First, my advice to you in general is to avoid "hookups" just as you would avoid a plague. This isn't the 1890s, there are a whole slew of diseases that can do anything from making your life unpleasant to killing you, not to mention unwanted pregnancies, which account for some of the worst suffering you can imagine on both the parent and children's sides. Who wants to unwanted?
Here is something that has been highly misinterpreted in answers I've made to past questions, which is that I advocate sexual free-for-alls. Hey, this stuff will kill you these days. Have sex, but be safe. Do it with a long-term partner. Get tested regularly. Make sure your partner is tested. Use condoms. Be cautious!
If you have disease like HPV (Genital human papillomavirus), whether it's high risk or not, you better tell your partner he or she is at risk, and let them make their own decisions. Otherwise, you are a selfish, scummy, slimy, sleazebag who deserves every bad thing that will happen to you. And it will.
"Who wants to be unwanted?"
Fixed. ;P
I agree with 95% of this post. I think: "Otherwise, you are a selfish, scummy, slimy, sleazebag who deserves every bad thing that will happen to you. And it will." is WAY too nice a way of putting it.
The fact that this person is asking makes me wonder if they have any conscience whatsoever. Isn't the answer truly obvious?
oh m god, MM I think you love to reply to posts that make me want to tear out my own hair. First the chick who wanted to mess with the married guy and now this..... Good call on this one though.
Sweetheart I'm all for sex without strings, in a safe way but you really need to not hook-up with anybody until you've been treated. Cause the next girl may not know, or find out for a really long time and this might just kill her or be the reason she'll never have children. Don't make sex a regret. Be safe please.
Well there IS no treatment for HPV. It's a virus, it can't be cured by drugs. Sometimes these things go away on their own, but the virus will always be in your system.
Clearly, this woman hasn't made the connection that hmmm casual sex spreads gross things. Yuck..
HPV does go away on its own. I'm not exactly sure what shes referring to. Maybe the strain that causes genital herpes? Then yes, you would have to disclose that information to your potential partners.
My sis had a strain that almost caused her to have cervical cancer. Luckily they found the cells before they turned into cancer, and removed it. That alone makes me get my pap once a year (I know they say do it every three, but fuck them, with that attitude my sister would have had cancer, had she not been so careful )
:( it never hurts to get screened, get checked out, and for goodness sakes use protection!
Excellent response for MM. For a while there I was beginning to wonder if he had any morals at all.
@Vee: HPV can eventually be fought off by your immune system, but it can take 2 years or more to do so. A person can do a lot of damage to others in 2 years if they are casually hooking up and not telling them what they've got.
And HPV doesn't cause genital herpes. That's a different virus altogether (herpes simplex virus 1 or 2). HPV can however cause genital warts.
Yes, I agree. I would never make light of that condition, sometimes the facts are a bit confusing is all .
I have never been diagnosed with it, but the scary thing about HPV is it can lie dormant in your system :( so being careful, getting screened, and using protection should be everyone's priority if they plan on "hooking up"
...sigh....Mystery Man, there is so much info you have left out here....
HPV is something that SO MANY women and men have (the stats say up to 80% of sexually active people HAVE IT.). Yes, HPV can cause cancer. No, Men will not have ANY symptoms if they carry HPV, but they will transmit it to any woman they have sex with without protection.
ANY type of HPV can lead to cervical cancer when not treated, and high risk, obviously, is more likely to lead to cervical cancer.
If you have been diagnosed with an abnormal pap, and subsequently HPV, YOU NEED TO GET CHECKED AT LEAST EVERY 6 MONTHS by the gyno, in order to make sure things are not progressing in the direction of cervical cancer. If you have high risk HPV, or if you have never had a colposcopy, you should get a colposcopy. This is a more detailed exam of the cervix in order to make sure nothing is cancerous. If they do find a troublesome spot, they can probably remove it before it turns into anything majorly harmful. BOTTOM LINE: STAY ON TOP OF HPV. If you do this, you should probably have nothing to worry about.
And, yes, most cases of HPV go away on their own within a year or two. You will ALWAYS have the virus, but when you (hopefully) finally have an hpv free pap, THAT MEANS YOU HAVE NO RISK OF TRANSFERING THE VIRUS TO YOUR PARTNER. Until, of course, the HPV comes back..if it ever does.
And if you're not clear?? USE A CONDOM!!! This will probably protect you and your partner from transferring any diseases....But since you are high risk, you should either let your partner know, or refrain from casual sex until your HPV goes dormant....either way ALWAYS USE CONDOMS unless you are cool with transmitting HPV to your partner. (if its dormant, it should transmit, but you should always play it safe!!)
If you know you have HPV, you are already ahead of the game. Just keep getting checked and you should be fine. ;-D
Ahem, *You can get HPV even WITH A CONDOM*
I'm tired of saying this lol So basically, we're all screwed in this situation unless we want to be celibate. This is why 80% of people have it. It is unfortunate, but hopefully the HPV vaccine will take out some of it.
whoops, i mean, if its dormant, it SHOULD'NT transfer!! ;-)
Get checked as often as needed by your doctor and DISCLOSE the info to anyone you look into having sex with! Last thing any lady wants to find out the hard way was a strain got transmitted to her guy via one of his exes while he was datin the gal and she didn't know or tell and he got to carry it around and infect anyone he was with after that. So please for the sake of everything sane tell them! After all wouldn't you want to know if they had a life long 'gift' they could possibly give to you?
And as always if anything seems slightly wrong go get checked! Are those bumps possible warts or just an allergy to semen? So always always BE SAFE
Of course honesty is always the best policy, it can be uncomfortable but its the right thing to do. Afterall, perhaps YOU wouldn't have contracted this if your previous partners had been honest ! And if you are ready to have sex with someone, you should be able to communicate this all. Before we had sex, my boyfriend and I discussed getting STD Tested and showing each other the results. That way, our first time could be more enjoyable. And since you are infected, always use protection.