As with all of life's conundrums, my dear lady, the answer to your question lies in pornography.
I've noticed this phenomenon as well, and here's my theory: the Internet, along with its incredible social networking and free press applications, also brought a never-ending, all-flooding, raw, unfiltered river of hardcore pornography the likes of which had only previously been seen in 1965 when two adult film conventions collided to form "the perfect storm of porno."
Think of the entirety of the male gender as a fourteen year old boy who just found out that he can watch two people have any kind of sex he wants with the click of a button (because frankly, that discovery turned us all into fourteen year old boys for at least a week). This is something new. Our parents had to work to see people doing it: sneak a peek at Dad's magazines, watch farm animals and imagine, whatever. We, on the other hand, live in an era of wanton and instant fantasy indulgence.
That's hard for a normal, real, live, not paid woman to keep up with. Porn is all about what's taboo and exciting. Anal sex is a popular pornographic pastime precisely BECAUSE it's a kinky fetish. Problem is, when your man watches hundreds of videos of women (who were paid to pretend to be) enjoying anal sex, he starts to think it's a normal part of the sexual experience. It affects us, no matter how we try to deny it.
Anal sex, like any form of sex, can be fun if everyone involved is into it. Period. If someone isn't, it's not going to be fun. If he can't live with that, well, there's always a sea of pornography for him to watch.
Sadly, I predict this is just one of many horrifying effects the Internet will have on mens' sexual expectations as time wears on. In a year or two, your guy will be asking you why you don't want to eat another girl's poop out of a cup like you're the weird one.
So, you know, look forward to that.
You nailed this one. It is most definitely the internet and the desensitizing of our minds that makes once kinky or rarer sex acts seem like the norm. It truly does affect the way we all think about sex. And it's a shame, if you ask me. Which you didn't. :)
Whenever a boyfriend has asked me to do anal, my reply is "If I can do it to you, then you can do it to me." Moral to the story: I've never done anal!
Ive never done anal either, ive asked all my friends and none of them have done anal..... i dont think the majority of normal couples do anal.
I get what you saying in i know personally that thats true my boyfriend and i've been having anal sex and for a while it hurt me to do it but i always did it because he liked it but now it seems like it feels just wonderful
Like you said Anal sex is great if both people involved are into it & it's done right. It's not for everyone but then again what is? We're all different & like/want/enjoy different things.
Haha, I love your answer SS! I haven't done it either, but then I've never ever met anyone who has asked to do it or even hinted at it.
The internet really has done a number on all of us. For example, although I do not talk to many women about "down there," I, and others, shave... and whenever my mom hears about this she's is just upset and think it's disgusting that it might be the norm for women these days (I really don't know how many shave and how many do not). I'm 25. She's in her '60s. I don't know for sure, but I think it might be from all the porn online (I've yet to watch any of it that has unshaven women). I think it makes sense in porn because you can see more, but like Swaim says, these women are paid to do these things.
It's hard to compete. I shave, but I get so tired of it, yet I still do it.. kinda like shaving one's legs I guess.
I still don't think I'd do anal, at least not with an inexperienced guy... seems like the potential for perforation would be huge.
p.s. hope we never get to do the day where water sports & the like become the norm *shiver*
It's a slippery slope! Today we're shaving and having anal sex, tomorrow we're wallowing in urine and humping dead antelope. Beware, people!
Well, Mr. Swaim, I have always thought of you as the man of tomorrow.
Women can convince themselves of anything to please a man...
[although I do not think it is impossible for a woman to truly enjoy it]
Well, the Internet is one possibility, but I think the more likely scenario is that men that focus on anal sex are actually gay and just trying to hide it. Ya gotta remember, that entrance is the same whether the person under you is male or female, and the activity is done in a way where there is little face to face contact meaning no real intimacy. The body is merely an object used for the male's relief. I don't understand why women would want to subject themselves to that kind of coldness and set themselves up to be used that way in some twisted world where they think they have to sacrifice their bodies to "keep" a man. Sad.
My husband asked *me* to do *him* in the backdoor, even though he isn't so interested in doing it to me (I think we've done it sometime in the past... don't recall... it's kind of an open relationship anyway...). The strap-on's on order, so we'll see what happens. ;)
I totally did this with one rather inexperienced guy who didn't bother to lube (ouch!), and it gave me a hemorrhoid due to some kind of internal tissue tearing (the external skin wasn't damaged, so it wasn't like an open wound, just a swollen blood vessel, like if you jam your finger in a door, only on the ass), but it healed without any problem in a couple of weeks. I doubt that guy will ever want anal with any other woman after he saw the hemorrhoid he caused.
I just remind them of how much bacteria is in fecal mater and that's a really GREAT way to get a some kind of horrible infection like e coli. Mainly because guys thing they don't need to wear a condom by going through the backdoor on a woman. Such idiots. Or hepitius. That's also a good one. And smelly dick. No one wants to suck something that's been in their ass.
.......I think im gonna be sick.......I made the mistake of following the link to the whole cup situation & even after hearing other people talk about it for quite sometime now about how super gross it is I coulda never prepared myself for........gotta run..
uuummm absolutely no pun intended^^^^ i dont have the runs I jus...WELL you get the point!!
"Whenever a boyfriend has asked me to do anal, my reply is "If I can do it to you, then you can do it to me." Moral to the story: I've never done anal!"...SS
Your trick wouldn't work on me. I doubt I'd like it done to me, but I'd let a woman do it to me just so I can have anal with her. If that's the deal, then so be it, because the end result is the same...I get what I want, which is to do her in the butt.
My last boyfriend asked me to do anal. Then he asked me to peg him. Moral of the story: Why did I date him?