It means that he does not want you looking at his phone. Well thats just the main meaning. There could be several subsersive and perverse meanings.
Such as?
Glad you asked.
He's got midget pr0n on his phone and he doesn't want you to see it.
He's been sending pics of his wang to other women, but it's pretty small so all you'll see are text messages with "LOL" and "ROFLMAO" all over the place.
He's been making texty time with his ex-girlfriend via his phone and he doesn't want you to know because he's not really sold on you yet and he's seeing a window with the ex that could be opening back up.
He doesn't know you like that, so why are you trying to be all up in his phone.
Um, look at your own phone.
He wants to know why you need to look at his phone. Aren't you familiar with the Privacy Act? While it doesn't cover cellphones it should. Back up ya 8ball.
He just got his phone cleaned and he doesn't know where your hands have been.
He "accidentally" taped you doing something you didn't know he saw you doing and he'd be embarassed if you saw what he saw you doing when you didn't know he was looking since he knows what you did last summer.
Frankly, you don't need to be all up in his phone.
It could be any of those, or any combo of those.
LMAO! Panama
Ask yourself, would you be comfortable handing your phone over to him if he asked for it? How about to anybody, friend or not?
From what I've seen, people seemed to be freaked out about people going through their messages.
I would be too, if I don't want the person looking at my conversations with other people for whatever reason.
If he does not want you to see his phone, then he is obviousy hiding something. I know my bf txts and emails his ex wife constantly and in order to placate me he lets me look thru his phone. While there is nothing that is incriminating in his txts to his ex, he still has a large amount of txts between them. Which, frankly pisses me off!! As my bf says if he had something to hide he wouldnt let me go thru his phone, or pc.
If he does not want you to see his phone, then he is obviousy hiding something. I know my bf txts and emails his ex wife constantly and in order to placate me he lets me look thru his phone. While there is nothing that is incriminating in his txts to his ex, he still has a large amount of txts between them. Which, frankly pisses me off!! As my bf says if he had something to hide he wouldnt let me go thru his phone, or pc.
If he does not want you to see his phone, then he is obviousy hiding something. I know my bf txts and emails his ex wife constantly and in order to placate me he lets me look thru his phone. While there is nothing that is incriminating in his txts to his ex, he still has a large amount of txts between them. Which, frankly pisses me off!!
My boyfriend does not delete any texts and as my bf says if he had something to hide he would not let me go thru his phone, or pc.
But it def makes you wonder why he doesn't let you look thru his phone.
If he does not want you to see his phone, then he is obviousy hiding something. I know my bf txts and emails his ex wife constantly and in order to placate me he lets me look thru his phone. While there is nothing that is incriminating in his txts to his ex, he still has a large amount of txts between them. Which, frankly pisses me off!!
My boyfriend does not delete any texts and as my bf says if he had something to hide he would not let me go thru his phone, or pc.
But it def makes you wonder why he doesn't let you look thru his phone.
Quadruple post! +4 points!
Devil's Advocate here saying that speaking from good, old-fashioned experience, being super-protective of his/her phone is VERY typical of cheaters. Obviously he might just have weird, irrational privacy issues (like I do with my schoolwork)...but at the same time I don't see what the big deal would be with you going through his phone if he honestly has nothing to hide.
But...there are a million things it could be that he's "hiding", and it may just be something he's embarrassed about that has nothing to do with you. You need more than one sign before you decide he's up to something.
I don't agree with 'Jo' ..honestly i don't like anyone going through my phone- wether its my boyfriend, my mom or my best friend- my phone is private. No it does not mean im hiding something ( maybe thats just your situation so you shouldn't overgeneralize). If my bf didn't want me to see his phone- i'd be okay with that because i RESPECT his privacy; besides i wouldn't ask to see the contents of his phone because its his business and i trust him- honestly if you dont trust him...why should he trust you?
So don't go through his phone- simple as that.
trust is the key to relationships.
WHY THE EFF is that so hard for women to grasp?
ugh.
Me and my bf of almost a year now don't go through eachothers phones. Really there isn't anything for me to look through. If he wants to show me something that is fine, it tells me hey I want you to see this and I am comfortable having you look at what I want to show you. This by all means doesn't give me the right to demand or even ask to go through his phone. That tells him I'm trying to look for something that may or may not be there, what does that say about me? I don't trust you so I'm going to snoop/look through your phone so I can fully trust you.
There was a time my bf got a call from on of his girl---friend. As we were headed to dinner at a new restaurant. He listoned to the message and sent a few texts. When we were seated, he quickly started to tell me what his female friend was calling about. I simply said you don't need to explain who called you and you texted back. You are allowed to have women as friends and no huge explanation is needed. All I need to know is she is a friend. If you want to tell me more that's fine. She's a friend I trust you.
He then realized he didn't save her number and was trying to see how he could. I asked if I could see his phone and I did gently take ahold of his phone to see if he would let me take it to help him. He had the look of please let go of my phone and he wasn't willing to let his phone into my hand. So I quickly back tracked my steps took my phone and said (our phones are different) if I miss a call I am able to look at that contact and add them if I want. After he couldn't figure it out he put the phone away and said he would figure it out later.
