Not at all. That stupid, lazy, limp-dicked knuckle-dragger should know that such behavior is unacceptable. He needs to go f**k himself sideways. On his way straight to Hell.
Now how would he like it if you said the above to him?
All couples fight, of course, but there are rules even to fighting. One of those rules is to keep your temper and your tongue in check. The causes of a fight are quickly forgotten -- chalk most up to hunger, exhaustion, PMS or booze -- but nasty words said in anger are impossible to forget.
In many ways, verbal abuse can be as bad or even worse than physical abuse. I'd almost rather be slapped upside the head than have to listen to someone say horrible things about me that will bounce around in my noggin for years to come.
I've known people like your boyfriend. Some just have a bad temper, but others seem to think that it's okay to throw aside the gloves during a fight and say whatever they want because, hey, it's a fight and all will be forgotten and forgiven when you make up. Too bad real life doesn't work that way.
Yes, we've all said things in the heat of the moment that we later regret. None of us is perfect. There's a difference, though, between losing control once or twice and losing it every time you have a disagreement. And then defending it.
Now I'm going to say what you already know: your guy's bad temper doesn't bode well for your relationship. He needs to get a grip on his anger and you need to think about what the future holds. I'm sure you are aware that it's not a big leap over Abuse Creek from the verbal side to the physical side. If he hasn't made it already, he will, unless he realizes he's wrong and starts working to control his temper.
Talk like a girl. Gimme a fecking break.
Here's more info (and a handy list) about fair fighting. I've got him down for about 5 of these already.
Excellent answer! And Frankie says relax was the icing on the cake.
Get out now! This guy is an ass. Verbal abuse is NOT OK. Just ask my ex huasband how I feel about it. And such a cavalier attitude about your feelings makes it clear he's an insensitive jerkoff. He won't change, this won't get better, and your self esteem ain't exactly going to soar. And the Ass is right, physical abuse is right around the corner. Good luck!
Agreed - well said, Cary!
Excellent reply. Verbal abuse is definitely a warning sign of what might be ahead. Unless the boyfriend can learn to manage his anger, his temper, and his words, I would advise getting out of this relationship. Physical abuse is quite often just a step away from verbal abuse. If he really loves you, he won't treat you that way. You deserve better.
agreeing with what has been said already he needs a foot up his a** in the worst way. The only thing staying with someone like that is going to do for you is crush your self esteem and kill your spirit. I spent 4 long years with a dick like that and I want to punch myself repeatedly in the face for it.
In the immortal words of Jenny "Run Forrest, Run"
If your partner wants to carry on like a twat with his friends, that's one thing. But yelling and cursing at you? Eff that.
Him abusing you is a sure sign that he doesn't respect you nearly as much as you deserve. This kind of behaviour in a relationship is more than just unstable and unacceptable; it's a genuine warning sign. He lets his anger control him, and that is a very bad thing.
Real men respect their women. Get rid of this prick and find a man who will treat you like he should.
Remember that list of 15 ways you know he's a man that DeVore posted last week? He should have put your picture on it. :-)
Yes, take it from someone who learned this over and over again the hard way (every single f*ing time) that being cursed out by people who are supposed to love you the most is no way to live. Usually, it starts with being disrespectful, cussing you out, then it moves to hitting. It gets really hard covering the bruises all the time. Then they tell you they're sorry, it will never happen again, but it always does. Nowadays, if someone does anything that scares me, I'm gone.
Please dump this POS.
On the flip I have seen women who are just as bad (if not worse) when it comes to verbal smack downs . So remember it goes both ways. You shouldn't have to get into it verbally with him, if he continues leave..Its not worth it. If someone called me a bitch, I would show them a bitch... Not just any bitch, a bad bitch.
Great answer! Though I'm not sure which I liked more, the opening line, or Frankie says relax...
My Sister... heed the words above. I'm sure you're thinking your man is a great guy when you're not arguing... and he may be. But true is true. The difference between verbal abuse and physical is like the difference between whole milk and skim. By the time you figure out which one you swallowing, half the glass is gone.
Take it from a woman who had a good guy who was great except for those times when we fought. He only crossed the line once... but my face will be scarred forever.
"In many ways, verbal abuse can be as bad or even worse than physical abuse. I'd almost rather be slapped upside the head than have to listen to someone say horrible things about me that will bounce around in my noggin for years to come."
So true...
