You really do like asking the impossible ones, don't you! Still, why not?
Being neither a woman nor electrocuted in the bathtub while trying on tights, I haven't clue one about how most women really feel when they are in love. Well, physically they feel great, sort of warm and boneless like a totally relaxed cat, but you are not talking about that.
I can only talk about guys and my women friends, and damned few of them since we don't talk about this stuff unless seriously drunk/depressed/otherwise under the weather.
I am going to say there is not much difference.
The discomfort and agitation when you are away from the one you love - check.
The need to make them smile or be proud of you - check.
The sudden overwhelming interest in personal hygiene - well, that's probably just a guy thing.
We are all still human. We all react similarly. Now guys falling harder in love than gals - no. We fall as hard, yes. Don't talk about it much either, at least my friends don't, but I think it is fair to say we dive in as eagerly and as deeply into love as you gals do.
We are just slower (in general) in getting out of the pool when the sun sets, but usually better at hiding the hurt.
Now, as to nikita's question (not included here and sue me for answering two at once):
You don't fix a broken heart. It's like a cut - leave it alone and it'll gruesomely scab over then heal on it's own to a virtually invisible line. Keep picking at it and you'll have impressive scar tissue.
Don't be dumb. Trust the best medicine you can get - time and staying busy.
Do you think some people are incapable of falling in love? I was chatting with a friend and he thinks he's never fallen and he's 31, and thinks he never will.
I think everyone is capable of falling in love. The capacity is there. But some people won't let themselves fall in love, which is different. They've seen others get hurt, are afraid of letting down their walls, so they either look for faults or tell themselves it's overrated. Falling in love requires being open to letting others see you at your most basic, vulnerable moments... and that's pretty damn scary to some.
Totally worth it though!
sounds like a rom com waiting to happen...
i think everyone is capable of it as well, and that it is a human instinct. i think god gave it to us and wants us to use it, with each other and with a significant other. i think that in situations like that, at 31 never having fallen in love is sad, and even sadder if he feels he never will. my first thought is wondering what their upbringing and growing up was like. it’s hard to be in love, fall in love, or even stay in love if you have not been loved appropriately. it’s more difficult to understand how important love is, or even how to give it back to the world, if you’ve never been taught by example how to do that. the statistics on broken homes or broken marriages arising out of single moms and teen pregnancies are astronomical, because unlike forrest gump, those kids just don’t know what love is.
Sometimes, that cut will leave a scar though... (Screw you first love, who I just saw 5 minutes ago and apparently have't forgotten yet!!!)
I am over my first love but not unscathed. If I could I would go out of my way to be sure our paths never cross again. I wasted more than enough time trying to get over him in my lifetime. My heart twists painfully even now thinking about him...
then maybe you're not over him :( stop picking at the scab.
It's more like a wound that won't ever heal... the memory fades.
Yeah, I know the feeling. After three years, it still hasn't gone away. I'm beginning to think, it never will.
You can and will go on and have a happy life with somebody else! I don't think about my first love anymore except when the subject is brought up...
I love the feeling of being in love. I am trying sOoO hard to open my heart (& mind). I think it’s in everyone to love hard. We just have to have faith that it is worth the risk.
Ahaha thanks for the answer MM! And I love the "What Women Want" reference!
I wonder if maybe because women are more socially programmed to think that they need to be in love in order to be happy and fulfilled, we are first of all more open to letting it happen, and when it does, quicker to embrace it and admit it?
Men are usually programmed with the same drive. Of course, we are programmed to not talk about this stuff too ...
"The discomfort and agitation when you are away from the one you love - check." ----> This is nice to know.
I go nuts when I'm away from my baby.
Most people will say its always better for the guy to love the girl a little more then the girl loves them. Just a helpful hint
I heard that too.... my question is, why?
I think MM hit the nail on the head with this one. Men and women fall in love equally hard, the differences are in timing, emotional maturity, social programming, etc.
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