As the great Bob Dylan, or was it Dylan McKay said, "Time is an ocean, but it ends at the shore/you may not see me tomorrow." This might not be the answer you were hoping for, but to the best of my infinite knowledge it's the truth: He makes it work
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When a man meets a "perfect" anything - woman, sofa, shoe, pen, he will make room for it in his life and not let it go. They find a way to add this perfection to their menagerie of spinning plates. Why? Because true connection, true soul-finding (forget about the sofa and pens for a minute) is too rare a commodity to brush aside. When one finds the one, they've won. Only a dummy tosses their "perfection" back in the sea.

Now, I know I'm painting a grim picture; unless your man finds a way to make it work NOW he doesn't care enough, but that's largely how I feel. Being focused on work shouldn't preclude the development of a budding perfect relationship. Very few things do, serious health concerns or intense family issues. But, wanting to be awesome at the new firm? Wanting to be the best 5th grade teacher at Mountain Creek Elementary? Needing to be the badest-ass cop in town at the peril of losing true love? Sorry, I don't accept it.

Yes, careers matter a ton. I'm not a senseless romantic -- I'm just saying there should always be wiggle room for the right tail (sorry). Encourage him to find a way. Life isn't linear; it's a living 3-D puzzle -- like Tetris. Good and bad are going to constantly fall from the sky, the key is finding a way to make the blocks fit. Not run from them.