I'm in the same situation. He gets mad and curses and yells, then defends the way he talks by saing hes angry and of course he can talk to me that way. And I want to leave but I guess Im afraid to. I hope I can find the strength one od these days to leave him for good.
Hello, I'm kind of going through the same thing...and I feel so confused. I been with my bf for almost 4 years. Just last night we had an argument. He was upset because I didn't sleep over. I had to come back home because my dog has been feeling sick. He started yelling. ...cursing. I tell him to calm down. ..he told me to shut up....then I just stay quiet. All throughout the car ride...he was yelling, cursing, screaming about how I don't make sense. Meanwhile I'm in the passenger seat holding my tears of anger just looking out the window. Every time I would talk he would talk over me. Then, there's a moment of silence and he proceeds by saying "look I'm sorry if I yelled at you, but you get mlike this". Blaming it on me. He's always like this, I don't recognize him when hes angry. It makes me sick when he acts that way. And now he's completely ignoring me, not calling. ...nothing. ....im clueless. Please help.
Hello, I'm kind of going through the same thing...and I feel so confused. I been with my bf for almost 4 years. Just last night we had an argument. He was upset because I didn't sleep over. I had to come back home because my dog has been feeling sick. He started yelling. ...cursing. I tell him to calm down. ..he told me to shut up....then I just stay quiet. All throughout the car ride...he was yelling, cursing, screaming about how I don't make sense. Meanwhile I'm in the passenger seat holding my tears of anger just looking out the window. Every time I would talk he would talk over me. Then, there's a moment of silence and he proceeds by saying "look I'm sorry if I yelled at you, but you get mlike this". Blaming it on me. He's always like this, I don't recognize him when hes angry. It makes me sick when he acts that way. And now he's completely ignoring me, not calling. ...nothing. ....im clueless. Please help.
i have experienced that one....being blamed afterwards as though I caused the anger...the funny thing is I don't take it to that level with him, mainly because I love and respect him so it wouldn't make any sense...but if I didn't care so much I probably would let the curses fly because it wouldn't matter one way or the other if he got mad,...he may love you and act fine most of the time, but when tempers are lost and vulgar language comes out it's a general sign of disrespect...he doesn't value you as much as you do him...that imbalance will lead to problems always as YOU will be the one forced to settle to appease his temper tantrums, and he probably won't care that you don't get what you want or need, so long as he does...think about it
Ive been with my bf for 3 years now. He comes from an abusive background (his Dad) and when we have a disagreement he explodes like a bomb. He always tells me to shut up, calls me a f*** b**ch, wh**re etc.
He admits to possibly struggling with depressions and promises to get help but never really does it. Last week I got back from a girls holiday only and when we have another disagreement (minor) he told me that I just got back from a holiday where I was acting like a f**** sl*t and f***** around (so not true, I was in touch with him everyday, telling him how much I missed him).
The next day he spoke to me like nothing happened so I obviously was still upset about his harsh words and expected at least an apology! How wrong of me to be waiting for one! He said he had nothing to apologise for and that I was being a dick.
That starting doing nice things and 2 days later I started to believe that this was his way of apologising until this morning when he told me to f*** off again because I voiced my opinion on a piece of furniture.
I can be quite fairy and I hate when people treat me bad, I always stand up for myself but with him I feel trapped?! Why do I always go back to him for more abuse? He can be really sweet but he tells me that I bring the worst out of him? And when I tell him how he hurts me, he says I am too sensitive and need to toughen up. I remember how he once told "treat them mean, keep them keen" Why am I so good at giving advise to girls with a similar problem but can't help myself? The though of not being with him is making me REALLY sad...what's wrong with me? :(
It's been a while since you have posted and I am literally going through the same thing right now. How is your relationship now??
I am divorced and in my 40's. My boyfriend has been very verbally abusive (lately). He has called me a b****, a liar, and a general piece of sh**. He calls my children from my first marriage demons and evil. This has been going on since shortly after Thanksgiving.
He used the excuse of being angry and upset about other things, but I really didn't like it last night when he said my kids were demons. Yes they have anger issues as a result of the divorce, but they are in counseling and getting much better. So now I want to leave him, but he is kind of a control freak and I am afraid now especially after the statement that verbal abuse often is a small shot to physical abuse.
If anyone has any advice on how to leave him behind without rousing his anger, I would greatly appreciate it. My ex-husband was neve like this and actually we treat each other respectfully so I am not sure how to deal with this situation.
