Jeepers! I read this question and my reaction was "WHO kisses at age 13???"

To the OP, I would relax, and not worry like Swaim said. I hadn't kissed anyone when I was 13, and none of my friends had either. That's really young in my opinion, you're not far off from playing with dolls/army men at that age.

I kissed one boy during freshman year of high school, thought it was kinda bleh, and didn't kiss anyone else for the next four years. I never dated in high school, and from everything I saw, I didn't miss out on anything. Focus on school, discovering your personal+career interests, and building LASTING friendships in middle+high school, because that's the only thing you will keep. I had a pretty great high school experience, with not too much drama, and I think that's because I chose not to date. Boys are drama.

College is a much better time for dating, trust me. Boys in high school have so many hormones racing through their system... even if they do love you, they'll probably break your heart because they can't control themselves. It's just a bad combo. They are waaaay too horny to form good relationships. Also, they can make bad decisions because of this (they want to get in your pants so bad that they might still do it even if there is no condom available...).

So, don't worry about when you get your first kiss and all those other firsts. Just enjoy your life, be yourself, work on school and hobbies, and at some point it will happen :-)

You're THIRTEEN? What the...? What 13-year-old honestly cares about having had their first kiss? I didn't realize 13-year-olds were even interested in the opposite sex yet. When I was 13, all I cared about were video games and my Madame Alexander doll collection.

I was 15 when I had my first kiss, and a lot of people don't have theirs until after that point. My best friend is 21 and still hasn't ever been kissed. Your first kiss is not something to put on a pedestal. It won't mean anything after it's over. I'm 20 now - I don't remember much about my first kiss, nor do I really care. Meaningful, lasting relationships are what will matter and are what you'll remember for more than a year.

Forget after high school. Even IN high school, no one cares whether or not you've been kissed. Anyone who does has some kind of superiority complex or major insecurity. No one (worth mentioning) will think you're weird for not having been kissed.

High school has enough dramas without introducing boys and relationships to the equation. Emotions are at an all time high during adolescence, due to raging hormones, and any heartbreak you experience will seem like the end of the world, every single time.
Enjoy your teenage years as a time to build friendships and learn more about yourself and the world around you. Don't sweat the boy stuff; it will happen when it happens, there's no need to rush it.

A thirteen year old definitely shouldn't be worried about not having a first kiss; you still have high school and college ahead of you. I'm 21, I just graduated from college, and I still haven't been kissed, I never had a boyfriend, I never even held hands with a guy. I'm the only person I know that has never done any of those things, but I just accepted that those are just things I'll never get to experience.

I had my first kiss when I had just turned 15, with a guy I had just met at a 'party'.. At the time, I was glad it had finally happened, since I felt way behind all my peers in the matter. I could have posted the same question as the OP at 13 or 14, being so stressed at the possibility of never kissing a guy, ever -gasp-.
Fast-forward only three years later, none of that kind of past matters at all anymore. I wish I could go back to reason with the innocent, pubescent lip-virgin I was, to tell myself to enjoy my childhood and the simplicity of having no guy problems to deal with.
Believe me, you'll kick yourself later on if you waste time trying to grow up too fast.

I had my first kiss when I had just turned 15, with a guy I had just met at a 'party'.. At the time, I was glad it had finally happened, since I felt way behind all my peers in the matter. I could have posted the same question as the OP at 13 or 14, being so stressed at the possibility of never kissing a guy, ever -gasp-.
Fast-forward only three years later, none of that kind of past matters at all anymore. I wish I could go back to reason with the innocent, pubescent lip-virgin I was, to tell myself to enjoy my childhood and the simplicity of having no guy problems to deal with.
Believe me, you'll kick yourself later on if you waste time trying to grow up too fast.

I had my first kiss when I was 22, in all reality, I wouldn't have waited so long, but it happened when it happened. When I was 13, I wanted a kiss too, but I now know I wasn't ready so young. Enjoy being a teenager, because it doesn't last long. When the time comes, it will happen naturally.

13? seriously why do people worry so much about it, its really not a big deal, it will happen when it happens, i have heard of people doin far worse at 13 anyway, and they have for the most part regretted it. Don't worry so much on stuff like that because if you make it a big deal, it just turns into drama trust me. I just recently had my first kiss at 16 and its not like it was a huge deal. First boyfriend, first kiss, and yet i still have people make fun of me since this is still the only boyfriend i have had and im a junior, honestly just dont let anyone tell you differently and don't let anyone make it seem like its the best thing you can do in the world, trust me there are far better things and far more important things. Stick to being 13 and focus on having fun with friends and doin good in school.

actually i take one part of that back, i said i know just 13 year olds regretting things they have done, not only 13 year olds, i know people that are rom 13-22 regretting what they did in high school and middle school. Many of my friends that are seniors or in college or even my older sisters regret their past, one of my best friends said that he envys me for stayin a virgin, and said he would be pissed if i wasnt. People are either gonna "celebrate" with you that your making good choices or they will talk crap, its a part of life, find the good ones that don't try to get you doing things before you are ready

Like everyone else here has already said, don't worry about your first kiss. I'm 18 and I've never been kissed.
Like Swaim said, just be happy and live your life. I've seen high school relationships, and 99% of them end in a burning, bloody mess.

