Yeah, I can understand why you'd find that exhausting. Although your boyfriend comes off as kind of a douche here, it must be said.
Either way, the best thing to do is see a counselor to talk about strategies to deal with negative emotions. I'm taking a guess here, but I'm betting that back when you were very little, crying helped stop whatever made you upset, and on some level, your brain still has that filed away as a go-to strategy.
Also, as New Agey as this sounds, meditation and centered breathing help a lot. Finally, speaking from personal experience, something else that REALLY helps is to put the problem into context, especially if you're as ploddingly methodical and logical as I am. If you get the sense something is starting to upset you, ask yourself a few questions. Is this really a serious problem, or just a minor inconvenience? Can I resolve this at another time? Will it really be a problem for me, or just an annoyance?
It really does help. Good luck!
very good advice, Dan. though I do have to say, generally speaking, women don't use crying as a go to strategy to get what they want. generally speaking, yes I know there are some that do, but generally they don't. We're the more emotional gender, that's why we cry more. I am a crier too. If there is a serious problem then yes, some support professionally may help you. But if not, dealing with being a crier takes the realization that you are more sensitive than the average person, and that's just who you are and there's nothing wrong with that. at all. Embrace that about yourself because it probably makes you a nicer person, too. centered breathing DOES help, and visualization does as well. I go by the 10/10/10 rule. Will it matter in 10 minutes? 10 months? 10 years? same advice as above :)
Oh, I didn't mean women specifically: little boys are more than capable of crying their eyes out to manipulate people too. Sometimes, though, it gets tied up with the emotional response and then it just happens.
Ah I see what you are saying then my apologies for the presumption. so true on both counts, a conditioned response or trigger for sure.
That sounds awful because it's not like you WANT to cry, who wants to cry? Do you think it might something to do with your hormones? If you are on the contraceptive pill you might want to speak to your doctor about finding one thats right for you. Pills can mess you around like that. Sometimes your emotions can get the better of you and believe me I understand the tears thing - sometimes I'm like 'oh for godsake here we go...' and I can tell you it is not an 'act' do you know how sore it is to hold those mammoths back?? VERY. I can't tell you how many times I have cried this week alone while watching Giuliana and Bill!!! I'd never even heard of Giuliana and Bill before Sunday and there has been more tears spent crying about their fertility issues than absolutely necessary. If you are crying all the time though, it sounds like you don't have a good reign on your emotions. Crying all the time could be a sign of several things aside from hormones - are you stressed? Are you unhappy with some area of your life? It could even be a sign you're a wee bit down even if you aren't aware of it. In any case, go to your doctor and let them know about it. Hugs
Any guy that says those things is a douche. Jeez. An "act"? Really? Is he crazy? Yes. The answer is yes. Don't put up with that!
To be honest, crying is not a desirable trait. No one wants to be around someone who cries a lot. I know it makes me uncomfortable when I am having a disagreement with someone and they start crying. Is there a time and place for it, of course when dealing with death or lose. But every time you get upset you start to cry is a very immature thing. It is important to learn how to deal with your emotions and then you will be taken a lot more seriously. At least the poster recognizes the problem, and that is a start.
Talk to your bf, let him know that you are trying to work on it and ask him to bare with you. The next time you do get upset and start crying, work at calming yourself down immediately, dont let the crying take over. As Dan said, take deep breaths, ask yourself if the problem is really that important to get you this upset, count...just count until you're calm. Good Luck!