Thanks
Hello... I recently ended a relationship with a man that I still love with all my heart. Why? He was verbally abusive... He could be the sweetest man alive when he was not stressed out and when he was sober. Once I kind of flirted with a guy and gave him reasons not to trust me again.... However, nothing happened between that guy and me... Every time we would get upset, we started calling me a w** and a sl** and all kinds of stuff. The point is, no jealousy makes this ok... If he really thought I was all those stuff, we had the right to leave me, I kind of deserve it for flirting... But if He wanted to stay with me I shouldn't tolerate that... Then One day we got really upset he make me cry... I tried to shut my hears off for me not to hear him while he was driving and insulting me... At a point in that flight he thought I would spill something and he told me, that If I did that, I would have to clean it with my mom's, my dad's and my face... Also, one day we had a disagreement and I kind of went running to our room for him not to see me crying and he started calling me to go over to him... I didn't and he said that I needed to learn how to obey... OBEY!!! Once, he told me that my problem was that I thought I own myself... I knew I this was wrong, but because I loved him I stayed in a 3 yrs relationship... Now that I wouldn't go back to him he says he misses me, that I am his soulmate, that he loves me... That he remembers me in everything he does... And he knows he was wrong and he shouldn't have said all the things he said and did... But, the voices in my head... I can still hear him saying all those things...
Fuck these guys! No no no! Run from them girls their out to get you, if it's hard for you to leave them is only because their words have penetrated your self esteem, heart and soul. :( drag yourselfs out this whole, girls they don't love, they just like to feel empowered and the target is fragile women. Fuck them , pray girls. Don't let a bastard crush your character. You will lose everything including the purpose of life :( save yourselfs
I am in a very similar same situation... I never once thought I would EVER be in this situation...It's seriously blows my mind!! I was raised in a good home with loving christian parents, who treated each other with respect and kindness. They had there little disaggreements just like any other couple,but
they never once called each other names, other than saying the other person was being rude or frustrating them when they had a little disagreements.But all in all they had and have a respectful, loving, and healthy 27 year relationship. God was there center. What's funny is that both my momand dad grew up in an abusive homes. My mother's mom was neglectful and an alcohol, and my father's dad was extremely emotionally, verbally, and even physically abusive, and an alcoholic as well. My point is they both grew up in unhealthy abusive homes. But both refused to never allow themselves to be involved with nor abuse others in their realtionship, including their choldren (aka me and my 4 other siblings). They did this by truly giving their lives over to God and submitting to his will. Jesus changed everything!My dad has now been a minister and a Christian pastor for the past 28 years. In the end, what held them together through major life stressor was Jesus Christ.So any man who blames his out of control temper and abusive behaviors on his past or even women who make excuses for his horribly wrong bahavior on his upbringing are choosing to be ignorant.Of course children learn by example and what they have seen while growing up and will have more tendicies to mimic this abusive cycle, however BEHAVIOR IS A CHOICE!!! They chose to lose themselves to their temper, do be disrespectful, to degrade you, call you names, and to lay their hands on you. It's not tha they can not help it, I assure you they can! But by continueing to accept this abuse is in essence, reinforcing their horrible and unnacceptable bahavior. No matter how har you try you cannot change anyone! They have to want to change themselves. All you can do for that person is play for them and insist they get help and lots of repeated couseling. Change is a choice that happens over time, not over night.
