Sometimes a guy can't win: he doesn't pack any rubbers, he's reckless. He comes bearing a box or two, and he's presumptuous. But the truth is: it's the responsibility of both sexes to be armed with prophylactics. And this isn't a social nicety. It's in your self-interest to make sure you're practicing safe sex after pants come off, panties drop, and sheets are torn up.
The great thing about condoms is they are slim, small, and discrete. Carrying them around in your wallet, brodawgs, is a fast way to deteriorate the latex and compromise their strength. However, they are totally pocket size. And ladies, they take up no room in your purse or handbag. It's 2009, for the love of Zeus. I fully endorse everyone getting laid: it's fun, stress relieving, and really opens the pores. But in the pursuit of blessed nekkidness, it is necessary that both men and women ensure that any and all naughty genital slapping is safe.
In a relationship, I think it's more than fair that both parties split the cost of birth control. Be that birth control condoms OR the pill. This isn't about gender, it's about common decent courtesy. Nobody wants testicle weevils, vaginal ouchies, or unexpected love spawn.
The only way to be truly safe is fire. Cleansing, ravishing fire. That's why I soak all my condoms in lighter fluid the night before. They love the smell, too!
and the taste...
If I had really huge/perky boobs & deep cleavage I would totally store condoms there. I just think it would be AWESOME to be wearing a hot, strapless red satin dress, & in the throws of passion, pull one out of there. Other things I'd store "in there" if I had fabulously big ones: a smoke, compact mirror, tube of lipstick, my cell phone (LOL), etc.
Yeah.... I have to admit one of the most useful things of a big rack is that it can act as a RACK. When I bike at night, I actually do keep my apt key, cell phone, and ID in my bra. And definitely for a night on the town, keeping some cash and ID tucked away is much easier than hanging onto a clutch all night (as much as I love clutches, dancing just isn't as much fun when you have to hold them).
Faith! I'm so jealous of you!
Oh please don't be! I am sure you are beautiful and "in the throws of passion" no guy really cares where that condom came from ;-) Seriously though, big boobs are also a DRAG. I'm already mentally calculating how I can put aside money for a breast lift. ;-) Of course it's nice, but it can also be hard to assess men's genuine interest: in me or my girls. Sure it can be both but I like knowing my man liked me first for my personality, smile, or wit, and not because I have big fun bags for him to ogle.
I'm always amazed how many women don't keep condoms handy - nightstand, gym bag, suitcase - whatever. It's part of being personally responsible. Keeping yourself safe (and ready for fun!) is the #1 priority in a healthy, sane sex life.
Or insane. I don't judge.
Also - learn to put them on right (fun!) and check for expiration dates - if it's not yours you don't know how long he's had it.
I'll admit, I think it should be the man's responsibility earlier in the relationship to buy condoms. I do my part by being on birth control, and that's more expensive then a big box of condoms. So he can bring those.
And yes, I agree big boobs are so great for storing things! I keep my cellphone, cigarettes, lip glosses, etc in there all the time.
My question has always been this: What if I have condoms on hand but they're a kind he doesn't like? Or he's allergic to them? What's a good "middle of the road" rubber to keep around????
I make my guy buy them in bulk. Mainly because he has more money than me.
I think that if you're being responsible and don't want to get pregnant, you should be taking birth control and carrying around at least one condom.
I also believe guys should carry around condoms, too, but societal standards make it so that it'd be really awkward for him to be carrying around a purse like we do.
In my mind, a girl not carrying around condoms gives the idea that she doesn't mind if the guy doesn't have one either... and that it's okay to go without protection. Personal responsibility is a trait modern women should flaunt!
On the note of personal responsibility, please keep in mind that condoms are not 100%. So, yes, safer, but not truly "safe". Still best to insist on STD testing and be as monogamous as possible. The less change, the less chance on getting a life altering (or killing) disease.
1. the cost of birth control is much less than that of rearing a child
2. If you can't frankly discuss birth control you don't know each other well enough to have sex.
3. Heat degrades condoms so wallet or glove compartment are not a good idea.
4. even if you believe you only have sex with one person, STD testing is a great idea, your partner may not be faithful ~ you can do the math.
5. thanks for listening to my thoughts.