You know what to say. Tell him you’re not interested in dating anyone right now. You need some solo time. “I’m flattered, but I’m just really into being single right now.” He’ll get the hint. If he doesn’t, pull out the old “I don’t want to ruin our friendship” stand-by. That one never fails. In fact, that’s really what you need to say. Because, you’re not into him. If you were, this phase of wanting to be a lonely astronaut floating around in single space would suddenly end.
No one really wants to be single. What we want is a break from the B.S. of dating. Sometimes we need some time to recharge our batteries, have a little “me” time, and take some time away from the hell that is the dating scene. Right now, you’re content with being single. That’s a good thing. Not for this poor guy who’s crushing on you, but them’s the breaks.
So be honest with him. Tell him you like him as a friend. He’ll get over it in time. We’ve all heard it at one point of another. Also, it leaves less room for ambiguity. If he thinks you don’t want to date anyone now, he’ll sit around waiting in the hopes that you’ll suddenly be ready to date again and choose him. If he rocked your world, it would be a different story. We can all use a little honesty once in a while. You like having him in your life as a friend. Let him down easy, and hopefully you’ll still be friends. The worst thing you can do is give him a sliver of hope to hold on to by being ambiguous or too afraid to tell him the truth. Just be honest about how you feel about him and where you are in your life. If he can’t be friends with you, that’s on him. But if he’s really a nice guy, he’ll understand (and hopefully remain your friend).