I'll give it you - this falls under the deeply awkward to profoundly troubling category. That said, if we are all to be judged solely on what porn we've ever watched, this country would grind to a halt and nobody would ever make eye contact again. My eyes, like many others, have seen the glory of some hideous porn.
But your situation strikes me a bit because you found bestiality porn on his phone. Like, not even his laptop. That means he had a mobile yearning for animal f*cking porn. Heavy. Is it illegal? I think so. It must be. It's abusive to animals. How is hitting a pony different than coercing a German Shepard to hit you up from the back? And though the saying let sleeping dogs lie, has its place, I think this whole situation deserves some dialogue between you two. Do you really want to be long term dating or marrying a dude without vetting this to some degree? Not that you are fearful he will leave you for a Jersey heifer one day, but masturbating to animal sex is curious business. Bring up the topic. Don't treat him like a vile miscreant off the bat, but engage him as someone who is curious and loves him. Maybe there is something in his deepest desires that could come to light in this discussion and be of benefit.
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What should one do if they find there boyfriend's phone has girls having sex with animals videos? Is this normal if not acted upon? Maybe just thrill porn? I have deleted them, and I think he knows I did that but we havent talked about it... and i really don't want to. Are those videos illegal?? I think they should be
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Ew that's gross, but who am I to judge your bf and what he likes, right?
Regardless of how disgusting I find that particular behaviour of his, I find yours really shady. One shouldn't snoop around people's phones or computers. Eventually, you're going to find stuff you wish you hadn't found.
I bet you anything, if you went through your dad's, bff's or mom's phone/computer, you'd find some crazy stuff there too. Somebody's phone is a personal item nobody should mess with.
Mistake number two, you deleted his nasty videos. No matter how much you dislike them, it's his phone and you're not his mom!!! You shouldn't have deleted anything from his phone, don't ever do that again, it's disrespectful.
Now, if it bothers you, talk to him. If it changed the image you had of him, try to work things out, if you cannot cope with that, break up with him.
... And next time you feel like snooping around someone's phone, don't.
I can maybe shed some light on why it had to be on the phone, and not the laptop. I'll even tell you why finding the movies on the phone should worry you less, than if you found it on a computer. Also, I'd wager a guess that your (and BF's) age is probably not more than 25. The thing is, it's not about the porn, it's about the other dudes he shows it to. Partially because watching your mate's reaction to 2 girls 1 cup can be priceless, and secondly, you have a movie that society clearly doesn't want you to have. You are rebel, you get the admiration of your mates for being a badass (well, that's the theory, what really happens is a different thing). I don't think this has anything to do with sexual arousal, and a lot more with social status. Some people start smoking for "street cred", some wear clothes two sizes too big, some show shock porn to friends. No big deal IMO, chances are, he'll grow up at some point.
That is my take on it. My guy works with all guys and showing each other porn on their phones is typical. (He watches his own alone) Not difficult to see where shocking someone could be funny.
My guess is someone who was really into animal abuse would hide it better. Still, talk to him about it...and perhaps about your need to go through his phone.
If some things are a 'deal breaker' in your book, let him know, then let him go.