I had my first kiss at age 10, my first serious boyfriend at age 12, and lost my virginity at age 14. Now that I'm older and more mature I regret giving up such a huge part of my childhood and growing up so fast. You should just enjoy being 13 and not rush things, because soon enough you'll grow up and things will get very complicated.

My first kiss was at 21. Only a few months ago. Me and the boy got physically involved really fast from there... but I don't regret it. It all happened when it was supposed to happen. You're only 13. Don't worry your youth away.

I didn't get my first kiss until i was 14, i wasn't worried and one day; it happened with a great guy. Thirteen is and age of innocence, enjoy it. One day you'll have your first kiss.

Rock on, Vita! I applaud you for being normal (by what I was taught) through the pressures of life!

I work with kids. We were having class by the campfire a month or so ago and the conversation of sex came up. Three of my 13 year old girls had already "lost their virginity." I found out last week that the girl who had claimed to be a virgin during the campfire is seven months pregnant.

My first kiss - 15
First roll in the sheets - 24 (Like Tina Fey I couldn't give it away)

This world is freakin bananas.

I was 19 when I had my first kiss, and honestly, I wouldn't have changed it for the world. You'll be fine sweetheart, best of luck. :)

Hmm. For starters, I'm going to agree and say don't worry at all that it hasn't happened yet.

However...

The idea of avoiding relationships in general because they're not really worth much, or no-one cares after you get to Uni, is a bit of a dangerous one.

I had some wonderfully character-building, gloriously shitty relationships when I was in my teens. Real pure emotional drive going on there. Going through some of it was hellish, but some of it was of a kind of driven perfection that I just couldn't have now. Dating without "shall we move in together" or "whose turn is it to do the dishes" or blah adult stuff like that was just so free.

It was extremely difficult at some points, but I wouldn't go back and change it for the world. To not have a go at something just because it might end badly is to always take the boring middle road in life. Didn't you meet your now-wife in high school, Swaim?

Mine was at 20.

Really, it'll be more special if it just happens naturally.

So many people had their first kiss at 15! Me too =P
One day it'll happen, and it'll either be absolutely terrible or magical. Life is like that. It won't happen if you sit around and worry about it, trust me. Just forget about it and continue living your life.

I know for some of us, it's been a while since we were 13. Should she be worried about her first kiss? Probably not. The fact that so many of you are surprised she's concerned about it shocks me. I remember being about 10 and thinking a certain couple of boys in my class were cute and always wanted to hang out with them. They couldn't have been less interested (in girls in general) at the time.

My first and second kisses were quick pecks, at about age 11, during a very tame game of truth or dare. (That was the most "daring" thing any of us had to do. The rest was more goofy than anything.) The next 5 years were very stressful because no other kissing was going on for me and I thought I was a freak since a lot of the girls I went to school with (all-girl high school) were talking about their sexual "experiences" or so they claimed. After my first real kiss at about 16, I was hooked. It's fun. Just don't feel like you have to go any farther, if you're not ready. I didn't until I was 20. And even then, I wasn't certain I was ready, but did it anyway. There are some regrets, but it's more about the person it was with than my age at the time. So, choose your partner (for any of this) carefully.

Most importantly of all, don't ever feel the need to judge your experiences against the real or perceived experiences of others. You'll know what's best for you when the time is right. Just don't get in a hurry.

my roommate is an adorable, smart, funny, and all-around fabulous girl who still hasn't been kissed at 19. It's perfectly normal and fine. I totally understand being worried because of other people's timelines (I think I was similar) but it'll happen in its own time.

As I have mentionned recently, I was 12 when I got my first kiss. And by kiss, I don't mean a sweet peck on the lips, I mean frenching. I wasn't mature enough to appreciate this kind of girl/boy action and was turned off. I remember why I was so eager to try: all these boys and girls at my school were doing it, I was wondering what it was like anda very cute boy wanted to kiss me. But I just wasn't ready and pretty much made a fool of myself imediatly after it.

Bottom line being: I understand why you are in a hurry, but there is no shame whatsoever in not having been kissed at 13. Or 15. Or 20. That day will come, don't worry about it in the meanwhile.
And don't forget what Swaim said about high-school. Even if no highschooler would believe it, it is very very true, indeed.