That was the end of it and the rest of the evening was focused on me. Him not wanting me to handle his phone is his choice not mine just because I am his girlfriend does NOT give me the right to have free looking and prying rights to his property. He tells me when a text has relivance to me. Like taking time off to go see a concert cuz one of his married set of friends invited me. That's all I need to know and don't need phone prying access.
Trust is a big part in a relationship even if he gave you full looking acres who's to say he didn't already get rid of the text folder? Yeah your curious I am as well of my man phone why cuz it's different and it's not mine lol. Yet I respect him and leave it alone nor do I ask to see it. When he's comfortable in showing me a text it's only because it involves me.
Having a person espically you SO look through it make for a lot of who is this and why do u have so many saved texts from so'n'so? It's a gateway of defending and endless arguing over something that isn't worth it. Don't let the what's in side his phone destroy your relationship, cuz I am sure after a while it will.
He could be texting a friend or family member any number of things that just aren't your business to know unless he feels like telling you. Regardless of what it is, you should respect his privacy.
If you are in a relationship built on trust, there will come a time when you may have to use your loved one's phone and that moment will show you exactly where you stand with him. Him giving you the phone in that situation IS trust...
The strongest relationship scenario I think is where either one is okay with the other going through their smart phone and neither one of them doing so. That's ultimate TRUST...
I am definitely one of those people who doesn't care WHO looks through my phone. I don't understand it? What is so exciting in your phone that you don't want anyone to read. But at the same time if someone asked me to look for my phone I'd be like 'why? whats so exciting in my phone you want to read?'. Even then, I wouldn't refuse them because to my understanding that would only make the person MORE paranoid about what they think you have in your phone. I don't think I could ever be so mean to torture a wee soul like that, even though they should know better. So i would just throw them a favour - UNLESS of course I was trying to keep some kind of secret from them and then I would probably never let them anywhere near my phone and spout some shite about privacy issues, moral standards, the importance to trust and making a point.
I wouldn't let my boyfriend look through my phone, but not because there's anything incriminating. It's actually because I have an embarrassing number of texts from him "locked," and more that I saved to "Drafts" because I was running out of room. It's nothing that should upset him, but it's something I do for myself. I'd also just be self-conscious about what dorky little things he might find on my phone, or a few times I've had texts with things important to other people on them--like when my closeted friend and I were talking about her being bi. My point is, don't assume it's anything bad. Let him be him, and trust who he is!
Soooo many huge fights got between my roommie and her boyfriend due to her not trusting him. (*sigh*)
I agree with Eggie. While he might think it's cute, I'd probably get embarrassed if my boyfriend found out that I save a lot of his sweet/romantic/sexy messages in my inbox.
Which brings me to my second point: I don't want other people seeing those messages either!
I've had that happen with friends, where I would be having a steamy conversation with my boyfriend over text and my friend would swipe my phone and read it. =/
On my new phone, I've locked everything from view that's too private and can now hand over my phone to anybody who legitimately wants to use it (to call or text somebody for example). Is that so wrong?
Please trust me when i tell you LEAVE HIS PHONE ALONE you dont want to know what he has in his phone learned the hard way i take the dont look for it road what you seek you will find
Let say you been with some guy for 5 years had broken up with him for 6months then came back. Then when you ask for his cell because you forgot yours or something he dials the number for you and then lets you use it??????. We have had a sutuation years ago where i found some girl 's text comprimising texts. So whats the deal?
Lol am having the same problem with my bf. I don't want anybody looking though my phone even mom,sis,friends,and my bf I love my bf and ain't cheating, texting,and talk to any1apart from my ex the baby dad, who I broke up with 3yrs ago even baby dad doesn't have my phone number but just my email once in a while he emails asking me about his son..I always have a lock on my phone.. I feel like my phone is privacy and I told him that .he keeps saying you are hiding something ..Love him but my phone doesn't have anything to do with him. he even knows that ain't cheating on him . but still wants to check my God damn phone
Write a comment...openness to friend has no limitation.
Me nd my bf always use each others phones.... BUT.. Last night i askd to c it cuz my brother in law showd him a new radio station on his phone i thought was cool nd wanted to c how he did it so i could listen to it while he is working.... When i askd he for it he said why then got all offensive mind u we have been together for 3 years he has NEVER DONE THAT, RED FLAG flew up quick!!! Where the fux do they do that at after 3 yrs of b n open
Me nd my bf always use each others phones.... BUT.. Last night i askd to c it cuz my brother in law showd him a new radio station on his phone i thought was cool nd wanted to c how he did it so i could listen to it while he is working.... When i askd he for it he said why then got all offensive mind u we have been together for 3 years he has NEVER DONE THAT, RED FLAG flew up quick!!! Where the fux do they do that at after 3 yrs of b n open
you know what ?l will give you a practical example Jesus Christ is open with his love to mankind, personalty l feel its not good to hide from the person you love.