With me growing up in a healthy home, it's very strange to admit that I myself have been in an abusive realtionship. Although I know I am physically very beautiful, I have struggled with extreme self exteem issues, low self worth, eating disorders, and depression my whole life (20 years)
which I believe were in part due to sexual abusive I recieved as a child. My parents never knew and still do not. What started out with subtle manipulation and control, turned to my boyfriend yelling and screaming at me at the top of his lungs, and even cursing at me when he was angered, to over-riding me whenever I tried to respond to his allegations and accusations, to refusing to apologize when he was clearly wrong and always blaming other (me) for anything and everything. His extreme self esteem issues led to to become extremely jealous of other guys, activities that took his time away from him, and even my female best friends, and all the male attention I received made him crazy. He blamed me when guys came up and hit on me. He forbid me to hang out with any male friends even though I am in love with him and would never even consider cheating on him or anyone for that matter... Finally although I thought it never would come to this, one night we got into an intense fight and when I tried to leave to blocked my way, and repeateldly shoved and pushed me when i tried to get past him. He would shove me so hard I would fly across the room, he held me down on the bed and restrained me while i tried to get up and even snatched my phone away so I couldnt call anyone to come pick me up. He refused to give it back and shoved me when I tried to get it. When my hair got caught inbetween our hands fighting for the phone, he didnt let go. He rather pull my hair then give me my phone back. After that night I was forced to realize the blatant truth. I am in an abusive relationship. I refused to talk to him for about a week, he apologized profusely, cried, and even begged. Against better judgment, instead of leaving right them like I said I would, I gave him a second and final chance by giving him an ultimatum, get help or I'm gone. Since then he is in repeated theapy and couseling every week and in addition is taking anger managment classes. Although I know it will completely break my heart to leave him, I finally realize now that although I love him, NO realitionship or amount of love I have for him is worth abuse. I have also to come realize that time truly does heal things. So although it will probably be the hardest thing I will ever have to do, I know I can and will end it if my boyfriend is unable to truly change. I know that is not God's plan for my life. I also know if I had been following God in the beginning, I would have never gotten involved with Eric in the first place. However he has made some huge steps to change by spending alot of money and time to get help so I know he truly does love, that is definitely a step. However, if despite this extemely merciful second chance and opportunity I have given him he fails to truly change, I know now that with God's help I will have the strength to leave him. After all I am a beautiful and intellegent young women and deserve to be treated as such. God has someone out there for me, who will love and protect me and never harm me. If Eric can't become that man, God has the right one for me. Right now I realy need to get my heart right with God, and am praying that God will save my Eric as well..I am going to take my realtionship with Eric as either a way to relate to and help others in the same situation after I leave him, or as a testimony of how God's love can change anyone and any situation.Either way, I am choosing to take a poitve from a negative. It's in God's hands now.
All of you are wonderful people. Keep giving advice..... You never know who is reading it. You have empowered me to leave a relationship that has left me horribly broken for 2 years. Please continue to give others strength. I sincerely thank you all.
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Despite ending things with my boyfriend during the summer, I still feel guilty & part of me misses him; but reading these comments makes me feel that it may have been the right thing. The red flags were there from literally the first date & I chose to ignore them which was such a mistake. From the way he spoke aggressively to waitresses, female drivers who he screamed 'f***ing whore' at, colleagues who he referred to as 'f***ing p*akki whores' and business owners he made sales calls to who contacted his company & lodged complaints about his agressive behaviour. He treated me like a princess but months later he revealed he had got so angry with an ex that he smashed their whole flat up & had to attack her in self-defence. One day after nudging him awake to switch off his alarm he flipped. Started screaming at me that he hated me, I was a selfish bitch, I was a f***ing c***, to get my shit out of his f***ing house, it was my fault he was so angry, it was the only way to get through to me and that I was just like his ex (the one who he ended up hitting). All the time I was sobbing & he was storming around the flat. He
then calmy told me to get ready as we were going to spend the day with his parents & that he didn't want me there but his parents liked me so we had to go & put on an act. The whole day was awful as it was our one yr anniversary & I felt miserable as I forced a smile, pretended everything was great & basically threaded on egg shells so as not to make him cross. But... despite my best efforts he read a text I sent a friend saying I was bored watching football & went mad. Stormed out the bar shouting at me & calling me a c*** in front of his mother. When we got back to the flat he got me in the bedroom & called me a c*** some more & got in my face prodding me with his fingers. I was embarrassed & upset but had to come out the room & sit there with his mother & smile. To cut a long story short, another incident happened after he was on a come down from doing coke & he screamed at me that I was a f***ing bitch & to go f*** myself & stormed out the room slamming the door. Five mins later & I was sat at the dining table with his whole family again willing myself not to cry while he was completely normal. There & them I saw my life flash in front of me: this was what my life was going to be- crazy reactions for the littlest thing & always treading on egg shells. Also, if we ever had children they would witness him talking to me in that way.
He spent weeks begging me back & we agreed to have time apart for him to work on his anger issues & what I considered a drug habit. When he realised I wasn't going to be a pushover he went & got a 21 yr girlfriend (16yrs his junior & 13 yrs younger than me. Makes me realise that he needs somebody he can control & that you should never ignore the red flags at the beginning of a relationship. After we split I felt very depressed & lost lots of weight & couldn't work. Think it was after a year of finally letting the niggling thought that violence was on its way go & actually talking about it to people as was always embarrassed to admit what he was like.
