Me, I'd throw a drink in her face, but I suspect that lacks the finesse you're searching for.
The first step is to talk to your boyfriend about her. It's possible he's oblivious to her flirting with him, or is deliberately choosing to ignore it, which is my standard policy. Or he's enjoying it, in which case you need to have a much longer conversation.
Secondly, the next time it happens, just be with him and force her to make the conversation a group one. Show him a little affection (just an arm around the waist or a small kiss), and make it clear without saying it that this is one mountain she can't climb. She'll back off eventually, although it may take a few times for her to get the hint if she knows you're his girlfriend and doesn't care.
If she keeps it up, I recommend a strong alcoholic cocktail like a martini; it really burns when thrown in the eyes.
Why not just thank her? I mean after all, she obviously thinks you have good taste. Tell her thanks for noticing, with a smile. Or maybe say, “Oh that’s so cute. You’re flirting with my boyfriend.” At the very least, don’t let her know you’re bothered by it. What is that saying? Keep your friends close…, & that bitch that wants your man, closer. ;-p
Haha. Dan I think we are personality doubles. lol. It's so lame that anyone would try to hit on your man, let along right in front of your face. I think you need to play it cool, and just go with. Make it obvious that you are the grand prize, not her. Keep yourself in the conversation, make sure his attention always gets brought back to you. Nudge him, kiss him, Hell even grab his ass, whisper in his ear. The whisper dosen't have to be dirty, just the thought that it's private and flirtatious should be enough to fluster her. Make sure that you do not get butted out of the conversation. You want to make sure that she gets the point, and you get your man's attention. That's how I do anyways. Maybe I'm mean though, because I can't help but giggle over martini comment. lol. I bet we can all think of some times we would have really loved to employed that strategy. lol.
IDK, that’s like a guy marking his territory by pi$$ing on your leg. Why go to Klingon mode? It lacks confidence & desperate for validation. I’m with silkysly on this one. “How cute you look, wanting my man.”…, then disengage yourself from her. BTW, her guy should be doing something, not her.
Make out with him infront of her "accidentally" ;)
Heh, this is a good question! Can't say which one is better way to approach it, marking the guy or telling the girl to sod off.
Maybe you should do both. Get to know the chick and subtly mark your guy as yours. Lock eyes with him a few times when she's flirting with him, or smirk at her, but never say anything. I think you need to stay nice over this, to seem strong and not clingy. Clingy not sexy, independent and selfconfident is.
Heh, funny story: me, hubby and the our friend couple were in a karaoke bar. The other couple's girl had gone to ladies room and some young girls came to ask our guys for a song. Guys seemed a little uncomfortable (poor guys being shy and all) and I replied on their behalf "I don't think our boys are going to sing with anyone tonight". I didn't realise until later how I probably came off as aggressive, when I was mostly just amused by them being so shy as to not even wanting to sing one song with people they don't know.
Just laugh and feel sorry for her. She's embarrassing herself, trying to get the attention of a guy who only has eyes for you. You feel absolutely secure that he truly believe that no one can compare to you, right?
No?
Hm. Hate to tell you, but I don't think the other girl is the problem...
Supposedly a guy was flirting with me right in front of my bf and apparently I was encouraging him. My ex made life hell with his jealousy. As a direct result of that experience, I could give a shit about flirting as long as it isn't acted on. Jealousy makes you look ugly.
yeah but when these dudes take your flirting as yeah she wants me and starts trash talking about you... it sucks... then you're like "i never said that to that one guy" and it will be hard to believe and bam no boyfriend. guys play games against other guys like women do.
So I kind of something related to this:
And I need an answer from Guys more than chicks, but anything is greatly appreciated:
what's the difference between being friendly and being flirtatious?
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What bout at work place? My fiance is our boss and I had told him alot of times that this colleague is trying to get his attention in many ways. My man asked me to trust him but won't do nothing to discourage to carry on getting close to him at work unnecessarily. Obviously I cannot get too close or kiss him in front of her at work even though everyone knows about our relationship. I feel annoyed and helpless that my fiance isn't going to do anything to make me feel better. I understand that jealousy is bad to our relationship and worse as she is actually very unattractive to him, however I just don't want any 'accident at all :-( please advise, much appreciated.
What bout at work place? My fiance is our boss and I had told him alot of times that this colleague is trying to get his attention in many ways. My man asked me to trust him but won't do nothing to discourage her to carry on getting close to him at work unnecessarily. Obviously I cannot get too close or kiss him in front of her at work even though everyone knows about our relationship. I feel annoyed and helpless that my fiance isn't going to do anything to make me feel better. I understand that jealousy is bad to our relationship and worse as she is actually very unattractive to him, however I just don't want any 'accident at all :-( please advise, much appreciated.
I beat the shit out of my boyfriend's ex girlfriend... she took the hint.