Does it, though? If being in a relationship with you doesn't feel right to him, wouldn't you want to know? What if the tables were turned and you realized you no longer wanted to be with him? Yes, maybe you'd be more specific in your reasoning, but the general consensus would be the same: your feelings for him are no longer the same as they once were.
If anything, he's being honest about his feelings. "It doesn't feel right" is a way of saying, "I should have feelings for you, but I don't." And that's not a position you want to be in. Do you want to be with a guy who feels like you're not the one for him?
And, honestly, there are far worse ways for him to dump you. Sure, it's not what you want to hear, but it's better than "I'm not attracted to you anymore" or "The thought of having sex with you makes my skin crawl." (Hopefully no one will ever actually use that.) You can't really argue with "this doesn't feel right." Maybe it feels right to you, but, unfortunately, you can't control the way he feels. Yes, it would be nice if he was in touch with his emotions enough to explain to you exactly why he wants to break-up. But if "it doesn't feel right" is all he can muster, you're probably better off without him.
If anything, he's being honest about his feelings. "It doesn't feel right" is a way of saying, "I should have feelings for you, but I don't." And that's not a position you want to be in. Do you want to be with a guy who feels like you're not the one for him?
And, honestly, there are far worse ways for him to dump you. Sure, it's not what you want to hear, but it's better than "I'm not attracted to you anymore" or "The thought of having sex with you makes my skin crawl." (Hopefully no one will ever actually use that.) You can't really argue with "this doesn't feel right." Maybe it feels right to you, but, unfortunately, you can't control the way he feels. Yes, it would be nice if he was in touch with his emotions enough to explain to you exactly why he wants to break-up. But if "it doesn't feel right" is all he can muster, you're probably better off without him.
Thanks! This helped a lot. Oh well, I suppose, nothing I can do.
It's not a cop out at all. That's a very valid thing to say. If only we were all that emotionally honest.
That's not a cop out. I told one boyfriend that things change, feelings change, people change and that is something that just can't be explained. I'm not sure he thought that was a legitimate reason but it was the truth. I couldn't explain why I just stopped feeling the same for him, but it, wait for it, just didn't feel quite right.
This just happened This me. Never would have thought it was possible to loose feelings but it was a feeling you can't control. I have no switch. One of the hardest things I've ever done.