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What's the difference between "in love" and "true love"?

Several million at the box office.

The first is an emotional descriptor, the second is a tautology.

The first exists, the second is an invention of hack writers. I could go on all day.

The whole idea of true love is predicated on the idea that there is a single perfect person for you out there. Total rubbish, of course, and harmful rubbish at that. The number of people who buy into that idea and keep on looking for "the one" instead of "the one right under their nose" is ridiculous.
Anyone can fall in love. Staying in love requires thought, attention, honesty, humor and some mutual self-sacrifice. Think The Gift of the Magi.

OK, maybe true love does exist after all. Just, it ain't like in the movies.

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Thank you for this! I get so annoyed whenever someone calls their significant other their "soulmate" or when someone claims they're looking for their soulmate. Some of them have almost called me blasphemous when I denied the concept of soulmates/true love, haha. It's just statistically and logically impractical. I do think some couples are more compatible and have more chemistry than others, yes.

Tariana

Well, if you haven't heard it yet, there's a MORE annoying term they use now: TWIN FLAMES. Bleeeech.

chrissie1101

Magi is a brilliant example of true love, yes.

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Well, with my bloke we fit together so well it does feel like I've found my soulmate. Or at least one of them. But at the same time we have our fair share difficulties and problems that we need to work through.
I think that's what's wrong with the concept of 'true love' it sort of suggests that with the right person everything is all going to be perfect and problem free forever. I think a better indicator of it is when you find someone who you're prepared to stick with through thick and thin despite all those problems that may occur, and it feels worth-while.

GalRetort

Oh well I do think that two certain people can fit better together - thus feeling like (or they ARE!) soul mates - I just don't think that is reserved for just ONE person. The fact that people can be widowed or divorced and go on to fall in love again, and feel like they've found a NEW soul mate, proves that there can be more than one soul mate for a person. But look, I'm using that word... because I DO think they exist, just with a different definition. We all know the feeling of a soul mate (if we are very lucky) so we can't deny that, but what is it? It is a person that fits with you more easily than many other people would. But there isn't just ONE person out there who will fit with you that easily, there are thousands upon thousands of "perfect fits" for you in this several billion large population. And these people aren't predestined, but are made by the way your personalities match, the effort you put in, the timing that you meet, the external circumstances and the internal circumstances.

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