Sad to be single, but probably better than taking the risk of finding out how things could have ended.
OMG! These many comments. Today this same thing happened to me. My boy friend texted me as b**ch. No heart to talk to him after that. These guys should be chucked off. I was truly in love with him and loved him more than he could love me back. That's why we girls should not love others so much and should not be very frank with them. The result is this. Get off all idiotic guys. I love him still. I don't know what should I do now. Getting tears while typing. This is how he understands me as a result. That's cool. Gonna stay single as much as I can.
It's so good to know that although I may be up shit creek, at least I'm not alone. I just broke up with my boyfriend of two and a half years, and I feel awful. For the most part, our relationship was wonderful. He was always there when I needed him, and was the epitome of chivalry, which is rare nowadays. He would always pick up the phone when I needed to talk, even at odd hours of the morning. He opened car doors for me and insisted I take his jacket when I was cold. He encouraged me to do well academically and cheered me up during bouts of low self esteem. Once at the beginning of our relationship, I had to be taken to the Emergency Room at 2 AM for an extremely high fever, and he met me there and held my hand while i received intraveinous antibiotics. We loved each other deeply and powerfully, and I'm so scared that I'll never get over him.
He was perfect in many ways, but had a deal-breaking temper. I don't even remember when the fighting started. All I know is that he becomes a different person when he's angry, and he also brings out the worst in me. For a year and a half of our relationship, every time we fought he became aloof, unsympathetic, and cold. He would look at me and remorselessly call me names like "stupid bitch", "pathetic", "selfish"...I don't remember the cause of most of our fights but I will always remember the names. Recently, we had a fight after a long period of happy, misleading normalcy.
He had been snapping at me all day, so after awhile, I snapped back. He gave me a disgusted look and left the room without saying anything. I waited a few minutes and then tried to talk to him. He refused to acknowledge my point of view and was livid that I snapped at him, although he had been doing the same to me all day. He told me that he didn't want to see my face, and yelled at me to get out of his sight. I left the room in tears and started sobbing in another room. I wanted him to comfort me so badly. I wanted us to be friends again. Instead, he said, "Stop your little pity party, no one is coming to hug you." I couldn't believe such harsh words could come from someone who is supposed to love and respect me. We have a history of fights that follow along these lines, and after each one he promises to work on his fighting style, but never does. As a last effort, I went to him and told him that I thought our relationship was falling apart. I'm no angel, and I played my part by kicking something in his room (a painting that I had done for him one Valentine's day), and I even punched him in the arm and scratched him with my nails later on in the fight. But how he reacted to me kicking the painting scared the shit out of me. Although he never hit me, he used intimidation tactics and name calling as weapons. He hovered over me and yelled until I was so frightened, I started to hyperventilate. He took my phone so I couldn't call anyone to pick me up, then he laughed as I tried to grab it back, sobbing. He hurled a number of abuses at me, calling me pathetic, slutty, stupid, etc. At one point while he was driving me home, I accidentally changed the gear and he called me a "stupid cunt." He told me I was breaking up with him because I wanted to fuck everyone.
When it finally hit him that this was the last straw and I was really, truly leaving him, he became extremely remorseful, promising to do anything to have me back. He promised to take anger management classes. He was physically abused as a child, and I know that's where his temper problems come from. Right now I feel alone and incredibly sad, but I know I made the right decision. I was torn between empathizing with him and helping him conquer his anger, and doing what is right for me. After a year and a half of empty promises to change, I realized that it is incredibly difficult to produce lasting change in a person. I know that his problem is not entirely his fault, and I wish that he didn't have to deal with it. However, in reality it was a very real problem that was dragging my spirits down and if he's not committed to change, then I can't be committed to him at all.
In the first two weeks of mine and my boyfriend's relationship, he starts to cuss me out saying I'm a bitch and that I'm an up-tight asshole. I kept warning him that if he doesn't stop with the anger issues and the dramatic random outbursts that I'm leaving him. Plain and simple. So, he stopped calling me those names until one of my old ex boyfriends pops back up into the picture talking a lot of stuff so that my boyfriend can break up with me but, this isn't an ordinary ex. This was the abusive ex boyfriend that would do anything to hurt me and my love life. One night my boyfriend knocks on my door with his face all cut up and he had a black eye which looked like a ripe plum from my ex boyfriend. He beat the shit out of him but, I couldn't do anything about it besides to help my boyfriend heal. A week since the incident, my boyfriend has been more needy and moody. It feels like every damn day that me and my boyfriend get into fights that involves cussing to the fullest extent to where he makes things up just to have a reason to yell and cuss. I don't know what to do anymore besides to yell and cuss back. I don't want to break up with him either. What should I do?
