BECAUSE YOU SAID NOTHING WAS WRONG! Sorry, I'm just used to screaming that; hard to break old habits. The situation you're describing is the basis of like 80% of stand-up comedy, and it's not changing anytime soon.
Women want us to know what they're thinking. We don't, because the most complex our emotional interactions get is giving our buddy a pat on the back after he eats a whole thing of nachos, and chaos ensues.
It's a gross oversimplification, but as your question proves, is clearly still in play for many couples. It's a communications disconnect, and it can lead to many a frustrating mess. I'm not sure there's a good solution other than building a relationship strong enough to weather the occasional storm.
And let's be honest: sometimes you want us to follow you, and sometimes you genuinely want us to screw off. And guess what? Your facial expression is identical in either case. Yes, we know something's wrong, but we have no clue what to do to fix it, especially when our perspective is warped by our own strong feelings (yep, we have those too).
So my advice would be to make like the misanthropic mountain-climbers and give each other a lot of slack.