Yeesh. As break-up lines go, that one has to be the new "It's not you, it's me." It's a backhanded compliment. "You're so awesome, I can't possibly live up to that! Which is why I'm leaving forever. Bye!" It's not the worst way to break up with someone, but it's dishonest. What they need to say is, "You should be with someone who wants to be with you" or "I am not ready for a serious relationship" or "I want to date the 23-year-old at Starbucks with the nose ring." It's a nice thing to say, but it also messes with your head. It makes you go, "Yes, you are good enough for me!" and cling to the hope that they'll get over their neuroses and be with you when, in fact, they're just saying they no longer have feelings for you in a roundabout way.

But you know what? You are too good for them. Any guy who would say that is basically admitting that there is something wrong with him. Either he has commitment issues, or he's lazy, or not very smart. Or he knows he's going to cheat, and he's saying you're too sweet and faithful for him. Why do you want someone who isn't good enough for you?

My guess is that you're attracted to immature boy-men who are below your intelligence level and social stature. They are attracted to you because you're interesting and worldly, while you see potential in them and want to change them from Xbox-playing manchildren into grown-ass men. So after a while, they subconsciously realize they'll never match you in the awesome department and pull away. Or you've just met a bunch of guys who use the same break-up line. But seeing as how it's a pattern, it's probably the type of guy you're attracted to that's the problem. Don't go after guys who want a brief fling or a casual dating situation. Look for a guy who wants to get serious. And change things up. If you've been dating younger men, try someone your age or older. Seek out men who are confident, open, and a touch self-deprecating. Your goal should be to find a guy who won't suddenly clam up and pull away when things get serious.