I AM going through this right now. I get told the meanest things :'( it hurts so much, I don't even cry anymore. I'm numb to it and I can't leave :( I'm scared and stuck. No one understands because I'm to ashamed to tell people what's REALLY going on. He has never hit me but I swear, of he world of punched me, it would if hurt just the same as the words he said to me.
I also just broke up with my boyfriend for the third time and the last time over him cussing at me and saying things about my friends and family. The last straw was a message that he sent to my mother calling her a f***ing a**hole and a B****. I may have let him disrespect me but I forbid anyone disrespecting my mom. And that is sad that I let him disrespect me in the first place when I took him and his children into my home for three months when he had no job, no car and no license. I look back on it now and I wonder what the heck was I thinking. I do not deserve to be abused and used this way. Yes I think self esteem has a lot to do with this.
I should have seen the red flags and there was a lot of them which I chose to ignore. All I can do is forgive myself for bringing him into my life and lesson learned. It is now spring and I am ready to move ahead in my life without him!!!!! Please remember if someone is treating you badly dont give it a second thought to leave like I did. You will survive, you are strong and there is a whole lot of life to live.
So much of this rings true or me too. My fiancé treated me like a princess In The first year. My daughter and I moved out of state to live with him and it as been the worst year of my life-like a roller coaster. He can be so loving and kind, then so suddenly he gets angry over little things and it blows up. You can almost see smoke coming out of his ears. He finds a reason to be angry with me. Tells me I am a huge mistake. Calls me the worst names you can think of. I cry easily and he hates that. You would expect him to apologize, but he doesn't. Acts like nothing happened and I end up being to one smooth things over. My heart hurts, but my brain tells me that I'm the crazy one for being with him. Just trying to find the strength...
I just ended a relationship with a guy that treated me like this for five years. It was a different cycle, though. He was a drunk when we met, and I could overlook it, until it escalated to him screaming in my face and eventually, hitting me. I called the cops on one occasion, when I had had enough, he went to jail, and then I stupidly took him back. Although he quit drinking and he stopped the physical abuse on me, the verbal abuse increased and he began taking his frustration out on whatever was in his path, doors, laundry baskets, ashtrays, etc. He would throw or punch or kick whatever across the room. Last incident before I left, he ripped the mailbox off the side of our house and mocked me for having been sexually harassed by a male co-worker. I think this man has a personality disorder, anger issues, abandonment issues, but that's not my problem now. I finally said F it and left. I will not be in a relationship with anyone who does not love me as I love myself, that's it. And I'm glad that I finally got the courage to leave this man, and know that I didn't cause his problems, they were there for years before we met.
Hi I am so inspired by each individual story on here, it actually makes me stronger to read them all. So as it goes we all have a story, but when it comes to being abused by a man it's all the same story, so it seems. I have been dating a man for almost 3 yrs. I remember when I met him and was around him and his mother for the first time, I listened to the way he spoke to her, which of course was with no respect and he still doesn't. I remember being told that if a man has no respect for his mother then chances are he won't for you. It's so true, to some extent.. So my story is ,we were together for a year then I had gotten pregnant, I now have a child for him, and I have a child from a previous relationship to, he also has two Children from a previous relationship. My oldest child was and still is my world, and my new baby fis to. After my baby was born, the baby for the man I am with now He was in the hospital for 4 mths, during this time I was grieving the loss of my other baby for he was a twin. While in the hospital I remember my boyfriend and I getting into a fight and I spoke my opinion , I am a strong woman , always was, but not nearly as strong as I use to be, I told him to leave, he pinnede down on the bed and bit my face,then he told me Imshouldnt of had my mouth going. He has broken my computers, cameras, my kitchen tables, and when we fight he calls me a no good for nothing cunt , a Cracker Jack , a bitch, tramp tell me to shut the fuck up, that I do this to him, tells me if I dont shut the fuck up that he will strangle me. Then after the fight is over he expects me to forgive him and tells me he doesn't mean what he says and that if I didn't have my mouth going then he wouldn't say those things. I'm not stupid that's for sure, I have a college degree, and many trades behind me, he himself has no education, but we have our own business and he makes very good money, but money isn't everything , and I don't and will never need a mans money. I left him already for 5 wks an took him back, the problem is, is that I am so physically attracted to this man and I do love him, but I also know what its like to be with a man without any abuse, I am in my mid 30's and have my experience, but That it makes it hard, he does have a good personality, but he is just a dick to me when it's not his way. I just wonder would he ever really strangle me? It confuses my, I have never been in a abusive relationship before and just looking for some help for anyone and everyone here. Btw we don't fight very often, but when we do that is what I dealt with and do deal with..
