses me, and I think that says something good about the woman who's wearing it.
Guys love women who wear the seamed stockings, and 4 1/2" heels with just enough of the top portion showing that leaves a lot more for the imagooooo...brain cells. I'm talking about the ones with the Cubin Heel, tan on black or black on tan...check it out girls...www.stockinggirls.com
Any other colors save for the bed room or speacial events....try it and you'll see what I'm talking about...
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