Hmm. Maybe he lost his balls in the war. It happens. They say being ball-less makes lovemaking a challenge. Or maybe he's about to be deported and knows it. If that's the case, though, seems like he'd want to marry you, if only to get his green card and be able to stay in the U.S.
Honestly, I have no idea what he means. Guys say stupid stuff sometimes. Did you ask him? When does he say it, when you're talking about getting more serious/married?
Maybe there's a reason behind it, but to me it just sounds like a bullshit excuse not to commit, as you suspect. I'd say move on, but you really need to find out what he means, if anything. If he's truly blowing you off and that's the best line he can come up with, then be glad to be rid of someone so unimaginative and lame.
he loves you, not in love with you. he cant do anything with the love he has, he cant go any deaper than surface love.thats my guess. or he cant help that he loves you and is trying to get something out of you? he wants to know what you want from his love? which to me is unexceptable. if he cant be clear about his love, there will be many more unclearness with him. you should never have to wonder what someone is saying if he cant explain it, than he needs time for himself to figure out some important issues.
"surface love"? Are you kidding me? WTH? Call it what it is... lust. If it's on the surface, as you mention, and nothing deeper, it's not love. So, guys, DON'T USE THE WORD "LOVE" IF YOU DON'T REALLY MEAN IT.
NEWSFLASH!!! We don't want you to say what you think we want to hear. Quit with the stupid games!
I think the question asker said it best, "What a weirdo!" Girl, move on.
I agree, why da hell do men say things they don't mean. My current FWB (friends with benefit) told me in the first month that he was falling in love with me. Since then he has never said again. Wth was the point of that if he was already in my pants..lol..
The point is to stay in your pants...kind of a security deposit of sorts.
He loves you, but he can't do anything about it? It sounds like his way of using words to string you along without making any commitment on his part. I'd say stick a fork in him, he's done. I would recommend that you be done with him too.
He is totally trying to string you along. Don't fall for the okey-doke. Just cut the string.
Maybe it's code for "I have herpes and my Valtrex just ran out."
Yikes. Thanks for the reminder, AfroAmber.
rofl!