I need advice. my boyfriend&I have been together for two years now...and he has a temper problem..everytime i make him mad he yells at me and calls me names and walks out or hangs up on me...then will always apologize...if the fight was over the phone he will either call later and apologize...hang up and call me in the morning and act like nothing happened...when we are in person he always apologizes...he has never physically harmed me...but i have made him mad to where he punched the side of his car...he says my tone sets him off all the time.....which i dont believe because he has a temper everyday and the littlest things set him off....if i dont remember something and ask him a second or third time he screams at me.....his parents were in a car accident when he was little so he has been living with his aunt and uncle ever since he was 6 months old..i dont know if this has anything to do with his temper though....he also has a past drug addiction...also his mother is very controlling about EVERYTHING and i see the look on his face when she yells at him...he is sensitive but not as sensitive as me to where he cries like me...anyways..i feel like he tries to be like his mother in our relationship and yells at me...almost as if he thinks relationships work like that...his mother has been very rude to me also...telling us that her relationship is perfect and that we need to get a grip of ourselves.. what should i do...?
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First of all i want to thank kristina for the post she made on how dr khakani helped her in bringing back her lover before christmas. At first when i saw the posting i was so happy and in the other hand so scared,That this might not be real, Then i decided to give it a try in which i contacted dr khakani and told him how my lover left me for another lady for the past 3years and i have been lonely and depressed without him,So i told him if he has helped anyone called kristina and he said yes, that was the lady he helped in bringing back her lover before christmas.i said good and i told him that if he can help me in bringing back my own lover,He laughed and said once i have contacted him that my problem will be solved.He said that my lover will be back to me within 24hours and do an unexpected thing for me. i said really, Truly when the 24hours was completed i got a text from someone saying am sorry then i decided to call the number i saw it was my lover Steve voice.i was so happy he was begging me on phone, That he is ready to do anything that will make me happy in life,So i told him to come over which he did,As he was coming he came with a brand new Car as gift I was so happy and made me had access to his account to prove to me that he is not going to leave me for another lady,Am so happy today and am also thanking kristina for posting this early. Dr khakani you are truly a man of your word. He can also make a barren woman get pregnant and have her own child, he can cure cancer, diabetes or any kind of disease or sickness and solve any kind of problems in this world. Friends you can contact dr khakani on his private khakanibestsolutioncentre12@gmail.com or cell number +2348062216903.
First of all i want to thank kristina for the post she made on how dr khakani helped her in bringing back her lover before christmas. At first when i saw the posting i was so happy and in the other hand so scared,That this might not be real, Then i decided to give it a try in which i contacted dr khakani and told him how my lover left me for another lady for the past 3years and i have been lonely and depressed without him,So i told him if he has helped anyone called kristina and he said yes, that was the lady he helped in bringing back her lover before christmas.i said good and i told him that if he can help me in bringing back my own lover,He laughed and said once i have contacted him that my problem will be solved.He said that my lover will be back to me within 24hours and do an unexpected thing for me. i said really, Truly when the 24hours was completed i got a text from someone saying am sorry then i decided to call the number i saw it was my lover Steve voice.i was so happy he was begging me on phone, That he is ready to do anything that will make me happy in life,So i told him to come over which he did,As he was coming he came with a brand new Car as gift I was so happy and made me had access to his account to prove to me that he is not going to leave me for another lady,Am so happy today and am also thanking kristina for posting this early. Dr khakani you are truly a man of your word. He can also make a barren woman get pregnant and have her own child, he can cure cancer, diabetes or any kind of disease or sickness and solve any kind of problems in this world. Friends you can contact dr khakani on his private khakanibestsolutioncentre12@gmail.com or cell number +2348062216903.