I had my first kiss at 14, I thought everyone was doing it but in reality noone cared but me.
I spent my high school years trying to reach milestones, getting drunk, sleeping with guys etc... I did it because I thought everyone else was doing it, I still have regrets to this day.
In contrast one of my friends waited until she found her perfect guy and had her first kiss at 17, in the long run she is much happier and has much nicer memories.

Swaim is right, everything that seems important in highschool suddenly becomes unimportant as soon as you leave.

And remember, when it comes to boys, kissing or any of that stuff, its noones business but yours. In highschool everyone thinks its their business on who you date who you like etc etc... but its only your business!

I think that reading some of these I was a rather precosious young thing, I'm pretty sure my first kiss was at 10 or 11 years old but I can't quite remember to who it was because there were several games of Truth or Dare with many boys.

The moral here?

Don't worry about it! First kisses are dumb.

I've heard conversations between 2nd graders about who was going out with who, and who cheated on them and whatnot. Our society is getting sexually interested at a younger and younger age. I hate to blame TV and video games, but media pressure IS affecting the youth.

OP, you're 13. I can't say "Who gives a damn about your first kiss right now, live it up" because mine was at age 12... at halloween party as a truth or dare thing, and even THEN i was worried about getting boy cooties.
Just don't sweat it, romance will come in the future.

I had my first kiss at 11. It was wet and really pretty awful except for the fact that it was in a pirate ship at the play park. Seriously, wait and find someone you want to perfect your technique with.

I didn't have my first kiss until I was 16. But I remember when I was younger wondering when it was going to happen and it totally seems like a huge deal.

Don't worry about what your friends have done and haven't done. When the timing is right, you will know it and it will happen. Getting to that first kiss isn't a race...it's a journey. Enjoy who you are right now, in this moment and continue to enjoy it. Take the scenic route :)

Really? That's good. Kids at my school have pretty bad pasts. Some of them were pregnant when they were 13. I still haven't even had my first kiss, so I believe I'm doing pretty good.

Well, I dunno if the OP is still reading these comments, but I know exactly how you feel. I'm a girl, I'm 13, and i still havnt been kissed. Well, I say 'still'-i felt exactly how you do until i read these comments, an i thought, who da hell cares? most of the guys my age are total twats anyway. the only ones mature enough are the ones who see me as a little sister-definitely nt kissing material!! my grand advice is this: try and get a kiss if its bugging you so much-whatever. just be prepared to be disappointed if you do so. finding da perfect girl/boy is probz gna be prettyy hard. and thats if you even care enough to do that!!
read da comments about ppl getin pregnant--after i did, i was TOTALLY put off da very idea of getting kissed--and plus, from what i've seen at the car park at ma school, it looks kinda slobbery an disgusting--i just neva noticed it b4!!! lol

I feel slightly shorn that I haven't been kissed yet -- but I'm turning 26 this year. O well, c'est comme ca.

OP shouldn't worry really. At 13 I was really playing polly pocket.

I never dated in high school. I was shy, geeky, unpopular- I was kinda the Ally Sheedy of my school (a reference you are too young to get). I am now in my twenties and I am fabulous. Not to brag, but guys pretty much throw themselves at me. I enjoy being single (I've been proposed to, but I'm not through with singlehood just yet), and have had many great relationships. It turns out that the smart and interesting girls become the popular ones after high school, and the "popular" girls who were too busy making out to develop any real interests married the first guy who didn't have anything better to do, and are now boring housewives with no life away from their fat husbands. Because they never learned to put their own interests above what other people thought, and to never settle. When you want to kiss a boy, and he wants to kiss you, it'll happen. Don't force it, it's not worth it. Take all the time you need.

All these people act like it's a big deal to kiss at thirteen. Yeaa It'll come to you naturally so son't stress it. Of course your first kiss is special and all but all these people are acting like your a slut if you have it at thirteen.

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Hey girrrl. I'm thirteen so I feel ya. I don't like how all these grown ups or people in their twenties are acting like we're so little. I mean in reality we are but they don't understand how it is for thirteen year olds these days. I don't think you should worry about being kissed. I mean, I have and honestly it's worth the wait. We're young, we're stupid, we should be out having fun...not worrying about our kisses, even though it's what all the "cool" people are doing. Don't sweat it. Hope this helps

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I'm 17 and no kiss. And I'm proud. There is no reason to rush it. It'll mean much more if ur wit the guy that ur gna marry. Seriously. And I'm so glad u said that about high school. I'm graduating early cuz there's no reason to stay. It's not life. Life starts after and high school doesn't matter. :)

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