Blame the Internet for this one.
I'm assuming these are guys you've met online, and taken to to the "phone" level. If that's the case, what they're looking for is proof that you're not, in douchespeak, a SIF: Secret Internet Fatty.
I don't make up the terms, folks.
Basically, they want to know you are who you say you are. Whether or not you reply in kind is completely up to you; they don't have a right to pictures.
My guy friends told me it doesn’t matter what pic you send them, they will use it later to get off to. Yak!
I think it has something to do with the fact that us guys are very visual creatures. You can describe yourself all you want, but unless we see a picture we won't be clear on what you look like. Well, that and I think that there is some truth to RPs statement. Incidentally, and again, don't shoot the messenger here, but I've also heard douchy types refer to profile pictures as FGAS's (that's Fat Girl Angle Shots)...
Oh and for the record on those occasions where a gal has sent me a pic I have NEVER used it as something to get off on.
Oh, thank you! Some sanity, at last! I refuse to believe all guys are of the douchebag variety.
One time I was out at a club and exchanged numbers with a guy I had just met. An hour later I get a text from him saying I forget what you look like, can you send me your pic? UHHH NO!
How do you get around from sending pictures to a guy without being completely rude? I've had several guys ask me to send them sexy pictures of myself...it's not something I'm comfortable doing and I explain that to them but they're so persistent.
Just keep telling them no. If they don't respect your comfort levels, are they really guys you want to keep talking to?
Luckily for me, my phone is so old it doesn't even have a camera.
I am a right-out-in-the-open internet fatty who is online dating. I have several pictures from different angles, including a couple of full body shots, on my profile, just so it is entirely clear that I am not hiding anything and so there are no mistaken impressions before I meet someone in person.
Even so, when we get to the texting part, I am almost always asked for pictures. Some guys certainly are looking for masturbation fodder, but some just want a picture to put in their phonebook next to my name. My response to guys who ask for sexy pics is to say, "I don't do naked pics. I work in the legal field and I do not need naked pics of me out there in the world." There is usually a little whining, "Aw come on, just for me, I won't show anyone, I swear," etc., but I don't budge on that. Ever. For the kind of guy I am interested in, it is never a problem.
I still talk to an ex who lives in NYC and I'm in MD. Even though he can still see pics of my on Facebook, everytime we talk he asks me to send him some kind of sexy picture. It's really annoying because he knows I'm not the kind of girl to send pics like that and I know he's only calling me when he's in between relationships and needs an ego stroke. Too bad for him, he'll be stroking his own ego from now on. I'm over it.
I still talk to an ex who lives in NYC and I'm in MD. Even though he can still see pics of me on Facebook, everytime we talk he asks me to send him some kind of sexy picture. It's really annoying because he knows I'm not the kind of girl to send pics like that and I know he's only calling me when he's in between relationships and needs an ego stroke. Too bad for him, he'll be stroking his own ego from now on. I'm over it.
Srsly? If you're not naked the picture isn't worth sending.