Who IS ready for a baby?
That's really the thing, I've never met a parent, male or female, who was remotely ready for having a kid. Much like swimming, it's one thing to read about doing it and another thing entirely to actually jump into the pool.
I will say that men do not have the constant drum beat of "Have children have children" society pounds into women, so women are arguably prepared somewhat more by virtue of exposure.
Either way, though, nobody's ready. Some are just slightly better equipped.
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Well, babies will not be babies forever, will they? Therefore, being ready to have babies is being ready to have a lifetime responsibility which can frighten both women and men. It is in our nature to be ready for babies, our body prepares us for that every month, but men don't go through those things. Plus, guys are not pressured by family memebers or society telling them it's getting to late to become a parent so they don't feel they have to rush like we do.
However, saying men are NEVER ready to have babies is a little drastic. Many of my guy friends feel ready to become a parent but they haven't met the right girl yet, others don't feel economically stable and some of them already have children. I think for men it's a matter of timing and finding the right woman. But some women are really, really, really desperate to have babies and they see a potential candidate to be their babies' father everywhere they go.
haha guys do get pressure to have kids, especially if the mom only has sons. My aunts, my female cousins, and my mom still ask me when will I have a kid of my own. I just tell them the wife no can do, that one child only policy, you know. I mean, what the heck, my mom got a stepdaughter, that should be good enough lol.
Lol, of course that should do! It's kind of like the same thing, isn't it?
You're right, some moms do pressure their sons, but I still believe people put a lot more pressure on women than on men. Don't you think? The whole age issue and stuff like..."you're not getting any younger girl", "the older you get, the harder it'd be to get pregnant" and these sort of things...
well, my mom, though she does adore my stepdaughter, still wants a grandkid that's related to her haha. And since my wife is not in China anymore, mom's not buying my One Child Policy excuse, darn.
Anyway...I agree on the whole, women probably do get more pressure. Which is not to say, it's that much easier on guys. I have no sisters, some of my friends don't have sisters, and we get (or had gotten - some of my friends do have kids now lol) quite a bit of pressure. The old "when will you settle down with a nice girl and start a family?!". But with friends with sisters, they did get less pressure, and the sister(s) got more pressure, so I agree.